Archive for September, 2012

Imagine your life turning out better than you expected! What then!

Thursday, September 27th, 2012

In a life coaching session yesterday with our good friend Carl, perhaps you know him by now, we discussed a recent disappointment that he had in his career. Carl lost a good client and felt disappointed and discouraged. Most of us would likely feel the same way Carl did. What distinguishes the happy and fulfilled person from the one who is not, is how they handle that disappointment and how long it takes them to snap out of it. I suggested to Carl that he reframe what disappointment means and to see it as a challenge. Of course it helps if you like challenges. Certainly it puts a more positive spin on your circumstances.

Let’s say that what happens in a particular situation doesn’t meet your expectations. Ask yourself what you learned from what happened and how you can integrate that learning into moving forward.

There is no advantage by feeling sorry for yourself and wishing things were different. They are what they are. What did you learn and what can you do now to move forward? There is nothing to be gained by wishing that things had turned out differently.

Assess where you are now and ask yourself what’s possible. Then ask yourself what could happen if what concerns you turns out better than expected. Every situation has the potential for positive possibilities. And while you are at it, enjoy the journey.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

TAKE THE STEP IN FRONT OF YOU

Wednesday, September 19th, 2012

In a life coaching session yesterday with our good friend, Carl, we had a discussion about how Carl could experience more fulfillment in his life. Carl was a dreamer. He had a list of things that were wrong with his life. You might be familiar with some of these beliefs. They usually revolve around career or relationships. He believed that if his circumstances were different he could be happy. What about you? What are some of your beliefs that need to be changed before you can be happy?

If you have been a reader of this blog for a while you know the importance that I place on gratitude. I encouraged Carl to be grateful for where he is in his life right now and to be grateful for what he has and what he knows. I also encouraged him to be grateful for the challenges in his life. They have all contributed to who is now.

I explained to Carl that he could feel fulfilled right now…”Nothing needs to happen. Let go of your idealized future and pay attention to your circumstances right now.”

I’m not suggesting to just passively sit back and do nothing about implementing change into your life. The best circumstances from which to implement these changes and to move forward, are the ones you are currently experiencing, not the ones in the future which will never get here, since they are always in the future.

The only perfect time is now. If you wait for those idealized circumstances to come true you will be waiting the rest of you life. Take that step and

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

FOCUS ON WHAT BRINGS YOU ALIVE

Monday, September 17th, 2012

Do you easily get discouraged? When you do, how do you come out of it? That’s a big question for all of us…the easy answer is to change your attitude.

What happens for many, is that when things don’t work out we read into it. We make up a whole scenario as to what it means for our life in the future. That just exacerbates the situation.

You have a choice. When things don’t work out you don’t have to be discouraged. Perhaps this is a stretch, but you can even choose to be joyful.

Let’s explore this concept some more. So it didn’t work out. Let go of what didn’t work and instead focus on how you can improve it.

You can begin to focus on what’s possible. Focus on what you want to create. Focus on your resourcefulness. Think about past situations in your life when things worked out better than you imagined. That’s always a great resource.

Rather than get bogged down about the world around you, think about what you can do to be more positive. Become the beacon of light that inspires others. Not only does it feel good, it’s attractive to others.

Rather than focusing on your fears, focus on what allows you to come alive.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

ECHOES OF THE SELF

Thursday, September 6th, 2012

Do you remember your first teacher? Mine was Mrs. Burdette. I don’t remember much about her, except her name. Since then I’ve had many more teachers and mentors who have all contributed to whom I am today. We learn from all of our experiences and from everyone we meet; some more significant than others. Although we don’t always remember their name, we usually remember the story they told us. When you are a writer, you’re always looking for that story or insight to share. It’s a gift when you hear such a story. So it was with delight when my youngest daughter, Savanna, was visiting last week and I experienced such a moment. As our conversation evolved she shared the following story that speaks for itself.

A son and his father were walking on the mountains.
Suddenly, the son falls, hurts himself and screams:
“AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!”

To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating,
somewhere in the mountain: “AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!”

Curious, he yells: “Who are you?”
He receives the answer: “Who are you?”

Angered at the response, he screams: “Coward!”
He receives the answer: “Coward!”

He looks to his father and asks: “What’s going on?”
The father smiles and says: “My son, pay attention.”

And then he screams to the mountain: “I admire you!”
The voice answers: “I admire you!”

Again the man screams: “You are a champion!”
The voice answers: “You are a champion!”

The boy is surprised, but does not understand.
Then the father explains: “People call this ECHO,
but really this is LIFE.

It gives you back everything you say or do.
Our life is simply a reflection of our actions.

If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart.
If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence.

This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life;
Life will give you back everything you have given to it.

YOUR LIFE IS NOT A COINCIDENCE. IT’S A REFLECTION OF YOU!

As I shared with you in the beginning, quite often we don’t remember the name of the person who tells us the story, even though we remember the story. Savanna and I attempted to determine who wrote this one. We searched the internet and found the story, but the author was unknown. Whoever he or she is, we want to thank them from the bottom of our heart for the gift of their wisdom.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.


Signup for our Email Newsletter

...and get inspired every month!

Close this popup

Would it be helpful to discover the self-defeating habits and limiting beliefs that are preventing you from living the life you really want? As a thank-you, you will have access to our Self-Assessment test.