Archive for September, 2013

Turn on the Electricity

Sunday, September 29th, 2013

You walk into a dark room and turn on the light switch. Nothing happens. You try another light switch and again nothing happens. You even try a different room and still nothing happens. Now you know that the electricity is turned off.

That’s what our lives are like when we are not connected to our personal power. We waste a lot of time attempting to achieve, and get nothing in return. We waste a lot of energy. Rather than changing a few external things like changing the light bulb or calling an electrician we need to look inside to discover the source of our faulty connection. And we know it begins with us.

Imagine driving your car when your shock absorbers are old and broken down. Every bump in the road is magnified so that even the smallest bumps affect you. After a while all you see are the imperfections in the road. Does this seem familiar? When you are connected to your center, instead of seeing imperfections, you see possibilities.

Here’s what I suggest that will begin the process of connecting with your center. Begin your day by taking time for yourself and I mean before looking at your smart phone. Sit quietly for ten minutes. Then think about what you are grateful for. One more thing. Think about what the highlight of your day might be. First think about your scheduled meetings. And then leave open the possibility that something great that is not on your agenda right now might occur.

What happens is that you create a positive expectation that something great will happen during the day. So you’re open to it. Try it for 30 days and see what happens. It works. This has been my practice for many years and that of the many people with whom I have been privileged to coach.

Enjoy the Adventure,

Mark

Join Mark and his cohost Ralph Marston for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Today is the First Day of the Rest of your Life

Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

It was years ago, while visiting a friend, that i first heard this remark. I was in my twenties at the time, confused and in transition, and my friend seemed so mystical. It seems in one way or the other, we are always in transition.

“Today is the first day of the rest of your life,” was what she said. I’ll never forget that meeting. So make your life what you want it to be. Move forward. Don’t dwell on went wrong. Remember none of us are perfect.

But in that first day, it’s essential that we take that first step. Perhaps it’s the most difficult one. Then we take another one and soon we get a sense of where we are going.

But its that first one. We are so concerned about making mistakes that we hesitate and over analyze. In our minds we picture every possible scenario. Before beginning we look for the guarantee that our actions will be rewarded.

As we know there are no guarantees in life. But we can perform our due diligence to ascertain whether the next step is a wise move for ourselves, but there is always going to be some risk. As some point we have to trust and take that next step. Jump in the river, you are going to get wet anyway.

So become comfortable with not knowing, and be curious about what’s next.

Enjoy the Adventure,

Mark

Join Mark and his cohost Ralph Marston for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Be Curious about What’s Next.

Saturday, September 21st, 2013

There is an invisible web beyond space and time that connects more than we realize. While many seemingly random events do seem to fit together from different periods of our lives, there are just no explanations for many things that have occurred. They just happen. The many mysteries and miracles that have preceded us can’t be explained in words. The universe has existed for billions of years. Relatively speaking, we are just here for a short time.

While we are here, we try to make sense of it. We learn from each other and from all of our experiences. There is a tendency in most of us, if not all of us, to try to come up with answers for everything that happens in our life. So we make stuff up such as, “Life sucks; What should I have expected.” Of course we can choose to adopt a more positive scenario. “What a beautiful day. Life is good.” We don’t need to have an explanation or answer for everything. It’s okay not to know. In fact that’s when the fun begins. If we always knew the answer or what was next, life would get boring.

So become comfortable with not knowing, and be curious about what’s next.

Enjoy the Journey,

Mark

Join Mark and his cohost Ralph Marston for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Developing your GPS of Inner Change

Monday, September 16th, 2013

Most of us, when beginning a journey, have a clear sense of where we are going. If it’s a local destination we know how to get there and we take into consideration any potential delays.

If it’s a new destination that we are unfamiliar with, we do a little research….perhaps we map quest it or check our GPS. The GPS lets us know where we are now and how to get where we want to go. It’s a great system the only essential being that we need to know where we want to go. If we don’t know where we want to go we’ll go around in circles and get frustrated.

In our personal life journey the challenge is to become clear as to what we want to accomplish and who we want to become. We want to make a difference. We feel better about ourselves when we are contributing to others. We want to have a purpose for being here.

Having a purpose motivates us. It is the motivation necessary for us to take the next step. It makes the struggle, which occurs from time to time, justified.

Just as the GPS helps us get to where we want to go, we can develop an internal GPS that teaches us the tools and skills that enable us to get to where we want to to. Without a personal daily practice, which is the first step in developing your GPS of internal change, it will be difficult to navigate these challenges. In the next blog we’ll focus on some of the practices that help us develop our own GPS of inner change.

Join me and my cohost Ralph Marston for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon.

Enjoy the Journey,

Mark

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

The Dynamics of Perfectionism

Thursday, September 5th, 2013

Every once in a while you have the good fortune to be in a room when the speaker says something so profound that you have to write it down. I always take that as a sign that I should not only write it down, but explore it further.

The process of writing then becomes a journey of discovery. Quite often that exploration leads to new insights.

“I am run by the need to control and to be perfect,” is what she said.

There is some of that attitude in all of us. We all know what control means. It implies a certain rigidity and unwillingness to allow for an expansion of what might be. We want it our way, whether it’s something that we are involved in, or our interaction with another person. Even though we have heard over and over again we can’t control another person, we keep trying.

The need to be perfect and to control implies a lack of trust in what might be. When we have a preconceived notion as to the perfect outcome, we limit the natural unfolding of what’s possible. We don’t allow for the possibility that the circumstances and our notion of perfection might change. We don’t allow for the possibility that perfection is an evolving dynamic state of being.

For many years my life was structured with raising a family and having a law career. In a professional setting we can see the need to be perfect as compliance with certain rules, regulations and deadlines. When I was an attorney, if we didn’t file a document timely, we wouldn’t get the opportunity to discuss the merits of our position. Being timely and getting the project done was just the price of admission.

We also have to be mindful that there is an external standard that defines excellence and perfection. But even in that context there is a great amount of subjectivity as to what is a perfect result. We are reminded of this truth by some of the phrases that are used in everyday conversations.
“You played that perfectly.” “That worked to perfection.“

Once you have paid the price of admission and are in the arena, you get to bring the real you to the party. You can be effective in a way that feels authentic and still be successful in your career. In my own way I was able to make my career a form of self-expression and a way to more fully express who I was.

For various reasons, not all of us choose to play in the arena. My friend, who I will refer to Carl in this article, was like that. For him getting it done wasn’t a priority.

He is a music prodigy. He can play six or seven instruments as well as anyone can play just one. For the last ten years he has been working on a recording project. But he is reluctant to let it go and share it with others. For Carl nothing is good enough.

Life, like art, is a process and journey of discovery. By the time I wrote my book, Dancing on the River, I had much practice in letting go and trusting the process of creation. By that time I had written several newsletters and shared them with many others. I kept working them before releasing them to the universe. I always wondered if they were good enough. It was only by sharing them with others and allowing room for feedback that I developed the confidence that I had something of significance to contribute.

At some point you have to let go of control and the need to be perfect and trust the feedback from the universe and from others.

Rather then thinking about the need to be perfect, think about perfection in a more enlightened way. Perfection is not an absolute standard that you are striving to get to, but a dynamic evolving state that has its share of peaks and valleys. In that process the path of perfection becomes your greatest teacher. You learn to enjoy each step on the way even when you are not sure where it is taking you.

What we find on this journey of discovery is that life has many more complexities than we envisioned. We can’t control every possibility and there are always going to be a few loose ends. Our challenge is to live in this uncertainty. Finally we get to that place when we say to ourself, “It’s ready, I’m ready.” We let go and move on to the next phase. There always will be that next phase.

For me that next phase is the work that I am doing now which is an intuitive and creative process. Along the way we discover what life has in store for us. Sometimes life knocks us to our knees, but we get up and face another day stronger for the experience.

Each day becomes an ongoing adventure. We learn to embrace the unfolding of this adventure as the perfection of the universe.

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  

Enjoy the Journey,

Mark

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Each Day

Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013

I am reminded over and over again of the importance of consistency, even if it’s just a little bit every day.

Quite often when we think about a project, we focus on the difficulties and the effort that it will entail. In fact we are so good at focusing on the difficulties, that we talk ourselves out of doing the project or at least beginning. As a result we stay on the sidelines and watch the river of life flow by without us.

The commitment of daily practice is what it takes. When beginning a project at home or in the workplace here is a strategy that I have found quite successful.

Before beginning get a sense of what is involved. Then break it down into smaller segments so that you can estimate how long the project will take. Even it takes longer that’s ok.

Here’s the key. If you keep breaking down the project into smaller segments, the project seems much more doable.

It might not go exactly as you had hoped. Even so, each new challenge is much easier to deal with. And you can take the time to focus on each new challenge and really get into it. It gives you an opportunity to deeply focus and to practice being in the moment. That’s what it comes down to; to be focused on the now which is a life long process…It’s not too late.

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.


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