abundance

Create more Abundance in your Life

Monday, December 7th, 2015

In the last blog, I left you with the thought that each day there is a highlight. It might seem dark and hopeless at times and you might not be able to see the light at the end of tunnel, but there is one. That is a light. Maybe in this moment, it’s just a flicker. Even if you can’t see it clearly, imagine it anyway. Imagine it the way you want it to be. Give yourself that experience of visualizing how you want it to be. Feel it and at least for those few minutes or however long it is, allow yourself to experience that moment. That’s where it starts.

What’s interesting is that all of the books and teachings out there on manifestation tell you the same thing. Act, as if, is what they say. In that way, you are sending a message to your subconscious mind….give it something to work with. It’s your obedient servant, but it picks up all kinds of messages from you that perhaps you are unaware of. If you talk about prosperity, but then hoard your money, afraid to allow it to circulate, it gets the message of scarcity.

But if you are generous and expressive then it gets a message of abundance and begins the process of creation. One of the first few books that I recommend to my coaching clients is Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill. I’ve actually ready it five times over a thirty year period. It keeps getting better. I’m more open and I know this type of thinking works. So in the morning think about that highlight. Next time we’ll take it one step further.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

“I’m called to inspire others to reignite the spark inside of them that has been dimmed by years of hard work and struggle.”

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Positive Side of Change—A Simple Technique for Changing your Thoughts

Monday, February 11th, 2013

Getting on the Positive Side of Change is an ongoing day to day challenge. If you have the right tools, you have a head start. In the last blog in this series, you were introduced to the power of gratitude.  It took me a while to get this concept. At first it seemed like I was sugar coating what was bothering me. And in spiritual circles you are taught to be grateful.

When we have a problem our tendency is to focus on it. At times that problem consumes us and we project into the future. If this problem continues  then what. Before we know it, we are in a bad mood and all we see are more problems.

By focusing on what you are grateful for, you shift the focus from what isn’t working in your life to what is. For example, instead of thinking about what you didn’t accomplish, think about what you did accomplish. Be grateful for that.

What I”m suggesting is that after meditation, focus on what you are grateful for.  Come up with at least ten different topics. You might want to begin with your health and the love in your life. When you think about it, there is love all around you. Be willing to receive it even though it might not be from a particular person. When you do this, it’s so liberating.

In that situation I express gratitude for the love that is in my life. If I would like more friends, I express gratitude for my ability to connect with others. If I would like more business, I express gratitude for my ability to attract clients to me. This little technique that is so powerful only takes about 30 seconds.

Remember what you focus on expands.  You attract to you what you think. I think you get the idea.

In the next few blogs, we’ll continue to focus on gratitude…this practice has changed my life.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

YOU ARE THE GIFT

Thursday, January 3rd, 2013

There are many different ways in which we can make a gift. We can contribute to various non-profits that are aligned with our philosophical bents such as environmental or spiritual organizations. We can make gifts to family members or friends. Quite often we don’t know what to give especially when it’s expected of us.

We hope that when the gift is received that it is appreciated. In some cases we do have an expectation that the gift will not only be appreciated but reciprocated. When our giving isn’t acknowledged in the manner that we expected we hold back the next time. Our giving was conditional on mutuality. That is the manner of giving that we are most familiar with.

Our giving was conditional and what did we really gain by making it conditional. Let’s take it a step further. What if our natural state of being is to be generous in spirit.

We rejoice in giving because it makes someone happy. And in doing so we are really making a gift to ourself.

Perhaps the most meaningful gift is to be generous in spirit. But how can we do that when we live in a competetive world when results are quite often valued more highly than relationships.

You can start by greeting everyone you meet with a big warm smile. It takes effort initially but soon it becomes a habit.

You are the gift. Be the best you, you can be.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

YOU’RE MORE CAPABLE THAN YOU REALIZE

Wednesday, July 11th, 2012

Here you are. Do you feel that sometimes you underestimate what you’re capable of? Even though you might project a certain level of confidence, you don’t really go for it. You might have reasons or excuses why this is so. We all do.

These limitations are based upon our perceived history and past experiences. We sell ourselves short. We’re more capable than we realize.

It builds from there. Success begets more success. But we have to put ourselves our there.

It’s not a straight climb. Along the way there might be a few detours and obstacles in the form of disappointments. It’s part of the journey. But we learn from these disappointments. We learn about our strengths and weaknesses. This knowledge prepares us to even go further.

When we have a purpose for what we’re doing it’s even easier.
Yes the obstacles will still show up, but know that they’re part of the terrain.

Imagine you are in a marathon, but it’s a different kind of race. The winner isn’t the stronger or faster one, but the one who thinks they can. You can. Life is challenging. So learn to enjoy these challenges. It’s what makes life most interesting. And it is what it is.

Each day and each situation is an opportunity for you to learn about your capabilities. Greatness awaits you. Move forward. You being you, makes a difference.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

What’s Important to You

Friday, December 23rd, 2011

We have many thoughts and ideas, but not all of them are acted upon. These thoughts are endless. Brain researchers estimate that we have over 60,000 thoughts in a day. Very few of these thoughts become reality.

But some of these thoughts do get acted upon and become our reality. As we know from doing this work together what we focus on expands. If we focus on the negative then we will attract more of the negative to us. If we worry we will always find things to worry about.

Of course we don’t want that. We have to have a clear sense of what are values and priorities are. We keep going in the direction of making these priorities are reality. Of course along the way there will be many pitfalls and obstacles. But because we have intention and determination, we keep going.

Your life today is a reflection of the choices you have made in the past. That includes your thoughts, your actions and your commitments. If you wonder what’s important to you, look around at your life; where do you live, who are your friends and what are you doing with your life.

To get to where you are now, something deep inside you kept you going. I am sure that you had many reasons to quit along the way, but you kept going. You knew what you wanted. As the year is winding down, it’s a great time to think about all of the blessings in your life. It’s a great reminder of what your values are.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and speaker who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes. Give yourself the gift of coaching and make an investment in your future.

LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS

Friday, February 11th, 2011

It’s that time of year. Every year in February we celebrate a day that glorifies the spirit of love. Unfortunately, the way we celebrate it has taken us away from the real essence of its spirit. Too much focus is on making the appropriate gesture and reinforces the fact that some of us might not be in a relationship. Instead of a celebration, it becomes a source of stress.

Collectively we are and have been in many different phases of the relationship cycle. Regardless of what phase we are in, we all have wounds that are preventing us from experiencing deeper levels of intimacy in our lives. Relationships demand trust and risk.

But what holds us back is the fear of again experiencing the pain that we have felt in past relationships. It hurts and we don’t want to experience it again.

So we adopt a strategy that protects us. Most likely we are not even aware of what we are doing. Let me share with you what I did for many years to avoid the possibility of experiencing that pain again.

My favorite approach was to select a partner who was emotionally unavailable. They were hopelessly self-centered, already in a relationship or afraid of intimacy because of the same wounds that I had experienced. Another approach was to select partners who I knew did not fit my picture of the person I wanted to be with. This allowed me to be in control of the relationship. By focusing on their flaws and imperfections I could keep them at a distance.

I kept trying to make these relationships work and played out the drama longer than I should have because I didn’t want to acknowledge that I was alone. Now I realize that feeling alone has nothing to do with whether you are in a relationship. There have been plenty of times when I have felt alone while in a relationship.

There is no doubt that relationships stretch us. We experience a myriad of emotions that we would not have experienced without the relationship, ranging from fear, anger and avoidance to fulfillment, confidence, and passion. We are forced to explore uncharted territory discovering new ways of saying and looking at things. We’re never totally prepared for what needs to be done or said, so quite often we avoid saying what’s on our mind.

Sooner or later what we have been withholding from our partner is reflected in our attitudes and conduct, often leading to feelings of separation and alienation, which defeats the purpose of being in relationship.

Sharing our most intimate feelings is not the easiest thing to do. For various reasons we have not had much practice. So we create a system, albeit not perfect, that works for us. We carefully measure how much we are willing to share about what’s really going on with us. Perhaps we experience more isolation and loneliness than we would like, but we keep our innermost feelings a secret.

So we go on to that next relationship thinking that there is a relationship out there that will eventually fulfill us and make us whole. This time it will be different we think to ourselves.

When I was in my early thirties, I had an enlightening conversation with my good friend Stephen Sawyer, “Stephen, do you think that each relationship gets better and that there is an ultimate relationship?

“Yes, and it’s with yourself,” he responded.

As we know not all relationships work out the way we would like them to. But we know more about ourselves for having been in the relationship.

With each relationship I discovered something new about myself. I was able to bring these new insights into my next relationship. Each relationship brought me closer to where I wanted to be. I experienced a new level of intimacy that affected every relationship that I had. Most importantly I experienced a greater knowing and love of myself. I enjoyed just being in my own presence. The ultimate relationship occurs when you learn to know and love yourself. Until this happens you won’t be able to love another person deeply.

As you keep evolving you become aware of a fundamental truth. You can’t change another person. You can only change yourself.

This version of the Serenity Prayer says it best:
God give me the serenity to accept the people I can’t change,
The courage to change the one I can
And the wisdom to know that it’s me.

So now we have shared some valuable time together. We know where to look and sometimes we don’t like what we see because we are own worse critics.

Sometimes there’s a quote or a poem that resonates with us and makes the biggest difference in our life. It puts everything in perspective. For me, more than anything it was this quote by Anais Nin that inspired me in my quest.
“And the day came when the risk to remain closed in a bud became more painful than the risk to blossom.”

As I expanded my capacity to risk I also increased my ability to trust. I embraced my fears, overcame my barriers to intimacy and became the love I was seeking.

Let’s celebrate this Valentine’s Day in a different way. Let’s celebrate this day as a day of inspiration; an inspiration to open ourselves more to love and loving, love of others and of course ourselves.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Are you using affirmations?

Tuesday, January 25th, 2011

On Saturday Jan 15th I was a guest on the Dr Anne Marie Evers show. We had a lively discussion about how to attract money. She is a big proponent of using affirmations to help create the life you want to live. In fact her book Affirmations: Your Passport to Happiness has been quite successful over the years. I am currently reading it.

I have used affirmations throughout the years first in working on finding my soulmate and then on attracting money. They have worked for me, but not everybody has reported the same success. Sometimes we give up too soon. We affirm the reality we want to attract into our lives and if we don’t notice a difference we move on. What I have found is that the reality that you are trying to create with the use of affirmations seems to have a mind of its own. It will happen, but not necessarily in your timeframe.

When using affirmations it is suggested that we make what we want to create as real as possible allowing ourselves to experience all of the emotions. As a side note I think about the emotion that is attached to worry. If we can take that same emotional intensity and attach it to what we want to create, we’ll be unstoppable.

As Napoleon Hill wrote in Think and Grow Rich, experience that emotion as if your life depended on it. Here’s something else for you to think about. When you allow yourself to fully experience emotionally what it is you are wanting to create, (acting as if) you notice that your emotional state changes. You feel more upbeat, happier and optimistic. Even if it doesn’t come about exactly the way you want it, at least you are going to feel better emotionally. If you get a chance, take a look at Dr Evers book. If you are not integrating affirmations into your life, don’t wait any longer to begin.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of, Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes.

THOSE MOMENTS OF GRACE

Monday, November 29th, 2010

There are those days. You’re wondering if you are making any progress. The circumstances in your life that have bothered you, still bother you. What concerns you, still concerns you.

You question. You read books. You read blogs. You listen to podcasts and still there is that voice…you know it…yes that voice.

It never seems to stop. In fact at times it casts a hypnotic spell over you. You are a prisoner. You can’t break out. And then you do.

During the last few months I have been a guest on many radio shows promoting my new book Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes. Their seems to be a voice out there that things are tough; more so than at other times. And while it’s true that many of us are hurting and many can’t find work, there has always been challenging times. That’s the way life is. There will always be challenges, some more difficult than others. We can’t avoid them. We can try, but sooner or later we’ll have to come face to face with them.

Our work is to develop the life skills necessary to navigate these challenges. They won’t go away. But we can experience those moments of grace; those moments when are minds stop churning and we’re able to experience a stillness when we a deep-rooted experience peace of mind. You’ve heard me talk and write about these moments many times. How do we get there? Is there a road map?

There is–and it starts with taking the first step, which is sitting still in the morning before you do anything else. Focus on your breath for at least five or ten minutes before you concern yourself with the concerns of the world. It’s one step at a time.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of, Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes.

WE ARE IN THE PROCESS OF GATHERING OUR TRIBE

Wednesday, November 17th, 2010

The holidays are right around the corner. Next week is Thanksgiving. For some the holidays are stressful with all of the gatherings, extra responsibilities and socializing.

They also are an opportunity, to reach out and reconnect with some old friends. It was great hearing from my old friend Don who has been living in Vienna. We go way back. It was only when I ran into Sharon, a mutual friend, at an event that his name came up. I hadn’t thought of him until that night. I immediately asked her for his email, and contacted him. It went something like this. “I knew you when. Who are you now? Things are sure different. I’m not the same person I was back then. I’m more mature and confident. I’ve evolved. Many of the things that were important to me have been integrated into my life. Now I have new questions. I’m curious about what’s next. I’m curious as to who I’ll connect with.

That’s the way it is for all of us. We keep evolving and those in our life have also evolved. Why do we reconnect with some and not others? While there is no exact answer, fate and destiny play a role here, I have a theory.

On our path to wholeness, not only are we reconnecting with ourselves, we are in the process of gathering our tribes—those “kindred souls” that at one time in our lives we weren’t able to recognize or weren’t ready for them.

Now here we are. We can connect in a way that was not possible before. But it’s up to each of us to reach out as I did with Don and begin the process of gathering our tribe. They’re waiting for us to show up. It’s our time.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of, Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes.

HAPPINESS IS A DECISION

Thursday, November 11th, 2010

In the last blog I discussed how many of us think that when what bothers us goes away, we can be happy. That was in response to the question, “What is the biggest challenge that we all have?” As we know something else will always come up that concerns us; perhaps even more significant than what is currently bothering us.

Another big challenge that we all face is that what we say and do is limited by our limiting beliefs. Because these beliefs limit what we think is possible, we play it small. We stay in our comfort zones, make unhealthy career and relationship choices and are afraid to rock the boat. You notice that I say “choice.” I know that the origin of many of our limiting beliefs is unconscious. To change some of these beliefs we need to make a choice. That’s what Dancing on the River is all about. It’s a consciousness that is a reflection of a life decision to be happy in the moment that you make over and over again. Yes, we can choose to be happy. We can choose to focus on what’s good in our life, rather than on what isn’t working and what is wrong.

Challenge these limiting beliefs. Beliefs are just beliefs, they are not fact. It’s not the circumstances or facts of your life, but the attitude that you have toward them. Focus on the good, on what’s working.

CHOOSE HAPPINESS

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of, Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes.


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