Archive for May, 2013

Does Multitasking Lead to Multiple Layers of Stress?

Thursday, May 23rd, 2013

With all of the modern technology, very few of us are able to focus 100% on the task at hand; a phone call is interrupted by another phone call or a text. We develop habitual patterns that run our lives. We become slaves to our smart phones or even newer technology. We become mulitaskers experiencing multiple layers of stress.

We know a great deal about many different subjects, but are masters of none. We wake up one day realizing that our lives are out of control. Perhaps we takes a crisis but we wonder what we can  do to begin to reclaim our lives.

Reclaiming your life is a journey to wholeness. It’s a choice about priorities. It’s a choice about being aligned with what really matters to you.  It’s a choice about saying, “Yes” to life.

Take a few minutes to wonder about your top priority. What’s it going to take to make that priority your current reality? Are you willing to go for it?

There is an unexpected benefit when you learn to focus 100%. You develop a sense of what mastery is all about. When you develop a sense of mastery in one area of your life,  it has an amazing ability to affect your entire  life. It transcends what would otherwise be limitations in other areas of your life. You experience your entire life in a new and exciting way

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  Http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

The Key to Silencing your Inner Critic

Wednesday, May 22nd, 2013

Most of us would give anything to silence our inner critic, our voice of judgment or what we call in coaching, “the gremlin,’ for a day. We would take just an hour to get a sense of what it’s like. You know the voice, although it has many disguises. “nothing will change. I’m not lovable. It’s no use.”

If you don’t do anything to disrupt this voice, its hypnotic spell can last a lifetime.  The doing something is a different type of doing.  It’s just noticing when your gremlin raises its voice.  Simply by recognizing it, you break the spell.

I have found that giving this voice a name is very effective. I call my gremlin Ralph.  The biggest challegne is that Ralph has many disguises. There are clues along the way which make it easier to recognize him if I pay attention.  That’s a big “if.”

I can start with all of the things that I don’t like and that bother me.  They might be the  injustices in the world, or something in life that I don’t think is fair.  It might be another person that I don’t like or respect.  It might be how I look or how I handled a particular interaction.  I could go on and on.  I’m sure you get the idea.  Remember, we are our own worst critics. Don’t try to reason with your gremlin.  Your work is to just notice when your gremlin raises its head. The sooner you recognize your gremlin, the sooner you break the spell and get on the positive side of change.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  Http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

What’s Holding you Back?

Tuesday, May 21st, 2013

Very few of us are living the life that we want.   While some of us are moving in the right direction and getting on the positive side of change, there is still an elusive quality that we strive for. ‘It’s difficult to put in words but we keep trying. We make up a story why we aren’t living that life. 

Many of us have assumptions that hold us back that in our minds explains why our life is what it is.  As a result we’re hesitant to take a stand.  In the workplace we have a list of assumptions as to why we aren’t  qualified or why we aren’t successful.  These assumptions often result in our not putting forth our best effort.  You might be familiar with some of them. ”If this was going to work, it would have happened by now. It’s a dead-end.’ So we stay stuck and live a life that perhaps is comfortable but not fulfilling.

And in relationships we have assumptions about who the other person is. We judge them and don’t see them for who they are. Because of this we are shocked when the other person expresses dissatisfaction with the relationship. Sometime we’re blindsided, only because we had blinders on.

What I would like you to do for the next week is to look at your life and write down two reasons that you believe are holding you back. And then ask yourself, “Are they really holding me back?”

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  Http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Constant and Never-ending Improvement

Monday, May 20th, 2013

Life is a marathon. There are times in our lives when we struggle and times when we soar. The important thing to remember is that from all of our experiences we can learn. And from what we learn we can improve upon the quality of our lives.

Perhaps the most significant learning is that you always have room to have a better attitude. You can be more positive and yet not deny your current circumstances. When you get on the positive side of change,  you see clearly the challenges ahead not as obstacles, but as stimuli to achieve excellence.

At some point you begin see possibilities rather  problems. You smile for no reason and say to yourself, “Yes, I can.”  The quality of your life is determined by your attitude. When you’re positive, you’re usually  happy and optimistic. It might take a while but it’s the consistency that makes the difference. There is a Japanese expression, CANI, which is an acronym for  Constant and Never-ending Improvement. Take this on as a challenge and make it  fun. At the end of the day ask yourself, What did I learn today and how did that make me a better person?

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  Http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

 

The Benefits of Positive Thinking

Saturday, May 18th, 2013

Recently I was a radio guest on Lois Berman’s show (Loisontheline). I was posed a question. What do you say to someone who is positive, works with affirmations and doesn’t get the result they were looking for.

In my life coaching practice I’m also asked that same question. There is a popular notion, made more popular by the movie the Secret and other authors, that if you visualize what you want, it will manifest. But it doesn’t always work that way. I believe in using affirmations and being positive. And i am positive most of the time.

But when you primarily focus on the desired result you overlook all of the good that is in front of you.  When you are positive, each day can be an adventure and fulfilling at the same time. Being positive shifts your attitude so that you are looking for the good rather than focusing on what’s wrong. And when you are positive you become more attractive to others regardless of the situation.

Here’s what you can do that will help you to be more positive every day. In the morning after taking time for reflection, think about your day and what might be the highlight of that day. As your day progresses you are in a state of wonderment. You think to yourself, “I wonder if this is the highlight.” In essence you make a decision before your day even begins that there will be a highlight. Your inquiry is what that highlight is. It’s a great practice. At the end of the day, you might have two or three great choices.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  Http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

Say, “Good-bye” to Complaining

Friday, May 17th, 2013

So it didn’t work out. You’re disappointed and question whether it was worth “it.” The ‘it’ is different for each of us depending on where we are in our lives. But complaining about what happened or why we aren’t living the life we truly want doesn’t get us anywhere.

What is valuable is to look at the underlying patterns that keep repeating themselves. Some of you remember Carl—— his issue was a string of relationships that didn’t work out. Carl kept choosing partners who were unavailable.  But it was safe for him because he knew that the relationship wouldn’t go anywhere. And he got to complain which he had been doing most of his life. After he discovered what his pattern was, he began to choose more available partners and his relationships were much more fulfilling.

So let it go. It happened. Stop wishing it were different. Instead of complaining, ask what you have learned from the experience about yourself and how this learning can benefit you in the future.

Make it a habit. When something doesn’t work out, automatically ask yourselves what you’ve learned. What would your life be like if you stopped complaining?

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  Http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

The Power of Your Imagination

Thursday, May 16th, 2013

 

There is a tremendous power that we all have access to and affects us daily. You know it and for many of us runs our life. You might be wondering what that power is. It’s worry. Think about it. Worry affects us every day, but what is it. It’s our imagination, imagining worse case scenarios. There is an acronym that reminds me of this truth. F.E.A.R.—False Evidence Appearing Real. Our imagination used in this manner can paralyze us and make us miserable and ineffective.

But there is a better way. Our imagination can be used to imagine best case scenarios. Even if those best case scenarios don’t happen, we’ll feel better and excited about possibilities in our lives that at one time we didn’t know existed. We will also get on the positive side of change.

When I was in my twenties I was struggling to graduate from law school and to pass the bar. All I could see was the day to day struggle and what was ahead; looking for a job.

And then my girl friend at the time, Kallie, asked me a question. “How do you want your life to be in fine years?” So I’m asking you the same question. Imagine your life five years from now, the way you want it to be.

Develop a daily practice. After taking time for inner reflection and silence, imagine that life and express gratitude for having it. Make this practice a daily habit for 30 days and then see what happens. It’s a small investment of thought and time, that can change your life, both in the way you feel and in what you manifest.

Let me know how it goes.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  Http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

 

Life Lessons from the River

Saturday, May 4th, 2013

Wouldn’t it be great if there was a formula if followed would be the answer to all of our problems and concerns. We are intrigued by books and lectures that promise us happiness and a better life.

If you have been a reader of this blog, you know that I make frequent references to the river.  Perhaps you already know the story. When I was 13 years old, my Uncle Sam took me on a weeklong river rafting trip on the Green River in Colorado.  We flew from San Francisco to Boise and then caught a little six-seat plane that flew us over the mountains and landed in a town near our campsite.  We then got into an old school bus that drove us to the river.

On the second day of the trip I was swimming along the side of the raft when I noticed the raft getting ahead of me and I heard the yells:  “Get in the boat. Get in the boat.” But it was too late. As I swam toward the boat, I became exhausted from the struggle. I heard more yells: “Stay in the center. Stay in the center.”  That’s what I tried to do. I let go as I was swirled through the rapids a few feet behind the boat. I made it to the other side. I was now in calm water and able to relax for a second until I noticed the next series of rapids approaching. At the last second my uncle extended an oar and miraculously I was able to grab it as I was pulled onto the boat.

On the way home, my uncle said something to me that was prophetic. “ You’ll think about this trip later in life.“  It wasn’t until many years later, on a return trip to Colorado, while visiting a friend that I thought about it. As I sat high on a mountaintop, staring into a reddish canyon, I saw a river. I reflected upon my river experience many years previously. I thought about my life and all that had occurred up to that moment in time. There were the ups and downs, the joys and sorrows and the remarkable people who had been my guides on this journey. I reflected upon eight principles that have been my inner guides that have helped me navigate the changing nature of the river.

  • Find and live from your center. When you are centered and connected to your source, you are connected with the source of everything.  That’s when you are able to let go, to trust and to flow with what is. When I let go in the river and stayed in the center, I became at one with that same energy and power that had forged a path over thousands of years. Meditation has facilitated my connecting with that center on a daily basis.
  •  Develop the practice of gratitude. I was grateful for that oar. I was grateful that I got to experience the river. And I am grateful for my life. We have much to be grateful for.  We are truly abundant.
  • Be curious. Think of your life as a river with its lessons, challenges and complexities. Being curious about the changing nature of the river enables you to know and sense its many currents. As this knowing emerges, you’re more comfortable with not knowing where the river is taking you. In the process you become the person you’ve always wanted to be, fully present with life, and passionate about living.
  • Be prepared. I wore a life preserver on the river. When you are prepared you can relax and enjoy life’s unfolding. Preparation involves nurturing your mind and body, including eating well and exercising. It involves working on yourself and being receptive to new ideas and concepts. In the process of becoming an expanded person, your sense of what is possible in your also expands.
  • Get out of your comfort zone.  I could have stayed in the boat and played it safe but I was curious and adventurous. My comfort zone for me was my law practice and as a result my life for many years was on hold. Getting in the current and flow of life involves risk, but that is what you must do if you want to realize your full potential.
  •  Learn to let go of resistance. Resistance is a constant  struggle. At some point in your life, not only do you become tired from the struggle, you become tired of the struggle. When you allow yourself to flow with what is, you experience a synchronicity that can’t be described in words.
  •  Trust others and work together. You can’t do it alone and why would you want to. When you are open and willing to receive you create a synergy in your life that is greater than the sum of the individual parts. When the oar is extended accept it.
  •  The River of Life is a great mystery. I am becoming increasingly more comfortable with not knowing the next step. And when it comes I enjoy taking it. The river is unpredictable and you can’t figure it out.

As you begin to integrate these eight principles into your life, you’re more confident that wherever the river takes you, you have the tools and inner resources to swim in the deeper waters and swifter currents.

With each passing year I am blessed to share the journey with many likeminded travelers.  Thank you for expanding our circle by forwarding this link to those in your circle. By the way when is your next river rafting trip?

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Please join me for the Journey On radio show. I am cohosting the show with my good friend Ralph Marston who publishes the Daily Motivator.  Http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyon

Mark Susnow, is an executive-life coach and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.


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