Archive for March, 2014

Interrupt the Negative Thought Pattern

Monday, March 31st, 2014

In a life coaching session yesterday with one of my clients we discussed negative thinking. What exactly is negative thinking and what can we do about it? The simple answer is that negative thinking is and has been a life-long habit.

So what can you do to change this habit?  Start your day differently. Notice what you do in the morning. How you start your day sets the tone for the day! Choose to start it differently. What’s on your phone or online can wait until later in the day.

Here’s what I suggest. Sit for a few minutes in silence and then slowly focus on what you are grateful for. What that does is shift your focus from what isn’t working and what you don’t like about your life, to what is working and what you do like about your life. This practice goes a long way toward breaking the habit of negative thinking. If you don’t break the habit it can become hypnotic. And you know how it works. Before you know it you begin imagining the worse case scenario. There’s one more thing you can do to break this habit.

After you have focused on what you are grateful for, wonder about the highlight of your day. Many of my life coaching clients have reported to me that over time there expectations have changed and that they expect good things to occur. As your day progresses you’re wondering what the best possible outcome can be. This thinking can become an empowering habit, one that empowers you.

Consistent positive thinking, not only changes your outlook on life, but it also empowers you to see opportunities that previously you would not have looked at.
As we just mentioned these negative cycles can become hypnotic. The sooner that you recognize that you are in one of these negative loops the sooner you can break the hypnotic. Just recognize it and don’t judge it. Don’t beat yourself up. Notice it and then say, “Next.”

What a worthy adventure we are on. Our job is to enjoy it, to be ethical and to live life fully.

Journey On

Mark

Please join me with my cohost Ralph Marston on the Journey On radio show. blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

You are the Creator of your Life

Thursday, March 13th, 2014

Most of us from time to time overreact to a situation; it could be an interaction with another, or a transaction going south on us. We lose sight of where we were going and what we wanted to accomplish. Our challenge is to stay focused on our intention and not get sidetracked by the obstacles and challenges that get in the way. The obstacles and disappointments are there to challenge us. They make us better.

I have written and said on several occasions that how you start your day sets the tone for the day. If you start your day in a hurry, most likely you will be in a hurry all day long. If you start your day in a calm manner, most likely you will keep that calm and you will be better able to weather the negativity that comes up during the day. You will be more flexible and not overreact to the events that don’t work out the way you had anticipated. More important, as you begin your day, become clear as to how you want your day to be. And stay curious; imagine your day turning out better than you expected.

When you keep in mind what your intention is for the day, the obstacles and challenges that come up during the day, don’t throw you for a loop. Over time, you notice that you stop making excuses. You except what happened, stop blaming the other person and move on. You are the creator of your life, not the victim.

May you be inspired by the journey,

Have fun

Mark

Please join me with my cohost Ralph Marston on the Journey On radio show. blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Seeds of Possibilities

Wednesday, March 5th, 2014

Nature has its many mysteries. When we look deeply there is always a gift. Not only does nature nurture us, it reminds us of the cyclical nature of life. It also reminds us how unpredictable life can be.

After a flurry of fresh snow, we have a sense of awe and transcendence as the sun melts the snow that is clinging to the trees. We feel a lightness of being as we look around and breathe in the fresh air. But it’s not always that way. Many of us have been in the midst of a violent storm that we thought would never end.

However with many of the personal challenges that we face in our lives we forget this lesson. At times these challenges overwhelm us, and that is all we see. We lose sight of what we want to create.

Then there is wonderful Spring. Spring, with its sense of optimism and hope, is a time of new beginnings. We ready ourselves for the spring ritual of planting our gardens. Although we don’t totally understand the process, we know for certain there’s an intelligence in nature’s way of doing things. But we need to do our part.

We prepare the soil for planting by first pulling out the weeds, which are the limiting beliefs that clutter our minds. Then we turn the soil and mix in compost and fertilizer before spreading the seeds, which are possibilities in the gardens of our subconscious mind. We don’t know how many of these seeds, or which ones, will emerge from the darkness to the light. But we have faith that if we tend to our garden, some seeds will grow.

We also know from our work together that our intentions determine what we harvest. Not only do these intentions provide food for the body, they provide food for the soul.

From the darkness there is a miraculous process that gives birth to creation.

That’s the way it was for each of us. We emerged from the darkness of the womb to the light of the day. As we continue on our journey, with the proper nurturing, that light becomes brighter.

There are two themes that keep emerging in this luminosity. Happiness is a choice that is not dependent on our circumstances.

There might be events and circumstances in our life that we wish were different. By courageously facing this dissatisfaction, we begin shifting to the Positive Side of Change. Once this occurs, the flame inside of us begins to burn brightly again.
Whatever is happening in our lives, especially the challenges, is the precise location of our evolutionary edge. Yet we all fear change and waste energy trying to avoid or control it. We stay stuck in unfulfilling careers or relationships rather than enter the unknown territory that lies ahead.

Each of us has an Inner GPS of Change that empowers us to skillfully navigate the changing currents of life’s challenges and to consistently recognize opportunities for success and fulfillment that are all around us.

The second theme is that our ability to experience joy and love keeps expanding. Here’s why. We’ve been through more. We’ve faced more adversity. We’ve been stretched. We all know that there are things in the world that are horrific and tragic. Some of us have personally experienced some of these events. No one is immune from this pain-it’s part of being human.

As a result our hearts are more open, and we’re able to experience more joy, and to love more deeply. We’re gentler with ourselves and have learned to accept the things about ourselves that we can’t change. We’ve learned to accept the imperfections in life.

By focusing on what gives us joy, rather than on the imperfections, we learn to smile in the midst of the storm. We know we’ll get through it. We’ve been there before. We focus on what’s right about our life. We smile for no reason. We stop asking “why.” We’ve made the choice. Keep making that choice. Keep spreading the seeds.

Think of this spring as a time of possibility. As spring unfolds it is my hope that the seeds you plant renew your sense of hope and optimism.

There is no better place to begin spreading those seeds than with those you love and care about. Please feel free to share this message with them. Let me know what’s happening in your life.

May you be inspired by the journey,

Have fun

Mark

Please join me with my cohost Ralph Marston on the Journey On radio show. blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.


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