goals

Enjoy the Journey of Getting There

Friday, December 4th, 2015

In my many travels, what i’ve observed is that many of us are looking for the next big thing…the aha, the thing that will change our lives—knock our socks off…It might be the dream career, the perfect relationship, the perfect place to live. Or it might be a belief we have: when I get this certification, or this degree, or this or that and the list goes on.

The common denominator: when something occurs in the future, real living will begin. We are so focused on getting there that we overlook the gifts and opportunities presented to us along the way. We miss out on the beauty that’s there for us to feast on. Don’t get me wrong. I think it’s great that you have these lofty goals. But achieving them is just a piece of the picture. Another piece is who you become in the process And perhaps the most important piece is to enjoy the journey of getting there.

I’ve developed a strategy that helps me with enjoying each day of the journey. Yes, I still have those goals i’m working on and want to actualize, but i’m enjoying the process of creation each day. Here’s what I do. Each day after meditation, I wonder about my day and ask myself an empowering question which is, “I wonder what the highlight of my day will be?” The key to making this practice impactful is that there is alway a highlight…it might not hit you over the head….most likely a little thing. But that’s what it’s about—seeing the gift in every step along the way.

JOURNEY ON

“I’m called to inspire others to reignite the spark inside of them that has been dimmed by years of hard work and struggle.”

MARK

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

What is one change you are committed to making?

Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

Think about how you live your day; your thoughts, your habits, the people you interact with. How did you feel afterwards? Were you energized or depleted? Reflecting upon our lives at times is invaluable.

It might be a little thing. I made changing my message on my answering machine into a big deal.I had the same message for two years….just saying that makes me feel like a dinasaur….stuck..resistant to change…and I’m not. I thought about changing my message on at least 100 occasions. And there were countless others who suggested my changing it. It’s amazing the amount of time that went to just thinking about it. And what’s also amazing are the spectrum of emotions that i felt and the reasons I came up with not doing anything. I know this was just a little thing which really wasn’t that important.

I was feeling anxious before making this change and this is from a person who is used to making significant decisions. Did you notice I did say “was”? I just made the change and with playing it back 4 times the whole process took under four minutes.

It seemed so easy and now I am thinking about making this change at least at the beginning of every month. Just think about other areas of your life in which you are reluctant to change. We can be stubborn sometimes, can’t we? But our resistance to change is what holds us back from having a successful and fulfilling life. Life is cyclical and full of changes…just think of the seasons of the year. We either create the changes in our life or we react to them. I know what I want to do and I am sure your preference would be to create the changes you want. But just start with one thing.

Declare yourself. Sometimes we just have to say we are going to do it. Make the commitment. Having someone hold us accountable is a big help.

What is one change that you can make today? Who is going to hold you accountable?

What a worthy adventure we are on. Our job is to enjoy it, to be ethical and to live life fully.

Journey On

Mark

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Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Give yourself Permission to Dream

Thursday, April 18th, 2013

Yes you had a dream at one time. It’s time to begin dreaming again. When you stop dreaming you stop living. Our dreams give us a vision of how we want our  future  to look like.  When we are committed to moving toward the actualization of that dream, we grow and evolve into the person we want to be.  Our dreams give our life meaning.  Our dreams our what brings us alive. Without dreams and goals it’s difficult to find meaning in our lives.

Some of us are skillful and blessed in manifesting these dreams. As we know too well,  not all of our dreams come true. We become disappointed or discouraged at times.

What’s important to remember is that their is tremendous value in just having the dream.  Ask yourself,  who you need to become to actualize your dream?  What must you commit to? What changes are you willing to make? The dream creates an edge for you to expand into. It’s time for a new dream.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

LEARN TO LOVE THE LOOSE ENDS

Wednesday, October 31st, 2012

In a life coaching yesterday, Carl, like many others, complained about not having enough time. He acted as if it was a rare commodity. He complained about his commute, the different responsibilities that he had and how his life was slipping away. Carl was hoping that someday he could do what he wanted. He longed for the day when he could be peaceful, happy and loving. Of course that day was sometime in the future when he would be retired which might be ten years from now.

I explained to Carl if what he valued and wanted was peace, love and happiness that he didn’t have to wait. As I’ve written before on numerous occasions, the only perfect time is now. Now is the time to be the person you want to be. Yes I mean right now. I know that you have a few loose ends…maybe more than a few…I have them too.

Learn to love those loose ends——they help you grow. Aren’t loose ends really that edge between where you are now and where you want to be. Right now I’m studying the piano. There is always something new to learn. No matter how accomplished I become, there will always be something new to learn. Yes at times it seems frustrating and overwhelming, but I break it down knowing that by working on it today I’ll be better than I was yesterday. In the process it helps me get on the positive side of change.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

THE HIDDEN BENEFITS OF GOALS

Wednesday, October 10th, 2012

The future is not some place we are going to, but
one we are creating. The paths are not to be found, but
made, and the activity of making them changes both
the maker and the destination…
—John Schaar

We keep evolving; our work is never done. We think about the inner qualities that we need to work on so that we can become the person we want to be. We think about what we can do to make a difference in the world. We think about what we want to accomplish. We all have goals in one form or the other.

Goals give us a focus and direction. In the early years, getting into law school was a goal, so was becoming an accomplished musician. Meeting my life partner and having a family was another. And there were the many financial goals, some of which I’ve achieved and some I haven’t. There have been several studies that have documented that working with goals substantially increases your likelihood of success. The research also documents that writing these goals down increases the likelihood of success even more. What the studies haven’t demonstrated as of yet are the hidden benefits of having goals.

Let’s explore this concept. Once you achieve your goal you’ll feel good for a while. But it doesn’t stop there. It’s human nature that once you achieve your goal, you’ll set another one.

We’re always going to look for new rivers to explore. There
is no question that working with goals is a powerful tool in
transforming your life. Yet many people have an aversion to
working with them or choose modest ones so they won’t be disappointed.

Reaching your goal is not as important as who you become in the process. Goals are not an end-all but a beginning. They create a focus so that in the pro-
cess you become more than who you are now. Every aspect of your life is affected positively. In the process you build a foundation for a life path that is unique to you.

Let me give you a few examples. My nephew Tyler’s goal, a personal trainer while in college, was to become the top producer at the gym. Although he didn’t quite reach his sales goal, what he gained has been much more important. In the process Tyler had to improve upon his communication skills and to have a better understanding of what motivates people. Most of these people were much older than he was and had already achieved a high level of success in their lives. In the process of trying to achieve his goal, he became an expanded person, which has benefited him in every aspect of his life.

Let me tell you about Carl. In his mid fifties, overweight and out of shape, his self-esteem was low. Quite often he had the feeling that life had passed him by. Then one day he took up running. It actually began with brisk walking. After training on a regular basis, he completed a 10K race. That was the turning point. Did it matter where he placed? What was more important was who he became in the process. Recently he completed a half marathon. Now Carl is in great shape and his self confidence is sky high. In the process of training he gave up smoking which had been a life-long habitat. Carl is excited about life again.

If your goal is to have a great relationship, you have to become a more evolved person. If your goal is to become a successful entrepreneur, you need to first become more adventurous, more positive and more resourceful. I am sure that Tyler’s experience at the health club will benefit him in future endeavors.

No matter what it is you desire, working with goals brings you closer to becoming the person you want to be and living the life you want to live.

Even so, most of us experience a certain level of resistance. No matter how much we want to do something or how much we believe it would be good for us to do, there is another other voice that is giving us a different message. Overcoming our resistance is the gateway to living a fulfilling life.

A few years ago, during a workout which I resisted doing, I noticed a quote at the gym that spoke to me and I think will speak to you and help you overcome the resistance in your life. As you read excerpts from this quote think of the “Workout” as a metaphor for life. The form of the workout doesn’t matter.

WHAT IS A WORKOUT?
A workout is one part physical exertion and three parts self discipline.
A workout makes you better today than you were yesterday.
It strengthens the body, relaxes the mind and toughens the spirit.
It prepares you to meet life’s challenges.
A workout is a key that helps unlock the door to opportunity and success.
Hidden within each of us is an extraordinary force.
Physical and mental fitness are the triggers that can release it.
A workout is a form of rebirth. When you finish a workout,
you do not simply feel better, you feel better about yourself.

Whatever it is you want to do or accomplish take that first step and begin the “workout” that is unique to you.

As the famous author and philosopher Mark Twain re-
minds us:
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed
by the things you didn’t do, than by the ones you did.
So throw off the bowlines.
Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sail.
Dream…Explore…Discover.”

So what is your goal? What is your “big dream”? Remember our dreams were just ideas at one time. Those of us who feel fulfilled and successful have taken the necessary steps to begin actualizing the dreams we have envisioned.

You know I love to hear from you. Let me know what’s happening in your life. Please feel free to forward this letter to those in your circle.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

MARK
Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.


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