Archive for November, 2012

DO IT ANYWAY

Thursday, November 29th, 2012

Getting on the positive side of change can become a life changing habit that is exciting and dynamic. After a while we look forward to change as an adventure and opportunity.

But it takes us a while to get there. As a life coach, I get to see how people sabotage themselves. One of the ways is the failure to follow through which is a cousin to procrastination. You think about doing something and it sounds good but you don’t do anything about it. “Another great idea stuck in your mind.” You either talk yourself out of it or just don’t do anything about it.

What I’ve learned is that there is no better time than now to begin. We might say to ourselves, “Yes it is a good idea, but I’ll get to it when “this” happens.” The “this” is something we believe will occur in the future. Unfortunately there will always be another excuse that gets in the way. Perhaps you’ve heard the expression, “You either get results or have excuses.”

The next time you have a good idea, make it happen. You are the perfect person to implement it. You had a vision. See it through.

Most likely had you already begun, you would have completed the project over and over again.

Putting it off doesn’t make it easier. In fact it makes it more difficult. As I’ve said before you could have completed it by now or at least got a head start on completing it.

Even some activities such as hobbies we keep putting off. My newest hobby is playing the piano. I had thought playing for many years and always had a piano in my house. There was no way that waiting was going to make it easier. I took the plunge and began. I made the commitment to do the work and to practice. I found a teacher who has accelerated the process.

Now I am at the point where I can explore more interesting ideas and I look forward to sitting down and playing. But I had to pay my dues to get here. There are some days when I don’t feel like practicing, but I practice anyway.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

REDEFINING RICHNESS

Tuesday, November 27th, 2012

From time to time, many of us have refered to some people as being “rich.” Let’s look at this concept using a different “paradigm.”

Being rich is not about acquiring or getting riches or possessions. It’s a reflection of an inner state of joy, which is given freely by our just being ourselves.

In this state, we wake up and begin our day with a sense of peace. From this sense of peace, we’re able to see the beauty all around us. Even when there is a storm brewing, we notice the beauty in the cloud formations. The rain falling has a magic to it. When we meet someone, we notice their inner glow. That’s when we are “rich” in spirit. In this state our whole world opens up.

Our inner richness affects positively those with whom we interact. Just like a rose in full bloom, the whole world is blessed by our presence. It’s what’s on the inside that is more important than what is on the outside.

But in the beginning of this journey it takes commitment to get to this state; to wake up and take time for ourselves with inner reflection and meditation. Then to pause and reflect upon all that we are grateful for. When you approach your day from an “attitude of gratitude”, then you are rich. This is what you give the world.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

FINDING PEACE IN A CHANGING WORLD

Wednesday, November 14th, 2012

In the work that I do, I’m frequently asked what advice I have for those of us who are facing difficulties in our lives.

Life is changing more rapidly than ever before. Many of us are affected by the changing dynamics of the economy. Others are affected by the every day imperfections of life; their careers, their relationships, their health and what isn’t working in their life that captures their attention.

The bigger question is what enables some to keep smiling in the face of this adversity, while others are sapped of their joy and serenity.

The mind is fickle. There is always going to be something that captures the mind’s attention whether we want it to, or not. It could be a headline, a story about someone we know, or about what happened to us during our day. Quite often we don’t know what that trigger is before it occurs. To say it another way: Our mind has a mind of its own.

There is that thing—the circumstance in our life, which we believe prevents us from being happy. You know that thing. We all do. It more than bothers us—quite often we’re obsessed with it. We’ll put our experience of joy on hold until the current concern is resolved. Who knows how long that will be? It could be a lifetime. Usually there is a resolution to the problem or we’ll figure out a solution. Or maybe even the other person will change. And then we’ll be happy again—well maybe not happy, but at least we won’t be as stressed. It is this pattern that I see repeated over and over again.

Unfortunately it doesn’t work that way. Although we might have a temporary reprieve from the recurring stress, it’s only a matter of time until the next thing occurs that bothers us. Let’s explore these tendencies by traveling back in time and discover what our history tells us.

Take a moment to reflect upon what you consider to be your biggest concern. Prior to this concern, what were you most concerned about. If you keep exploring this line of thinking, you’ll notice that you can go on for quite a while. It works in the other direction also. When you travel into the future with the same frame of mind, you’ll only see a wall of worry.

So what am I getting at? Even though life is and always has been changing, the nature and source of our concerns doesn’t change much. There has been and always will be something that concerns us. That’s the way life is. On the path of awakening, we discover that we’re human, not machines that are suppose to be infallible. While finding solutions is important, the exploration needs to shift from trying to avoid these problems to embracing them as opportunities. We also discover that even in the middle of the storm, we can experience that moment of stillness and clarity. We learn how to be and know what we have to do.

Not only are there external shifts in our thinking, there are internal shifts in our perception of reality. These shifts occur simultaneously. There is the external shift of how we see ourselves in the world. Most of us identity with what we do in the world and or from the circumstances of our life. Think about how you sign your name or what you say to describe yourself. Are there initials after your name? Is there a description of what you do, or whom you do it for? It takes a while to come to the realization that we are much more than the labels we use to describe ourselves, and that we are much more than the circumstances we let define our lives.

If you have been a reader of this blog for a while you know I was a trial lawyer for many years. My awareness of my true essence began when I started to meditate which was when I was in my twenties. I began to experience moments of peace and tranquility in the least likely of places. It could be in a courtroom. It could be in the midst of a stadium at a sporting event full of thousands of people.

As you cultivate a spiritual practice, you‘ll be able to shift your focus from the concerns of your daily life to the present moment, where you experience what I call “moments of grace.” These “moments of grace” are just the beginning. With consistent discipline, they become a sanctuary from the concerns of the world.

How you get to and discover this sanctuary is a unique experience, for each of us, that continues to evolve. Since I have written about this in other articles, I’ll only say a few things here. A word that I like to use this feeling is transcendence. We transcend our concept of ordinary reality. Our mind takes a holiday. Athletes experience it as being in the zone. Dancers and musicians become one with the rhythm. Runners feel it when the endorphins kick in. For many, including myself, writing has become a great way of tapping into this stillness. We can’t always get there. But when we do, it is a “moment of grace.”

I hope that I have planted a seed that you continue to cultivate. Hopefully by now you know that you will always have concerns. That’s life. But you can choose happiness. You can smile. You can laugh in the midst of it all.

Journey On

Mark

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

ENJOY EVERY STEP OF THE JOURNEY

Thursday, November 1st, 2012

Over the last eleven years as a life coach I have observed ways of thinking that get in the way of one experiencing happiness.

So often one is so obsessed with achieving a particular goal that they don’t enjoy what’s right in front of them. That goal might be a relationship, a financial goal or a physical one. When this happens my life will be better we think to ourselves. But what happens is that when we do achieve this milestone or just make progress toward it’s never what we think it’s going to be. It has a life of its own. In the meantime we have devalued our moment to moment experience of life. We have put our enjoyment of life on hold.

There is a point in time when you have to let go. Do the right things and trust that you are being guided.

Allow yourself to experience the momentary doubts…they are part of the journey. Imagine you are on a hike and you come to a fork in the road. There is always that question which way to turn. Well you are here in this moment of time. Perhaps it took you longer than you expected but you made it. Perhaps it looks different than you thought. What’s most important is to enjoy the journey. Enjoy every step of the journey, even the uncertain ones.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.


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