Archive for May, 2015

Your iGPS of Inner Change

Friday, May 29th, 2015

Nature has its many mysteries. Not only does nature nurture us, it reminds us of the cyclical nature of life. It also reminds us how unpredictable life can be.

After a flurry of fresh snow, we have a sense of awe and transcendence as the sun melts the snow clinging to the trees. We feel a lightness of being as we breathe in the fresh air. But it’s not always that way. Many of us have been in the midst of a violent storm that we thought would never end, but we get to the other side.

With many of the personal challenges we face in our lives we forget this valuable lesson. At times they overwhelm us, and that’s all we see. We lose sight of what we want to create and accomplish. We forget that the storm will give way to spring.

Spring, with its sense of optimism and hope, is a time to plant new seeds. We don’t know how many of these seeds, or which ones, will emerge from the darkness to the light. But, for sure, some will.

We can make the choice to enjoy the process of cultivating these seeds that are possibilities in our minds that are not dependent on our circumstances. It doesn’t help to postpone feeling good about life until these seeds have come to fruition.

While it might it be true that there are events and circumstances in our lives that we wish were different, but by courageously facing our dissatisfaction, we begin shifting to the Positive Side of Change. Once this occurs, the flame inside of us begins to burn brightly again.

Each of us has an Inner GPS of Change that guides and empowers us to skillfully navigate the changing currents of life’s challenges and to consistently recognize opportunities for success and fulfillment all around us.

We’re able to recognize new possibilities and opportunities. We’re gentler with ourselves and have learned to accept the things about ourselves that we can’t change. We’ve learned to accept the imperfections in life.

We’ve learned to smile in the midst of the storm. We know we’ll get through it. We focus on what’s right about our life. We’ve made the choice. Keep making that choice. Keep spreading the seeds of possibilities.

“At times our own light goes out, and is reignited by the spark of another person.”

Journey ON

Mark

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Persistence—the New Power

Wednesday, May 20th, 2015

Many of us forget what it takes to be successful. Yes it takes hard work, commitment and persistence. Most successful people have on more than a few occasions thought about giving up. But they kept at it and moved forward. It’s like climbing a mountain. In the beginning of the climb the task can seem challenging. With every step forward we get closer to our goal.

Achieving goals is like that. We sometimes get caught up in the obstacles and lose sight of where we want to go. There is that half way point, when we say to ourselves, “I’m going to make it.” We know we can do it. From that point on, the challenges no longer seem like challenges, just part of the terrain——we let go of our resistance and move forward with the wind at our back. We allow ourselves to get excited.

Thinking of ourselves as persistent isn’t the most exciting description of ourselves. Yet when you have mastered that quality, you have an amazing power that enables you to do almost anything. One of my coaching clients is a triathlete. The persistence that she demonstrates during training gives her a sense of power than transcends any limitation that might show up in other areas of her life.

Seize the power. Be persistent.

Journey On

At times in our life, our own light goes out and is reignited by the spark of another person.

Mark

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Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Turning Limitations into Possibilities

Wednesday, May 13th, 2015

As we all know at some point in our lives we start to feel boxed in by our life circumstances. Our choices seem limited by our beliefs around what is possible in our lives. If we are really honest with ourselves, we know that our beliefs are just beliefs and not actual truth. It’s difficult for many of us to accept this fact, but if we do a whole new world of possibilities will open up to us.

These limiting beliefs are based upon our interpretation of our past personal history. The meaning we have given to these events including labels or things people have said about us, limit our ability to make choices today.

Freeing yourself up from this past is the first step in experiencing more personal freedom in your life. Look back at your life and realize that every event and experience that has occurred has made you who you are today. Take a look at some of these past experiences. Can you give these past experiences a different meaning? Perhaps they’ve prepared you for the next step in your life?

Let go of your attachments and your identification with what has happened. As you reframe your past, you pave the way for a more exciting future.

“At times our own light dims, and is reignited by the spark of another person.”

Journey ON

Mark

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

When is the Perfect Time?

Monday, May 11th, 2015

If only we knew what we do now, back then. It worked out, didn’t it, maybe not exactly the way we had hoped, but we got through it. And not only got through it, but in some cases exceeded our expectations.

The trap or habit that many of us fall into, is to condition our happiness and fulfillment on external events occurring sometime in the future.

We find ourselves saying, “When this happens, things will be better.” You know how it goes. You probably know some people who are masters at postponing their happiness. They always have an excuse as to why their life isn’t working. The circumstances in the future are very rarely going to be in perfect alignment. That something we are waiting for to happen might not ever occur. And even if it does, we might find that what we thought was important has also changed.

Your circumstances are perfect today, right now. Whatever was going on in your life, got you here to this moment in time, right now; even things you didn’t like.

That day in the future often referred to as “Someday” is here right now. Make the best of it. When today is over, it’s forever gone. You only have this day once. Don’s waste it by thinking that some other day might be better.

“At times our own light dims, and is reignited by the spark of another person.”

Journey ON

Mark

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

People Coming and Going

Thursday, May 7th, 2015

We have one of those people Coming. He’s a guest blogger. Welcome Alan Harris.

How people come and go in and out of people’s lives… sometimes a mirror of what is going on, or not privately.
We have our inner and outer beings. The captain voice informing the crew about the pending protocols outside our head. Quieting the monkeys running amok, as charming and amusing as they are, takes a lot of energy, especially in times of stress or overload. Where’s the zookeeper?

Anyhow, when there is quietude everyone gathers around in peace and harmony and converges. Meditation and reflection, sometimes full engagement in whatever one is doing in the present is a reminder to pay attention in the moment.

So people have stuff going on. I know I have friends who disappear from time to time and then reappear. Sometimes their personal stuff has them turn away from people they know well, and other times they turn towards them. We pay attention and help when we can, and try to not let our own stuff blind us to the needs of others, within reason. Then compassion helps to focus the mind.

We feel more connected to people when we feel that we share the same human experience, good and bad, and that compassion is the key to understanding.

When I have a friend who acts out of resentment or insecurity in a way that is hurtful or rejecting, I feel a connection even if the other person is unaware of it or breaks off their connection. Because understanding that some people cannot find that quiet place allows me to not react in kind but to hope that they find peace.

Too often I hear people verbalize self doubt and blame themselves for ‘creating’ something negative that happens to them, as if they are responsible for how they are treated by another. Sometimes that may be the case, but more often it is the simple fact that the person who thinks that way is lacking compassion and forgiveness for themself and piling on and supporting preexisting negative self views. I wish I could be more mindful of that in times of stress and self doubt.

The thought occurs that reaching for wherever one put that key of compassion, for oneself as well as others, might open a door to a better place.

Just sayin’…

That’s all!

Regards,

Alan
For those of you who don’t me. I am an unrepentant Tao Prankster raised in Socal, lastly from Kauai, father of 2 lads, and current Marin resident. Surfer, photographer, tennis enthusiast, and seeker of truth and beauty in all things.
Regards,

Alan Harris
awaveman@me.com

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Emergence

Wednesday, May 6th, 2015

“In order to change an existing paradigm you do not struggle to try and change the problematic model. You create a new model and make the old one obsolete. Buckminster Fuller

Some of you already know that I am working on a new book. What has emerged is a new paradigm to live by. Some of the following is excerpted from this new work that explores the loose ends and uncertainty of life’s unfolding.

“As we continue to expand and evolve what emerges is a new paradigm from which to relate to life. This emergence occurs when we make the shift to the Positive Side of Change. In this paradigm, waking up each day, excited, with a smile on our face—even with all the loose ends and uncertainty, is what real success is. The breakthrough then becomes the shift from the physical world of accomplishment and achievement, to the inner world of being and wonder. While most of us would like to be more successful in the world, that by itself won’t fulfill us. Lightening up and enjoying each day to its fullest, which includes the ups and downs, the twists and turns and ebb and flow of life’s unfolding mystery, is what makes us come alive.

The paradox is that when we embrace the Positive Side of Change, not only do we experience the same or greater levels of material success, we enjoy ourselves in the process of creation. In the process we discover possibilities we never knew existed. On this side of change, we don’t fear or obsess about the inevitable “loose ends” because we know we have what it takes to handle and to thrive in them.

Once we emerge into the new paradigm, the not knowing, what’s next, becomes exciting. With a sense of being and wonder emerging into its full glory, a glory beyond anything you’ve yet experienced, you notice as you look more deeply and reflect upon your life, that events which at one time seemed random, are all interconnected preparing you for this moment. There’s still a great deal you can’t explain, and the curiosity to explore and explain it, excites you, propels you. In the process, you keep expanding your edge, which at one time was a barrier to seeing what’s beyond that ridge or beneath the surface of the deep mysterious ocean, to discover that this unknown territory is full of amazing possibilities of your living a life full of joy and wonder.

Your enjoyment and appreciation of life is not dependent on what might happen in the future, but rather on the choice you make over and over again to be happy in this moment, yes this one, the one that is all there is. When things don’t work out the way you had hoped or your expectations weren’t meant, rather than judging what happened and its significance in the big picture, just SAY TO YOURSELF, ‘THAT’S INTERESTING.’ These powerful words reinforce that you are the creator who is the architect of the life you want to live and the person you want to be. The creation of this life, is an art form, one that you cultivate. As you emerge into this new paradigm, you experience your life as an exciting journey of discovery.

Let me know what emerges.

At times in our life, our own light dims, and is reignited by the spark of another person.

Journey On

Mark

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.


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