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Your iGPS of Inner Change

Friday, May 29th, 2015

Nature has its many mysteries. Not only does nature nurture us, it reminds us of the cyclical nature of life. It also reminds us how unpredictable life can be.

After a flurry of fresh snow, we have a sense of awe and transcendence as the sun melts the snow clinging to the trees. We feel a lightness of being as we breathe in the fresh air. But it’s not always that way. Many of us have been in the midst of a violent storm that we thought would never end, but we get to the other side.

With many of the personal challenges we face in our lives we forget this valuable lesson. At times they overwhelm us, and that’s all we see. We lose sight of what we want to create and accomplish. We forget that the storm will give way to spring.

Spring, with its sense of optimism and hope, is a time to plant new seeds. We don’t know how many of these seeds, or which ones, will emerge from the darkness to the light. But, for sure, some will.

We can make the choice to enjoy the process of cultivating these seeds that are possibilities in our minds that are not dependent on our circumstances. It doesn’t help to postpone feeling good about life until these seeds have come to fruition.

While it might it be true that there are events and circumstances in our lives that we wish were different, but by courageously facing our dissatisfaction, we begin shifting to the Positive Side of Change. Once this occurs, the flame inside of us begins to burn brightly again.

Each of us has an Inner GPS of Change that guides and empowers us to skillfully navigate the changing currents of life’s challenges and to consistently recognize opportunities for success and fulfillment all around us.

We’re able to recognize new possibilities and opportunities. We’re gentler with ourselves and have learned to accept the things about ourselves that we can’t change. We’ve learned to accept the imperfections in life.

We’ve learned to smile in the midst of the storm. We know we’ll get through it. We focus on what’s right about our life. We’ve made the choice. Keep making that choice. Keep spreading the seeds of possibilities.

“At times our own light goes out, and is reignited by the spark of another person.”

Journey ON

Mark

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Stories we tell Ourselves

Friday, July 11th, 2014

Do you remember your kindergarten teacher? I don’t remember much about mine, except her name and the stories she told. Since then I’ve had many more teachers and mentors who have all contributed to who I am today. We learn from all of our experiences and from everyone we meet, some more significant than others.

Although we don’t always remember their name, we usually remember the story they told us. When you are a writer, you’re always looking for that story or insight to share. It’s a gift when you hear such a story. So it was with delight when my youngest daughter, Savanna, was visiting last week and I experienced such a moment.

As our conversation evolved she shared the following story that speaks for itself. Like life, there are many variations of the story—stories that have the power to shape our life. The most powerful being the ones we tell ourselves.

A son and his father were walking on the mountains. 
Suddenly, the son falls, hurts himself and screams:
“AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!”
To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating,
 somewhere in the mountain: “AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!”

Curious, he yells: “Who are you?” 
He receives the answer: “Who are you?”

Angered at the response, he screams: “Coward!” 
He receives the answer: “Coward!”

He looks to his father and asks: “What’s going on?”
 The father smiles and says: “My son, pay attention.”

And then he screams to the mountain: “I admire you!”
The voice answers: “I admire you!”

Again the man screams: “You are a champion!”
The voice answers: “You are a champion!”

The boy is surprised, but does not understand.
 Then the father explains: “People call this ECHO, 
but really this is LIFE. It gives you back everything you say or do.”

Our life is simply a reflection of our actions and what we tell ourselves.If you want more love, create more love in your heart.
If you want more competence in your career, improve your competence. This relationship applies to all aspects of life.
It gives you back what you think and believe. It gives you back everything you have given to it.

YOUR LIFE IS NOT A COINCIDENCE. IT’S A REFLECTION OF YOU!

As I shared with you in the beginning, quite often we don’t remember the name of the person who tells us the story, even though we remember the story. Savanna and I attempted to determine who wrote this one. We searched the internet (I sure wished we had it when I was in college) and found the story, but the author was unknown. Whoever he or she is, we want to thank them from the bottom of our heart for the gift of their wisdom.

Life is for giving, loving, teaching, learning and sharing all we are and will ever be; our joys, our sorrows, our triumphs and our disappointments. And of course, our smiles.

As the father in the story reminds us, what we tell ourselves becomes our story. Sometimes the story gets old. If you don’t like it, create a more empowering one.

You know that I love to hear from you. What is the story you have been telling yourself?

“What a worthy adventure we are on. Our job is to enjoy it, to be ethical and to live life fully.”

Journey On

Mark

Please join me with my cohost Ralph Marston on the Journey On radio show. blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Set a New Standard

Tuesday, June 10th, 2014

It’s time to move forward. Most of us, if not all of us, would like to be more successful but we struggle with what exactly success means to us. What contributes to this struggle is that we usually define success by someone else’s standards or our own stricter standards. And usually we are our own worse critics. I struggled with this mindset for years. No matter what I did, I didn’t consider myself successful—there was always the, “Yea, but look at what they did. I’ll never be as good as them.”

Within each of us is the key to success, which is our attitude about how we see ourselves.

IF we are always trying to live up to some external standard we’re always going to find it difficult to be satisfied. There are many great people in this world that can do some things better than us. Yet when we look at ourselves and explore our own unique greatness, we find that there are some things we can do better than them.

If you wish to be successful, then think of yourself in that way. Focus on your gifts and unique talents. You are already successful. You have unique gifts and talents. Share these gifts and talents with others.

“What a worthy adventure we are on. Our job is to enjoy it, to be ethical and to live life fully.”

Journey On

Mark

Please join me with my cohost Ralph Marston on the Journey On radio show. blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Rekindle the Dream

Thursday, April 10th, 2014

You’re thinking of all of the things you have to do. And for a while that’s all you are doing——thinking rather than doing. Quite often, you exaggerate the complexity of what it is you have to do. If you actually sat down and began working on your project you could get it done even though you are not sure where to begin. But you begin, by beginning. For example until I sat down and started writing this blog I wasn’t sure what I wanted to say. I wasn’t sure where I was going. Now that I am actually doing it I see a direction.

And that’s the way it is with many things in life. Until you actually begin the journey you won’t know where the path that leads you to the magic garden will be. You might not even realize that there is such a path. It’s amazing once you begin, the possibilities that exist.

As you become more present to what’s in front of you and all around you, you will be better able to recognize the opportunities that are presented to you.

Sometimes it’s a matter of creating your own path. Be the innovator and be willing to think out of the box. Becoming a master thinker and creator is a great asset. But you also have to take action.

So here’s your part. Be bold. You once had a dream for you life. What is that dream that you have put on the back burner. After you have identified that dream that’s been on the back burner, what is one action step you can take that help you realize your dream or at least move you in the right direction? When will you take that step? And who is going to hold you accountable for moving forward?
What a worthy adventure we are on. Our job is to enjoy it, to be ethical and to live life fully.

Journey On

Mark

Please join me with my cohost Ralph Marston on the Journey On radio show. blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

The Challenge of the Times

Friday, April 4th, 2014

The world is changing faster than it has ever before. It’s challenging to keep up with the latest. Our greater dependency on technology fuels this trend. We know what the advantages to technology are. We have more opportunities and greater conveniences than we have ever had before. The advances in health care are enormous and the promise of the future is encouraging but the challenges are increasing.

The first challenge is how to wed our greater dependency on technology with our sense of self. Technology gives us the opportunity to connect with almost anyone anywhere, which leads to the concern that if we are not in instant communication we might miss out on something.—that text or call that pertains to a different reality than the one we are engaged with at the present moment.

As soon as we see or hear a signal that we have an incoming message, we interrupt what we are doing to notice the nature of that incoming message. Very rarely is it something important that has to be handled in the moment.

We pay a price for these distractions. In the process we lose our ability to really get into something and know it well. Rather than being in the moment with what we are doing, we are already thinking about something else. Is that something else more important than what we are doing now or the conversation we are having with someone else. Our minds are constantly at work trying to figure that out. We don’t know how to still the mind. We don’t know how commit to just being.

What has been lost is the ability to connect with others and to work together. The flow of our conversation and ideas has been interrupted so that we aren’t able to go deeper. The irony is that none of us like to be interrupted but that is exactly what happens. What makes it worse, is that we are being interrupted essentially by a computer. The energy changes and the connection has been lost. Sure we have more information at our fingertips, but we’ve replaced intimacy with information.

All of this leads to a greater sense of isolation. Even when we want to connect face-to-face we’re not exactly sure how to go about doing it. Communication is an art form and, like other art forms, needs to be practiced. We get better the more we do it. There is nothing better than connecting with another. In fact when we become master communicators it’s magical.

Perhaps the biggest challenge is how to make peace with an uncertain future. That uncertainty is there in almost all facets of our lives—our safety, our finances, our health, and our sense of wellbeing. The rapid technological changes contribute to this uncertainty.

Our challenge is to develop a trust that if we live totally in the present that the uncertainty we have about the future will unfold the way it should. Our part is to be 100% committed to whatever we are engaged in. It doesn’t mean to be in denial of some of the problems that we experience individually and collectively. But when we approach these concerns with 100% focus and effort, then we begin to discover solutions to problems that previously were thought to be insoluble.

Here’s a suggestion. For one precious moment, learn to trust it’s all going to work out. For that one moment just be. Then try it for ten minutes. Just be and give your concerns a holiday. They don’t need you all of the time. That holiday includes taking a vacation from your smart phone—plan your digital detox now.

Living in the moment and being present is an art form that can be cultivated. The ones that have mastered it have a presence about them. They are connected to the source of their personal power and all that is and has always been.

There are more and more articles in the main stream about the practical and spiritual benefits of having a mindfulness practice. Meditation in the morning is an essential practice to cultivate in this rapidly changing world.

“To dream – again. To dare – again.
To feel enjoyment and happiness – again,
or for the first time.
To realize – Ah, this is living —
This is the stand I take!”

What a worthy adventure we are on. Our job is to enjoy it, to be ethical and to live life fully.

Journey On

Mark

Please join me with my cohost Ralph Marston on the Journey On radio show. blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

One Day at a Time

Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

How you start your day sets the tone for the whole day. If you start your day in a hurry, most likely you will be in a hurry all day long. When you start your day with intention, not only will you get more done, you will do so with less stress.

In the morning take a few moments to think about what you have planned for the day. Think about what you want to get done. More important think about how you want to be as the day progresses because quite often there will be surprises along the way. Whatever they are you can have the intention to thrive and enjoy those unexpected moments. You know that what comes up, you can easily handle.

Have the intention to be present and to flow with what is. With the holidays here our days are full. We literally have more on our plate. We are busier than we usually are. We want to reconnect and renew friendships.

During this potentially stressful period of the year, it is most important for us to maintain our center so that we can reach out and enjoy ourselves.

Yes stretch and reach out, one day at a time.

When you have intention, you know what you want to do and go forward in that direction.

Enjoy this day. Make it fulfilling. Give it purpose.

Journey On

Mark

Please join me with my cohost Ralph Marston on the Journey On radio show. blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Empower your MInd

Friday, October 4th, 2013

So something happens in your life. Or it could be something someone says. Your mind goes into high gear coming up with all kinds of explanations about the significance of what just occurred. If we could just let it go and move on and think about something else, we would be in good shape. It’s one of our biggest challenges. The good news is that we can learn to let it go and move on.

Quite often the meaning we give an occurrence is full of worry and doubt. We often imagine the worst case scenario. We think to ourselves, “If only this problem could get resolved, I’ll be home free.” It will or it wont’ get resolved. But we know eventually there will be something else that occurs that will trigger that same mindset.

There is a more empowering mindset that you can cultivate. “What if things turn out better than expected?” They can, but you have to begin planting the seed for that scenario to occur.

If you have been following me over the years, you know that I strongly believe that how you begin your day sets the tone for the day. So take some time in the morning to meditate, to be grateful, and to wonder about the highlight of the day. Wondering about the highlight sets in motion a positive expectation. It’s amazing what can occur if you are consistent with this practice.

In fact you can begin to introduce empowering questions into your everyday experience of life. If you are going to an event, you can wonder with whom you’ll have the best connection. It begins with your thoughts. And you have the power to shape those thoughts. The mind is easily influenced, especially by the media. It plays on our desires.

Eldon Taylor, in his new empowering book, Choices and Illusions, reminds us how easily our minds are influenced. Based on scientific research he gives us practices and techniques that can empower us to change our beliefs and live the life we really want. It’s worth reading.

Have you listened to the Journey ON radio show yet? blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Journey ON

Mark

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Turn on the Electricity

Sunday, September 29th, 2013

You walk into a dark room and turn on the light switch. Nothing happens. You try another light switch and again nothing happens. You even try a different room and still nothing happens. Now you know that the electricity is turned off.

That’s what our lives are like when we are not connected to our personal power. We waste a lot of time attempting to achieve, and get nothing in return. We waste a lot of energy. Rather than changing a few external things like changing the light bulb or calling an electrician we need to look inside to discover the source of our faulty connection. And we know it begins with us.

Imagine driving your car when your shock absorbers are old and broken down. Every bump in the road is magnified so that even the smallest bumps affect you. After a while all you see are the imperfections in the road. Does this seem familiar? When you are connected to your center, instead of seeing imperfections, you see possibilities.

Here’s what I suggest that will begin the process of connecting with your center. Begin your day by taking time for yourself and I mean before looking at your smart phone. Sit quietly for ten minutes. Then think about what you are grateful for. One more thing. Think about what the highlight of your day might be. First think about your scheduled meetings. And then leave open the possibility that something great that is not on your agenda right now might occur.

What happens is that you create a positive expectation that something great will happen during the day. So you’re open to it. Try it for 30 days and see what happens. It works. This has been my practice for many years and that of the many people with whom I have been privileged to coach.

Enjoy the Adventure,

Mark

Join Mark and his cohost Ralph Marston for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Today is the First Day of the Rest of your Life

Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

It was years ago, while visiting a friend, that i first heard this remark. I was in my twenties at the time, confused and in transition, and my friend seemed so mystical. It seems in one way or the other, we are always in transition.

“Today is the first day of the rest of your life,” was what she said. I’ll never forget that meeting. So make your life what you want it to be. Move forward. Don’t dwell on went wrong. Remember none of us are perfect.

But in that first day, it’s essential that we take that first step. Perhaps it’s the most difficult one. Then we take another one and soon we get a sense of where we are going.

But its that first one. We are so concerned about making mistakes that we hesitate and over analyze. In our minds we picture every possible scenario. Before beginning we look for the guarantee that our actions will be rewarded.

As we know there are no guarantees in life. But we can perform our due diligence to ascertain whether the next step is a wise move for ourselves, but there is always going to be some risk. As some point we have to trust and take that next step. Jump in the river, you are going to get wet anyway.

So become comfortable with not knowing, and be curious about what’s next.

Enjoy the Adventure,

Mark

Join Mark and his cohost Ralph Marston for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

The Benefits of Positive Thinking

Saturday, May 18th, 2013

Recently I was a radio guest on Lois Berman’s show (Loisontheline). I was posed a question. What do you say to someone who is positive, works with affirmations and doesn’t get the result they were looking for.

In my life coaching practice I’m also asked that same question. There is a popular notion, made more popular by the movie the Secret and other authors, that if you visualize what you want, it will manifest. But it doesn’t always work that way. I believe in using affirmations and being positive. And i am positive most of the time.

But when you primarily focus on the desired result you overlook all of the good that is in front of you.  When you are positive, each day can be an adventure and fulfilling at the same time. Being positive shifts your attitude so that you are looking for the good rather than focusing on what’s wrong. And when you are positive you become more attractive to others regardless of the situation.

Here’s what you can do that will help you to be more positive every day. In the morning after taking time for reflection, think about your day and what might be the highlight of that day. As your day progresses you are in a state of wonderment. You think to yourself, “I wonder if this is the highlight.” In essence you make a decision before your day even begins that there will be a highlight. Your inquiry is what that highlight is. It’s a great practice. At the end of the day, you might have two or three great choices.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  Http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.


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