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Rekindle the Dream

Thursday, April 10th, 2014

You’re thinking of all of the things you have to do. And for a while that’s all you are doing——thinking rather than doing. Quite often, you exaggerate the complexity of what it is you have to do. If you actually sat down and began working on your project you could get it done even though you are not sure where to begin. But you begin, by beginning. For example until I sat down and started writing this blog I wasn’t sure what I wanted to say. I wasn’t sure where I was going. Now that I am actually doing it I see a direction.

And that’s the way it is with many things in life. Until you actually begin the journey you won’t know where the path that leads you to the magic garden will be. You might not even realize that there is such a path. It’s amazing once you begin, the possibilities that exist.

As you become more present to what’s in front of you and all around you, you will be better able to recognize the opportunities that are presented to you.

Sometimes it’s a matter of creating your own path. Be the innovator and be willing to think out of the box. Becoming a master thinker and creator is a great asset. But you also have to take action.

So here’s your part. Be bold. You once had a dream for you life. What is that dream that you have put on the back burner. After you have identified that dream that’s been on the back burner, what is one action step you can take that help you realize your dream or at least move you in the right direction? When will you take that step? And who is going to hold you accountable for moving forward?
What a worthy adventure we are on. Our job is to enjoy it, to be ethical and to live life fully.

Journey On

Mark

Please join me with my cohost Ralph Marston on the Journey On radio show. blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Today is the First Day of the Rest of your Life

Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

It was years ago, while visiting a friend, that i first heard this remark. I was in my twenties at the time, confused and in transition, and my friend seemed so mystical. It seems in one way or the other, we are always in transition.

“Today is the first day of the rest of your life,” was what she said. I’ll never forget that meeting. So make your life what you want it to be. Move forward. Don’t dwell on went wrong. Remember none of us are perfect.

But in that first day, it’s essential that we take that first step. Perhaps it’s the most difficult one. Then we take another one and soon we get a sense of where we are going.

But its that first one. We are so concerned about making mistakes that we hesitate and over analyze. In our minds we picture every possible scenario. Before beginning we look for the guarantee that our actions will be rewarded.

As we know there are no guarantees in life. But we can perform our due diligence to ascertain whether the next step is a wise move for ourselves, but there is always going to be some risk. As some point we have to trust and take that next step. Jump in the river, you are going to get wet anyway.

So become comfortable with not knowing, and be curious about what’s next.

Enjoy the Adventure,

Mark

Join Mark and his cohost Ralph Marston for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Be Curious about What’s Next.

Saturday, September 21st, 2013

There is an invisible web beyond space and time that connects more than we realize. While many seemingly random events do seem to fit together from different periods of our lives, there are just no explanations for many things that have occurred. They just happen. The many mysteries and miracles that have preceded us can’t be explained in words. The universe has existed for billions of years. Relatively speaking, we are just here for a short time.

While we are here, we try to make sense of it. We learn from each other and from all of our experiences. There is a tendency in most of us, if not all of us, to try to come up with answers for everything that happens in our life. So we make stuff up such as, “Life sucks; What should I have expected.” Of course we can choose to adopt a more positive scenario. “What a beautiful day. Life is good.” We don’t need to have an explanation or answer for everything. It’s okay not to know. In fact that’s when the fun begins. If we always knew the answer or what was next, life would get boring.

So become comfortable with not knowing, and be curious about what’s next.

Enjoy the Journey,

Mark

Join Mark and his cohost Ralph Marston for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Begin it Now

Monday, March 4th, 2013

Many coaching clients, with whom I work today in my life coaching practice look for the perfect time to begin something new, including the coaching relationship. They think that something will change to get them  ready, but it doesn’t work that way. There’s always going to be a reason to stay in our comfort zones and to remain on the sidelines.  It might be a new job, a new relationship or a new activity. We are never going to totally figure out what might happen in the future, let alone tomorrow.  We are never going to fully realize what’s possible until we begin. For some of us, the results could easily exceed our expectations. Imagine what it would be like if your life consistently exceeded your expectations.

There are no guarantees in life. No matter what we do, there is an element of risk. While we are living, life happens. Yes, we might be disappointed and discouraged at times (who isn’t) but if we don’t life life fully we’ll miss out on what makes our life worth living.

Living life fully involves embracing uncertainty and transforming our relationship to it. I have learned to accept the unknown as my friend, rather than a dark place to avoid. I don’t know what will happen further downstream, but I’m curious to find out. Sure you might have anxiety before beginning something new, but you’ll get over it quickly.

On many levels, the benefits from breaking your routines and patterns by taking on something new keep unfolding, even many years later. You’ll see life from a different perspective. Every new endeavor changes your perspective and how you see the world. For example learning to dance will give you an ability to see subtleties in the way someone moves that most of us wouldn’t notice.  You see and hear rhythms. By taking a cooking class you begin to notice what ingredients go into the food you eat. And by exercising you notice people who seem fit. You begin to notice how good it feels when you are fit. Whatever you are thinking about beginning, begin it now.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

THE BIRTHDAY CARD

Wednesday, December 5th, 2012

I got the invitation. It was an invitation to one of those birthday celebrations that signify that you are embarking upon a new era. This symbol is easily recognized by the zero after the first digit. I remember when 21 was the big one to celebrate. It meant that you were legal which gave you new found freedom. Then it was changed so that 18 was legal and you could experience the new found freedom that you didn’t know that you had. Sometimes we wait too long.

Then I hit 30. From that point on the birthdays with the zero as the second digit became more significant. They became a time for reflection. Where am I in my life? What have I accomplished? What am I most proud of? In what areas of my life am I disappointed or struggling.

No matter what we are doing or what phase we are currently experiencing in our life’s journey, our challenge is to get on the positive side of change. With that in mind, what changes do we need to make, if we want to experience our life as an exciting journey of discovery? How can we make our life more of a celebration? What can we do to let more joy in?

This has led me to celebrating with friends each new birthday, especially the ones with the zeroes as the second digit. A few years ago I got a great card for one of my birthdays. It was the perfect card for where I was at that time in my life. It was what I needed to be reminded of at that moment.

From that moment on, I was inspired to look for the perfect card for each person with whom I was invited to celebrate. This practice has become a ritual that I look forward to. There is a magic in this process. It puts my attention on the greatness that I see in the other person. It also gets me in touch with the greatness that I see in myself.

I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re wondering what card I chose….here it is..

“I would rather have a mind opened by Wonder than one closed by Belief.”

STAY CURIOUS AND ENJOY THE JOURNEY

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

LEARN TO LOVE THE LOOSE ENDS

Wednesday, October 31st, 2012

In a life coaching yesterday, Carl, like many others, complained about not having enough time. He acted as if it was a rare commodity. He complained about his commute, the different responsibilities that he had and how his life was slipping away. Carl was hoping that someday he could do what he wanted. He longed for the day when he could be peaceful, happy and loving. Of course that day was sometime in the future when he would be retired which might be ten years from now.

I explained to Carl if what he valued and wanted was peace, love and happiness that he didn’t have to wait. As I’ve written before on numerous occasions, the only perfect time is now. Now is the time to be the person you want to be. Yes I mean right now. I know that you have a few loose ends…maybe more than a few…I have them too.

Learn to love those loose ends——they help you grow. Aren’t loose ends really that edge between where you are now and where you want to be. Right now I’m studying the piano. There is always something new to learn. No matter how accomplished I become, there will always be something new to learn. Yes at times it seems frustrating and overwhelming, but I break it down knowing that by working on it today I’ll be better than I was yesterday. In the process it helps me get on the positive side of change.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

MOVING BEYOND DISAPPOINTMENT

Sunday, August 5th, 2012

I don’t know anyone who hasn’t been disappointed at times. That’s part of life’s journey. In the scope of things some disappointments seem more significant than others. Unless we learn to deal with disappointment, we’ll even obsess over little things. And when we do that, in the big picture, even little things become major obstacles.

Each of us has a strategy that we use to handle these moments. Quite often when we’re disappointed we’ll blame a person, a particular situation or life in general. We become angry or resentful. We might even tend to withdraw from participating in life.

We act as if we are a victim of life and feel sorry for ourselves. Having a “pity party” won’t accomplish anything except keep us stuck.

The next time you feel disappointed, ask yourself what you’ve learned from the situation. Ask yourself, how has what occurred made me a stronger and wiser person.

When you step back and reflect upon what has happened, you realize you have a choice. You can focus on the positive possibilities in the present or the shortcomings of the past.

Choose to renew your commitment to continue on the journey. Deepen your focus. Focus on where you want to go and why you want to go there. Take a positive step in that direction with a renewed sense of purpose.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

THE NEW ‘YOU’ IS ALIVE AND WELL

Monday, June 18th, 2012

Perhaps you have a vision of the life you want to live. You’re not quite there yet. In fact, in your mind it doesn’t seem possible, so you go on with your life learning to be comfortable with what is. In one sense, it’s not a bad strategy—you’re not disappointed or too discouraged, but what is missing is the passion and zest for living.

You don’t want to go on that way any longer. So you decide to do something about it; perhaps as in my situation, you make a career change.

You’re out of your comfort zone exploring new territory——new rules, new people and new information that you’re not sure about. Perhaps you question your decision, maybe more than just a few times.

But for the first time in a while you’re excited You extend yourself and try new things and some work. Some don’t. Even so in every step you’re closer to defining what it is you’re trying to accomplish. You feel engaged, although your progress seems slower than you would like.
You’re exploring that edge. It keeps expanding.

You’re able to see the big picture. You have to start somewhere. A year goes by and you look back. You’ve made progress. You’ve actually accomplished more than you realized.

Yet you still feel discouraged at times. But then you remind yourself why you began this journey. You realize that you are actually living that life, perhaps not on the level you would like it to be.

Another year goes by. You realize that you’re doing it. What was once a dream is now your reality. You’re a player in the new arena.
You have reinvented yourself. The ‘new’ you is alive and well.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

CREATING THE MOMENTUM TO MOVE FORWARD

Monday, May 14th, 2012

There is always that balance between learning something new and enjoying the process of learning. It takes, effort, focus and commitment. Sometimes we feel energized while at others we feel drained.

In the initial phases of the learning process, we might be excited; “I’m going to get into dancing,” we think to ourselves. So we start going to classes and it’s harder than we thought. We do make some progress, but when we look around the room we don’t feel very graceful. We seem to never get “there” and then one day we stop. At some point the process repeats itself with something different. We never quite get to the elusive “there.”

In the initial phase of whatever you were learning, you would have been happy to get to the place where you were before you stopped. Rather than focusing on how difficult it’s been and how difficult progress will be in the future, rejoice in what you have accomplished. Cherish the moment. Be mindful of it.

The momentum to move forward comes from recognizing how much you achieved up to now. Let’s say you’ve been at it for six months. Think about where you were in the beginning. Imagine where you will be six months from now and what you will have to do to get there. If you keep at it, most likely you’ll surpass your expectations.

To move forward, it is essential to enjoy where you are now. Enjoy that place, enjoy that moment and enjoy the journey.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes. Give yourself the gift of coaching and make an investment in your future.

BE A DREAMER

Thursday, May 3rd, 2012

You think you know what you want to do. But there always seems to be a reason that you don’t begin. Don’t let the perceived obstacles and difficulties stop you. To get yourself successfully through them, make sure you have a strong compelling reason for choosing that path.

When your purpose truly resonates with you, you will find a way to get there. Use your imagination to help you develop a clear mental picture of what it would be like to live that reality.

I’ve been called a dreamer before. I have an active imagination. On more than a few occasions, I’ve visualized what it would be like to live in a certain way. Of course being a trial lawyer was one of those scenarios that I only imagined when I was much younger. There were many others, some of which became my reality. I imagined what it would like to live the life of a rock star. I thought about what it would be like to be a successful seminar leader. And at some point being a successful author entered the equation. The image in my mind always preceded the journey.

Regardless of the path you choose, it will have its share of obstacles and challenges. To transcend them, it’s important to become clear why it’s important for you to get from here to there.

When I was still in law school, it became clear to me that I wanted to be a criminal lawyer. I wanted to represent those who didn’t have a voice. When I began my career, there very few job opportunities in that field, so my choices were limited. Because I had a burning desire to go in that direction, I did what it took to make it work for many years, until one day I felt that the dream had run its course. I was a ready for a new dream and there have been many more since that time.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes. Give yourself the gift of coaching and make an investment in your future.


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