Archive for June, 2012

PUT ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER

Tuesday, June 26th, 2012

There is a point in our life when we feel we need to make a change, even though we might not have clarity as to an alternative. That was my situation, when I realized that I was done being a trial lawyer. My challenge was that I didn’t have clarity as to what an alternative could be. So I want to a career counselor hoping to get that clarity. Still after a number of sessions, no clarity.

I then questioned whether I should make that career change, since there didn’t seem to be a viable alternative. At the time, my options were to continue as an attorney, or to stop and to do nothing. With a family, I had certain responsibilities that I was conscientious about.

I took a leap of faith, one of the biggest of my life, and gave up my law career, trusting that the next path would be revealed to me. On a deeper level I did have the confidence that since I’ve been successful before, I could be successful in my new life even though I wasn’t sure what that would be. That was twelve years ago. Here I am now, totally involved in a new way of being and a new way of life. So what enabled me to get to where I am now.

You’ve heard it before—one step at a time. When you’re climbing a mountain, you take the step that’s in front of you. When you do that, moving forward is more manageable. So with any of our challenges, that’s all we can do. And we take the next step, we’re able to see a path in the form of possibilities that we weren’t able to see when we first began the journey.

I went on to begin my career as a life coach. Then my newsletter, Letters on Life, and then my book, Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes. The next step was speaking to groups on the Eight Principles of Navigating Change.

This continued evolution consisted of taking small steps, one step at a time. It seemed there was always something that I could do to move forward and to enliven me. Blogging was one of them; meeting new people another.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

HERE’S TO THE REAL WORK

Friday, June 22nd, 2012

If you have been reading this blog for a while you know how much I value taking time in the morning for quiet reflection before I do anything else. How you start your day sets the tone for the entire day. Think about what you want to accomplish both externally and internally. Perhaps it’s completing a project. Perhaps it’s going through the day without overreacting.

As the day progresses you will be pulled in many directions. But what has to happen, so that at the end of the day you can honestly say “This was a good day?”

How often do you take time to think about the quality of your day? I know that many of us are so wrapped up in the challenges and struggles of the day that we don’t think about anything else, even when we get home.

We haven’t learned how to let go and to renew ourselves.

There will always be challenges and obstacles that seem to be in the way of our letting go. There is that familiar refrain of ‘when this problem is resolved, everything will be OK.’ You know it, we all do. Life is cyclical. We have to learn to flow with these cycles.

When you keep in mind what your real work is, it becomes much easier to flow with these cycles.Take the time to nurture yourself and reflect upon what you are to contribute. You make a difference by ‘you being you.’

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

CREATING A NEW ALIVENESS

Wednesday, June 20th, 2012

We all have experienced those moments when we feel like we are just going through the motions. While it is true that we are getting the job done, we might add ‘barely’ to the mix. The projects seem to take longer and it seems as if we accomplish less. And yet we don’t know what we can do to change it.

Let’s face it, we’re stuck. We feel boxed in and it seems as if there isn’t a way out. We don’t realize that we do have a choice and that we can do things differently.

But the change is within us and and it begins with changing our attitude. Each day presents us with a new opportunity to sculpt our day, the way we want it to be. It’s an opportunity for us to be creative and innovative.

Even though we continue to do some of the same things, we can learn how to change our attitude. Like many things, it’s learning a new habit which takes time. But it’s not as difficult as it seems. You have to begin somewhere. So first things first.

As you start your day be curious as to what the day might bring. Ask yourself, what the highlight of your day might be.

Think about what you have scheduled and wonder what might be the highlight. Allow for the possibility that it might be something unexpected. As your day progresses you are wondering about what the highlight might be.

Do you think that your day might have a new vitality, a new aliveness? Try it and see what happens.

And what you’ll find out is that some new and exciting possibilities will open up.

Be curious and open yourself up to these possibilities.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

YOU GET TO CHOOSE

Tuesday, June 19th, 2012

In yesterday’s blog, we talked about the path of creating the ‘new you.’ It starts with a recognition that on some level you are dissatisfied. This recognition gets you wondering if there is another way. Quite often we are unable to see what’s possible.

No problem. This inquiry has led you to where you are on the journey. Each of us has a unique rhythm and travels at a different pace. What’s possible for you might not resemble what’s possible for someone else.

The important thing is to begin visualizing the life you wand to lead. And then doing something in furtherance of that life. Take a step forward toward creating the ‘new you.’

What’s equally important is to enjoy the journey of discovery. When we are enjoying ourselves, regardless of our circumstances, our entire life brightens up.

We become like magnets. As we continue on this journey and our life shines, we attract fellow travelers who want to know what our secret is. They want to be part of what we are creating.

Success won’t come to us until we learn to enjoy what we’re doing now, wherever we are on the journey. I’m thinking of success as an inner state. Without the inner fulfillment, our life will seem empty. It will just be a succession of achieving various goals. If the inner isn’t satisfied, we’ll never be happy.

As you become grateful for your life on a daily basis, you find that your joy meter keeps getting higher. Enjoy yourself, others and the work you do. Be grateful for the opportunity to make a contribution.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

THE NEW ‘YOU’ IS ALIVE AND WELL

Monday, June 18th, 2012

Perhaps you have a vision of the life you want to live. You’re not quite there yet. In fact, in your mind it doesn’t seem possible, so you go on with your life learning to be comfortable with what is. In one sense, it’s not a bad strategy—you’re not disappointed or too discouraged, but what is missing is the passion and zest for living.

You don’t want to go on that way any longer. So you decide to do something about it; perhaps as in my situation, you make a career change.

You’re out of your comfort zone exploring new territory——new rules, new people and new information that you’re not sure about. Perhaps you question your decision, maybe more than just a few times.

But for the first time in a while you’re excited You extend yourself and try new things and some work. Some don’t. Even so in every step you’re closer to defining what it is you’re trying to accomplish. You feel engaged, although your progress seems slower than you would like.
You’re exploring that edge. It keeps expanding.

You’re able to see the big picture. You have to start somewhere. A year goes by and you look back. You’ve made progress. You’ve actually accomplished more than you realized.

Yet you still feel discouraged at times. But then you remind yourself why you began this journey. You realize that you are actually living that life, perhaps not on the level you would like it to be.

Another year goes by. You realize that you’re doing it. What was once a dream is now your reality. You’re a player in the new arena.
You have reinvented yourself. The ‘new’ you is alive and well.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

THE ACTION STEP

Thursday, June 14th, 2012

The power of visualization is a popular subject these days. From its health benefits to its power in helping us create the life we want, we’re increasingly aware of it. Some have had great success with these practices.

There are even movies about how visualizing the life you want will lead to its manifestation. There is certainly value in developing clarity as to what it is we want. But by itself is not enough. Without some form of action, the visualization remains just a picture in our minds.

Don’t get me wrong. There is certainly great value in having a clear sense of what it is you want and what it looks like. And there is value in having a plan as to how to manifest it. But without more, nothing is going to happen.

What is it that you can do now to move toward its implementation of your plan?

I remember when I embarked upon my new path as a life coach. I sent out a letter to everyone I knew thinking that the response would be so great that I wouldn’t have time to respond to all of the inquiries. There were not any responses until I took action by following up with phone calls. My taking action by making those initial calls were instrumental in my getting to where I am now.

Even if you feel that you are not ready, you can still take a small step now. Don’t wait for the perfect time to begin. Begin now. Take the step. Even if you’re not fully prepared, there’s something you can
do right now.

The action step sends a message to the universe that you are committed. Action accomplishes more than just the immediate results it
creates. Action takes you much further than just the belief you can do it. It’s great to have a belief in your abilities; but go beyond your intentions and make it come alive. Let the universe know you are committed.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

THE WAKE UP CALL

Wednesday, June 13th, 2012

I remember when I got the wake-up call. I wasn’t perfect. Far from it. A few people walked out of my life. It’s what I needed at the time. I didn’t know what to do. I had never experienced this isolation before. I was really vulnerable for the first time. I reached out. It was the beginning of the path of awakening that I’ve been on for the last forty years. I began meditating.

I’ve come a long way. When I began this journey I was solution oriented. If I did this, I would get this result. So I began to take personal growth courses with the idea that the key to everlasting happiness would be unlocked. When I finished with the training or course, I would feel happy and excited for a while, but inevitably I would reach a plateau.

But I was open and the next thing would come along and I was ready to again try to discover the answer. I would think to myself, “If I do this consistently, I’ll be happy. Or if this case settles, I won’t have any money problems for a while.”

Then one day I made a profound shift. I realized that I was a curious person and that I liked to explore new ideas and to learn new things. From that day on I continued to try new things, not with the idea that they would fix me, but because I enjoyed them. I was a committed life long learner. I still am. It keeps me fully engaged with life.

Everyday living involves growing and expansion. Just like nature’s cycles, there is a growing season and then one in which the flowers bloom. Then the leaves fall wistfully to the ground and the trees become barren. That’s our life. This cycle never stops. We keep growing and then step back and process what we’ve learned up to this moment in our lives. And then the cycle repeats itself.

ENJOY THE JOURNEY

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

WHAT IS YOUR WINNING FORMULA?

Tuesday, June 12th, 2012

Take some time to reflect upon what your life, focusing on what you are most proud of and what are some of your greatest successes. When I look back at my life and reflect upon some of my greatest successes, I notice that there were certain habits and characteristics that were instrumental in my creating what I have up to this point in my life. Some people might refer to it as your “winning formula.”

Let’s explore a few of these characteristics and see if they have been a component of some of your greatest successes. If not they are certainly something to think about.

1. Determination has been the key. But it’s difficult to stay determined unless what you are trying to achieve is important and you really want it. If you aren’t determined, you’ll focus on the excuses rather than the outcome.

But quite often we aren’t even aware of the excuses that we come up with until someone points it out. And even then, we’ll come up with more excuses. When a prospective coaching client first contacts me, I pay close attention to what they are saying and the language they are using. Are they using words of lack and limitation or words of possibility?

2. Let’s explore one more empowering practice. Discipline! It’s huge…you can’t get really good at anything consistently unless you practice….whether it’s a musical instrument, a physical practice, or learning something new, it takes practice…perhaps you’ve heard the question..how do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, Practice, Practice. It’ the consistency from the discipline that allows us to keep going even when we don’t feel like working anymore.

Let’s look at it from a different perspective.

Imagine you are traveling to an important event. But on the way you get lost. How do you handle it? Do you get frustrated? Or do you stop and acknowledge that you are lost and that you need to reassess how to get there. You look at your available resources. Your GPS is nearby. Most certainly you don’t stay where you are. What makes your internal GPS effective is focus and determination.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

CHANGE THE CONVERSATION FROM LACK TO POSSIBILITY

Thursday, June 7th, 2012

Most of our expectations are influenced by our past experiences. It’s difficult to free ourselves from them. We’re human. But if we could, what would our life be like?

We would still want to build upon our prior successes, but also add another piece to our exploration. What if we asked ourselves, “What would my life be like, if what I am concerned about now, or what I am working on now, turns out better than i ever imagined?” Take a few moments and make that inquiry. It certainly changes the direction of the conversation, from one of lack and limitation, to one of possibility.

You do have the power to change the conversation, especially when you are able to let go of the limiting beliefs you have brought with you into the present moment. By letting go of the past you can create success much greater than you have ever experienced before.

As you continue to focus more on where you are going and what’s possible, you will be better able to let go of the disappointments of the past. Over time, you are living in a whole new paradigm, in which your sense of what’s possible keeps expanding.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.

THE WORLD IS WAITING FOR YOU

Wednesday, June 6th, 2012

What if you paused for a second and assessed where you are at in your life, at this moment in time. But let’s make this assessment, using different guidelines, which will give your life a perspective that acknowledges your greatness and your resourcefulness.

What I would like you to do is to reflect upon the last five years, and for each year, think about what accomplishments, insights, change in attitude you are most proud of. This change in perspective is powerful. To make it even more powerful, you might want to consider taking time to journal what you come up with.

Focusing on what you are most proud of, will definitely raise your level of self worth and esteem. It also will put a smile on your face. I even have one now as I am writing this. You discover your uniqueness and the gifts you bring to the world. From this perspective you are more likely to share yourself with others.

As we share ourselves with others, there is a greater likelihood that we will connect with other kindred souls who are on the same journey. Doesn’t it feel great when we connect with those people who get who we are? When this occurs, we feel empowered to keep reaching out and exploring possibilities that we never considered before. In the process we connect with deeper levels of joy and fulfillment.

The world is waiting. Be the best you, you can be.

Happiness and joy and fulfillment are now yours. Live them
today in your own special way.

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within.


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