Archive for June, 2013

Does Procrastination get a bad Rap?

Monday, June 10th, 2013

So maybe you think you’re a procrastinator. In a life coaching session yesterday, Carl certainly felt that way.  In a certain way we are all procrastinators. This is what I mean. There is no question that  some things  we put on the back burner, because in our realm they are not important. And there are some things we just put off doing. But let’s not forget about all of the things we love doing. And of course there are many things on our schedule that are done timely with no hesitation. Very few of us would think of missing an appointment because that would be a violation of our “personal code of ethics.”  So what is true is that in the scheme of things we have values and priorities.

Even in our “to do” list there are certain priorities. But we get it done and if it doesn’t have to be done right away we’ll do it later. And if there is something we really want to do, we do it without hesitation.

If we want to get more done, then we must add more value to what we’re doing. For example, at times in our lives, we have all vowed to eat healthier. Some of us do and some of us don’t. And it goes in cycles. But if our doctor or health practitioner tells us that certain foods are the cause of our poor health, we’re more likely to eliminate those foods from our diet.

What many of us call procrastination, is the recognition of our priorities. If you want to get more done, then change your priorities. To Get on the positive side of change, raise the stakes and you won’t have a procrastination problem.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

MARK

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  Http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

The Path to the Top of the Mountain

Saturday, June 8th, 2013

For the last seven or eight years I have enjoyed a recreational activity that gives me exercise and satisfies my longing to be in nature. When I ride my bike on the mountain I feel exhilarated, refreshed and proud of myself.  Putting on my biking clothes, oiling my bike and riding down the street are the beginning of a ritual that has evolved over time. Within 10 minutes, as I climb the trails of Mt Tam, I feel transported to a different world, one in which I leave behind all of my worldly concerns. In this world I feast on the beauty and tranquility of nature with its wildlife, majestic redwoods, flowing streams and the smell of fresh air. As part of my ritual I end my ride at the health food store and enjoy a healthy drink.

It was there that I ran into my young friend Bobby who is an avid rider. He rides his bike daily to the college but isn’t that familiar with some of the trails on the mountain. I offered to show him some of my favorites.  Soon after we set a date for our ride, I started thinking about what trails I could show him that would be challenging for him but not too challenging for me.

A few days later we started on our ride. For the first part of the ride, we began climbing a trail which was part of my usual loop.  And then I knew it was time for me to stretch and ride higher. As I looked up from the place on the trail where I usually stopped I wondered if I could climb higher.  In my mind I surveyed the incline to be 25-30 degrees at its steepest point, which was much steeper than what I was used to.

It’s amazing how changing our thinking changes our experience of almost anything. I knew that the steepest part of the climb was in the beginning. If I could climb beyond that phase then there was no reason I couldn’t climb all the way to the top of the ridge. As I started climbing my focus shifted from the top of the ridge and how difficult the climb might be, to what was immediately in front of me. In the 2 or 3 yards in front of me I did not notice any slope at all even though I knew there had to be some.  As I continued the climb in this manner, instead of feeling tired I was able to maintain my energy and when I looked ahead I was almost at the top of the ridge.

Because I was able to climb higher than before I was able to see things for the first time. When I reached the pinnacle I was able to see for miles in every direction. The view had always been there but I had never put myself in a position to notice it. For the first time, I felt the interconnectedness of my surroundings; an interconnectedness that was always present even if I wasn’t able to see it.

Were it not for my change in thinking and sense of adventure I would have stopped miles ago. And that’s what so many of us do—we stop when it begins to feel uncomfortable instead of continuing to explore the unknown.

In my work with many of my coaching clients, I ask them what their biggest regret is.  The most common response is that they didn’t risk enough. They never do find out what’s possible. Certainly that has been true for me at various times in my life.

As you successfully take risks, you become more confident in what is possible and what you can accomplish. That’s when you find that you are more willing to get out of your comfort zone and explore new horizons. This expanded sense of exploration, extends to all aspects of your life including opening your heart and risking feeling more. And that’s when you will feel most alive and fulfilled.

Often its subtle shifts in thinking that make it possible to reach and experience higher levels. That was certainly true for me. My shift from thinking about the difficult trail ahead to what was immediately in front of me, enabled me to reach the pinnacle.

I know that you have your own mountain to climb. Sometimes when you think of the big picture the task ahead seems daunting and you don’t know where to begin. You might feel that whatever you do will just be a drop in the bucket. Here’s a suggestion that has worked for me and many others that I work with. Start with just one little thing and then continue to make little changes consistently. Over time you will see a dramatic difference in the quality of your life.

Do something new or different everyday for at least ten days. You could make it into a game. It could be as simple as taking a different route to work or getting up earlier and meditating. It could be listening to some new music. Or something as basic as brushing your teeth with your other hand. It definitely gets you thinking as to other things you do routinely and don’t pay attention to.  As you begin to make these changes on a regular basis you will notice that you become more comfortable with the concept of change. As this occurs, you wonder what else you can change. Your sense of what is possible keeps expanding and evolving. And that’s when you will be willing to risk exploring the unknown.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

MARK

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  Http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Don’t Take Things Personally

Sunday, June 2nd, 2013

In a life coaching session yesterday, with Carl who is our perennial student, we discussed why he was always tired. Carl’s challenge was to know when to take a stand and when to let go. Carl needed to create more clarity as to what was important to him and what wasn’t. Another way of saying it was that Carl needed to learn how to kick back.

Carl wasted precious energy by taking everything personally. Instead of seeing the problem for what it was, he made it about him and would often get sidetracked.  Before he knew it, he forgot what his purpose was for doing something. Taking things personally is one of the biggest energy drainers out there.

Carl was often obsessed with getting even and thinking that others were out to get him. Look at it this way. When you focus on getting even, it makes it more difficult to get ahead.

Focus on the possibilities and if someone becomes an obstacle, continue to focus on the solutions. You can’t change the other person. His way of doing things has been engrained in him for many years. Don’t let an unreasonable and irrational person getting tin the way of what you want to achieve.

So for Carl, the message was clear.  Carl, skip the drama. Stay focused.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  Http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

 

 


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