Archive for January, 2014

Plan B is the Right Plan

Sunday, January 26th, 2014

At different times in our lives we have goals and dreams. They will change as the years go by. We believe that when we achieve these goals we will be happy and then we will be “really living.” In many cases that goal might be a certain level of financial security or a great relationship. But along the way we run into some obstacles.

We also discover something very profound; even when we achieve these goals we still feel something is missing. We all know that feeling. There is that moment when we wake up and discover that our assumptions about what we needed to be happy were not true. We discover that what we thought was the perfect plan, was not so perfect.

What defines us is how we handle that disappointment? That’s our challenge. It’s part of being human. The ones who are the happiest and most successful are the ones who can shake it off and go on to plan B. That involves being flexible and innovative.

No matter who we are, at some point we will experience those moments that we were not prepared for. It’s not the
end of the world. This is where plan B comes into play. And the sooner we let go of our disappointment, the quicker we will on the road to success on all levels. In fact, in most cases we exceed our expectations.

“What a worthy adventure we are on. Our job is to enjoy it, to be ethical and to live life fully.”

Journey On

Mark

Please join me with my cohost Ralph Marston on the Journey On radio show. blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

The Mental Breakthrough

Wednesday, January 8th, 2014

As the year was coming to an end, I had been thinking about my goals and resolutions for the upcoming year. How can I move forward in my life? What do I want to work on? What is my hope for the world? I had begun many a year in this manner.

Then I had a flash of insight. It occurred in a yoga class. I was in a forward bend, when I noticed that there was more movement on one side of my body. Up until that moment, I had always experienced resistance on that side. In that moment there was an ease, an unfolding and a letting go. I eagerly looked forward to my next days practice.

A few days later in a conversation with my teacher Lea, I shared with her that I felt that I had a “mental breakthrough.” She responded in a humorous manner, “That’s better than a mental breakdown.”

I knew that the impact that this physical experience had on my psyche would show up in other areas of my life. I wasn’t sure as to exactly how or in what manner.

What if my breakthrough would be experiencing more ease and flow in my life? In the next few days I asked a few clients and friends what would be a mental breakthrough for them in this New Year.

On our weekly radio show, JourneyOn, I discussed with my cohost, Ralph Marston, the Daily Motivator, what a “mental breakthrough” would be for him. Ralph expressed that it would an allowing of living life fully—no censors, no limits and being authentic. Expressing all of it, the light, the joy, the sorrows and the disappointments.

What I have observed over the last twelve years is that as we continue to evolve, our values and what is most important to us, shifts. We begin to make the shift to what I call the Positive Side of Change. What is most important, is waking up each day, excited, with a smile on our face—even with all of the loose ends and uncertainty. The breakthrough then becomes the shift from the physical world of accomplishment and achievement, to the inner world of being and wonder.

While most of us would like to be more successful in the world, that by itself won’t fulfill us. Most, if not all of us, would like to laugh more and to be able to take things in stride. We would give almost anything to be more playful. Said in another way, we would like to lighten up and enjoy each day to its fullest, which includes the ups and downs, the twists and turns and ebb and flow of life’s unfolding mystery.

The paradox is that when we live on the Positive Side of Change, not only will we experience less stress, we’ll experience the same or greater levels of material success.

When we live on this side of change, we know that life is full of new possibilities. We’re curious as to what these might be. We don’t fear or obsess about the “loose ends” because we know they are going to be there. They’re there to make sure we are fully awake. Life’s momentary setbacks or disappointments don’t’ get us down, or if they do, not for as long.

This ability to enjoy all of it, life, with all of its complexity and mystery, is what I’m working on, and would be a mental breakthrough for me.

What a worthy adventure we are on. Our job is to enjoy it, to be ethical and to live life fully.

Journey On

Mark

Please join me with my cohost Ralph Marston on the Journey On radio show. blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.


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