Like most people I’m sure you hear that voice—the voice of judgment, the inner critic that keeps repeating some version of the theme that you’re not good enough, or it won’t work. I think of this voice as your VOJ.
You would give almost anything to silence it. At times it feels like a hypnotic spell has been cast upon you.
The good news is that you can break the spell by starting your day differently. What I discovered and keep coming back to, is that how you start your day sets the tone for the rest of the day!
If you start your day in a hurry, most likely you will be in a hurry all day long. If you begin your day being centered, you will better able to handle what comes up. Sure there will be those moments, but they won’t throw you or if they do, not for as long.
Integrate the following practice into your life. When you first wake up in the morning, sit for five or ten minutes in silence and then slowly focus on what you are grateful for. This practice shifts your focus from what isn’t working and what you don’t like about your life, to what is working and what you do like. This simple practice goes a long way toward breaking the hypnotic habit of negative thinking. If you don’t break the habit, before you know it, you begin imagining worse case scenarios.
The sooner you can recognize your voice of judgment that in coaching we refer to as your gremlin, the sooner you can move beyond it. Perhaps counterintuitive, all you have to do is to notice. That’s it. What helps is to give it a name so that you’re somewhat detached from the feeling. I call my gremlin Ralph. This simple practice of just noticing is profound. Don’t judge it. Don’t beat yourself up. Just notice it and then say, “Next.” Try it for 30 days and see what happens.
This practice is a great first step to becoming a more positive person. Consistent positive thinking, not only changes your outlook on life, but it also empowers you to see opportunities that previously you would not have looked at. And more importantly life seems less stressful.
If you are curious to find out how I can make a difference in your life both personally and professionally i invite you to contact me at 415.453.5016 or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I also design programs and trainings that support organizations in creating a more fulfilling and productive culture. http://www.inspirepossibility.com.
“At times our own light goes out, and is reignited by the spark of another person.”
Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.