Archive for October, 2013

So Which one are you Going to Focus on?

Wednesday, October 30th, 2013

The average person thinks over 60,000 thoughts in a day. It isn’t an exaggeration to say our minds are superactive. And we know from the work we have been doing that our mind is extremely powerful. Our thoughts have the power to create our reality and certainly our experience of reality.

Many researchers often liken our minds to computers. They’re amazing and have the power to do extraordinary things, both positive and negative. What matters is how we program them. To make our computers more efficient we install the latest software which is a step in the right direction. But without more is not enough.

It’s the data we input into the computer that makes the difference. We have to let the computer know what we want. And our lives our like that. Our subconscious mind is the engine that runs our life. It is our thoughts and actions that help program our subconscious minds. So we have to be mindful as to what we input.

We want most of those thoughts to be positive. In that way we program ourselves to think more positively and to be happier.

We all want to know how we can do that. If you have been reading this blog before you know that quite often i make reference to the morning program. How you start your day sets the tone for the day.

The best investment you can make, with the highest rate of return, is to take time in the morning for inner reflection. Sit quietly in the beginning for 5-10 minutes. Then focus on what you are grateful for. What this does is shift your focus from what isn’t working to what is. In essence you shift your focus to the good. And after you do this, then wonder about what the highlight of your day might be. Again you’re thinking about the good. In the process many of those thoughts that you think about will be more uplifting. In the process you’ll smile and laugh more.

Journey ON

Mark

Join Mark and his cohost Ralph Marston for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

To Move Forward, Change your Perspective

Monday, October 21st, 2013

What you have doing hasn’t been working. Your assumptions haven’t worked out. To move forward it’s time to change your perspective.

Being open to change and to new possibilities adds a richness to your life. Why not embrace it. Change is happening all around you. By embracing it, you can see the changes in your life as possibilities, as opportunities and as adventure.

Here’s a suggestion as to how you can change your perspective. How you start your day sets the tone for the whole day. If you want to open yourself up to possibilities, then change how you begin your morning. What if for just one week, when you wake up in the morning, you just sit on a cushion or a chair and focus on your breath for just five minutes. Not a big time commitment here. But you’ll be amazed how you feel afterwards. Then think about what you are grateful for. just take 30 seconds. One more step that’s fun. Take some time to wonder about what might be the highlight of the day. This simple practice creates positive expectations and definitely gets you going in the right directions.

Enjoy the journey

Mark

Join Mark and his cohost Ralph Marston for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. In his prior career, he was covered by the NY Times, Boston Globe, and Rolling Stone Magazine. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

The Lost Art of Uni-Tasking

Friday, October 11th, 2013

Last week I was in the checkout line at the local health food store. It’s not unusual to run into old friends. I hadn’t seen Oscar in some time. In the midst of a catch-up conversation he attempted to pay his bill. After fumbling around, he laughed and said I better uni-task. So that got me thinking. Multitasking has become pandemic.

We want to do it all and have a concern that we might be missing out on something—that call or message that pertains to a different reality than the one we are engaged in at the present moment. We pay a price for these distractions. In the process we lose our ability to really get into something and know it well. Rather than being in the moment with what we are doing, we are already thinking about something else. Is that something else more important than what we are doing now? And of course the pattern continues. We don’t really commit to being fully present. We don’t commit to just being. Because of this our experience of what’s possible is limited. We never do reach our full potential!

The concern that we will miss out keeps most of us, if not all of us, clued to the latest technological device. As soon as we see or hear a signal that we have an incoming message, we interrupt what we are doing to notice the nature of that incoming message. Very rarely is it something important that has to be handled in the moment.

The bigger price we pay is that the flow of our conversation has been interrupted. None of us like to be interrupted when in the presence of another. In the current scenario we are being interrupted essentially by a computer. The energy changes and the connection has been lost. Sure we have more information at our fingertips, but we’ve replaced intimacy with information. Worrying about missing out on something actually will lead to a bigger loss. Which is missing out on intimately connecting with others.

It also neglects the importance of the person with whom we are interacting and in the process ourselves. We have allowed our lives to be programmed by computers. It raises the question as to how much free will we really have.

It’s also symptomatic of a bigger problem. Our concern about external events gets in the way of our being in the moment.

I’m often asked what I think are the main concerns that people experience. Perhaps the biggest concern is how to make peace with an uncertain future. Our challenge is to develop a trust that if we live totally in the present that the uncertainty we have about the future will unfold the way it should. Our part is to be 100% committed to whatever we are engaged in. It doesn’t mean to be in denial of some of the problems that we all experience individually and collectively. But when we approach these concerns with 100% focus and effort, then we begin to discover solutions to problems that previously were thought to be insoluble.

Intellect and information are extremely important, but by themselves are not enough. What has been lost is the ability to connect with others and to work together. It’s difficult to connect with someone when you are not being in the moment with them and truly listening to what their concerns are. You can’t truly get them when you are multitasking.

Yes we are curious and have a desire to know. Learn to trust that for one precious moment it’s all going to work out. For that one moment just be. Try it for ten minutes. Just be and give your concerns a holiday. They don’t need you all of the time. That holiday includes taking a vacation from your smart phone.

Living in the moment and being present is an art form that can be cultivated. The ones that have mastered it have a presence about them. They are connected to the source of their personal power and all that is and has always been.

Meditation in the morning is an essential practice to cultivate in this rapidly changing world. It’s the first step toward becoming a master uni-tasker.

Enjoy the journey

Mark

Join Mark and his cohost Ralph Marston for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Focus on What’s in Front of You

Monday, October 7th, 2013

As a life coach, I’m quite often asked what I think are the main concerns that people have. What I see is that the concerns and worries about the future get in the way of our enjoying and finding peace in the moment. Not only that but these concerns can contribute to our being ineffective.

We need to find that balance. We should have concerns about the future, but to go forward so that we’re focusing on each step and that we’re enjoying the journey.

Imagine you are climbing a mountain. It could be hiking or mountain biking. In the beginning you look up at the top of the mountain. But if your focus is only there, you won’t notice the beautiful scenery along the way; the trees, the wildlife, the streams and all of the beauty that there is to experience.

There might be times when you need a rest, so you take some time to relax. You notice what’s around you. Then you continue climbing toward your goal.

It’s that concern with getting there that gets in the way of your enjoying the moment.

You have reached this place in your life. Assess where you are and be grateful for what you have and what you’ve accomplished. Be grateful for the tools and resources that you have that can move you forward in your life.

You can let go of the past. You can think bigger. You are ready to climb a higher part of the mountain.

Enjoy the Adventure,

Mark

Join Mark and his cohost Ralph Marston for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Empower your MInd

Friday, October 4th, 2013

So something happens in your life. Or it could be something someone says. Your mind goes into high gear coming up with all kinds of explanations about the significance of what just occurred. If we could just let it go and move on and think about something else, we would be in good shape. It’s one of our biggest challenges. The good news is that we can learn to let it go and move on.

Quite often the meaning we give an occurrence is full of worry and doubt. We often imagine the worst case scenario. We think to ourselves, “If only this problem could get resolved, I’ll be home free.” It will or it wont’ get resolved. But we know eventually there will be something else that occurs that will trigger that same mindset.

There is a more empowering mindset that you can cultivate. “What if things turn out better than expected?” They can, but you have to begin planting the seed for that scenario to occur.

If you have been following me over the years, you know that I strongly believe that how you begin your day sets the tone for the day. So take some time in the morning to meditate, to be grateful, and to wonder about the highlight of the day. Wondering about the highlight sets in motion a positive expectation. It’s amazing what can occur if you are consistent with this practice.

In fact you can begin to introduce empowering questions into your everyday experience of life. If you are going to an event, you can wonder with whom you’ll have the best connection. It begins with your thoughts. And you have the power to shape those thoughts. The mind is easily influenced, especially by the media. It plays on our desires.

Eldon Taylor, in his new empowering book, Choices and Illusions, reminds us how easily our minds are influenced. Based on scientific research he gives us practices and techniques that can empower us to change our beliefs and live the life we really want. It’s worth reading.

Have you listened to the Journey ON radio show yet? blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Journey ON

Mark

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.


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