Archive for May, 2012

Focus on the Good

Thursday, May 31st, 2012

The best day of the week is today. Let’s start with that in mind. How you start your day sets the tone for the day. As part of my morning program, after meditating, I wonder about what the highlight of my day might be.

It gives me a positive frame. There is good to experience in some way or some form, but we might not recognize it because we allow our concerns and moods to overshadow what we’re feeling and thinking. Those wild emotional swings color what’s possible in the moment.

We forget about what really matters to us in the moment. We become obsessed with our concerns. There will always be something that concerns us. So let’s for today focus on the good, what the highlight of our day might be. Imagine if we focus on this on a daily basis. It’s powerful. I’ve been doing this for over eleven years. Instead of thinking about what might happen down the road, we’re more present. We notice little things that we might tend to overlook.

From this perspective, we’re more curious, and our ability to experience joy keeps expanding. From time to time, people ask me if I’m ignoring reality. My response is that I’m not ignoring it, I’m choosing how I’m experiencing it.

Once you become more conscious of the moment, you attract to you, unexpected forces in the universe that align with you in furtherance of your true purpose and the life you want to live. Stay focused.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes. Give yourself the gift of coaching and make an investment in your future.

“NOW IS THE TIME, NOT LATER”

Tuesday, May 29th, 2012

Perhaps you have been thinking about your next project or your next strategic move. Perhaps it’s a career change or making a presentation. It might be a decision you have been postponing. You are waiting for a sign, yet you are not sure what that sign will look like. So you sit on the sidelines wondering about where you are going and what you are doing. That’s OK for a while, but honestly ask yourself how fulfilling that indecision is.

When Dancing on the River was first published, in one of the radio interviews,the host could not pronounce the last part of my name correctly. Finally I said, “Now, as now is the time, not later.”

The only perfect time is now. Assess what you have and what you have to work with. That includes all of your accomplishments in your life up to now. From there take the next step. You are in a perfect place to move forward in your life.

Rather than complaining or wishing things were different, think about one thing you can do now. Perhaps it’s not the total answer to what you are searching for, but at least it’s a step in the right direction.

Perhaps you have heard the expression, “A journey of 1000 miles begins with the first step.”

So take it. I am sure you can think of many reasons or excuses not to begin. There will always be something that will cause you to lose focus or to distract you. Keep your focus on the big picture.

Before I created inspirepossiblity.com, I didn’t even have a website or a newsletter. But I began with the intention to inspire others to believe in themselves. So it began. Just with an intention.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes. Give yourself the gift of coaching and make an investment in your future.

CREATING YOUR MASTERPIECE

Tuesday, May 22nd, 2012

There is that moment when you feel great just to be alive. You rejoice in waking up and smiling. Certainly as we get older we appreciate each day more. We let go of what might have been or what we should have done. This is a great day to celebrate our being who we are. You have created a masterpiece.

In your masterpiece you sense how beautiful everything is. You enjoy yourself when the sun is out and you also enjoy the cloud formations moving in the sky. You look up and notice how beautiful the clouds are. You notice the trees and their different colors and shapes. Ah, this is a perfect day to be alive.

Yes you still have dreams but you are not fixated on them. In your own way you are moving toward the fulfillment of these dreams. But you think about much more. You know how important it is to enjoy each moment. With that in mind, you wonder about what the highlight of your day might be. You’re curious—open to being pleasantly surprised. Perhaps you can’t decide between two or three different things.

And so it is. In each moment you are in the process of creating your masterpiece. Good job.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes. Give yourself the gift of coaching and make an investment in your future.

EXPAND HOW YOU DEFINE SUCCESS

Monday, May 21st, 2012

When I was an attorney, quite often I would have an internal debate as to whether I was successful. I would think of other attorneys who I knew and compared myself to them. Of course how well I knew them was a different thing. Some seemed to have the nice office, the nice car and talked the big game. But the rest of their life.

And then I was involved in a major case that was quite publicized. Now I was successful I thought to myself. Still there were the “but’s;” I don’t make as much money as they do.

And so it went until finally I started making more money. Even then I didn’t feel successful because the other attorney’s cases seemed bigger and more difficult. EVen though other attorneys thought of me as successful, I still had my doubts. There was always an excuse or reason why I didn’t consider myself successful until one day I made a decision.

It was trying on a new set of clothes. You’re not sure how you about them until you get that first compliment. My self image was changing. I began to consider all of the facets of my life. I was happily married and enjoyed family life. I was a musician and performed occasionally. I had a good life and yet…..and then I stopped resisting.

From that point on, I considered myself successful. I expanded my definition of success to include much more than my career and what I did. And the truth was I felt happy most of the time. With this new self image I also began to think of my law practice differently. I was a successful attorney.

And then when I made the career change. I took the new self image with me. I had a good life.
I’ve been on this path for the last 12 years. Always more challenges and more opportunities.

JOURNEY ON

MARK
Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes. Give yourself the gift of coaching and make an investment in your future.

CREATING THE MOMENTUM TO MOVE FORWARD

Monday, May 14th, 2012

There is always that balance between learning something new and enjoying the process of learning. It takes, effort, focus and commitment. Sometimes we feel energized while at others we feel drained.

In the initial phases of the learning process, we might be excited; “I’m going to get into dancing,” we think to ourselves. So we start going to classes and it’s harder than we thought. We do make some progress, but when we look around the room we don’t feel very graceful. We seem to never get “there” and then one day we stop. At some point the process repeats itself with something different. We never quite get to the elusive “there.”

In the initial phase of whatever you were learning, you would have been happy to get to the place where you were before you stopped. Rather than focusing on how difficult it’s been and how difficult progress will be in the future, rejoice in what you have accomplished. Cherish the moment. Be mindful of it.

The momentum to move forward comes from recognizing how much you achieved up to now. Let’s say you’ve been at it for six months. Think about where you were in the beginning. Imagine where you will be six months from now and what you will have to do to get there. If you keep at it, most likely you’ll surpass your expectations.

To move forward, it is essential to enjoy where you are now. Enjoy that place, enjoy that moment and enjoy the journey.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes. Give yourself the gift of coaching and make an investment in your future.

Turning Hard Work and Struggle into a Celebration

Saturday, May 12th, 2012

In the back of my mind I thought about writing a book. I had been writing Letters on Life, a monthly ezine, for quite some time. Writing a book was the next progression. But life got in the way and the thought stayed on the back burner, until I ran into an old friend. She had been reading Letters on Life and suggested that I write a book. With her help I spent a year developing a memoir. When reached the point of final editing, she suggested that rather than publish the memoir, that I should publish something based on my newsletters since I already had a following.

Although I knew she was right, I initially resisted the idea. After a year of hard work, I wanted to see the end result. So I did nothing for a while. The unpublished manuscript stayed on my computer, until one day I decided I would write that book. The result was Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes.

I originally thought that the book would be completed in a brief period of time—— I would get a publisher and then I would be on my way. Well life doesn’t work that way. The entire process with getting the book published took three years.

On many occasions I felt like abandoning the project, but I hung in there.I had to dig deep and bear my soul to finish the journey, or should I say the first phase of the journey.

The next phase is sharing your book and message with others. For some that is daunting, but for me I enjoy it. It’s not a short journey, but a marathon full of many ups and downs; many starts and finishes. But a rewarding journey.

Nearing the day when the manuscript was ready for the editor was an exciting day. But it was just the first phase of many. Along the way there were more peaks and valleys. The struggle, the uncertainty, the feeling of giving up have all contributed to the feeling of joy that I got when I completed the project. Since then it’s been a celebration.

But it’s all taking one step at a time. But keep taking that step.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an Executive-life coach, Speaker and Author. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes; Discover the Leader Within: 10 Ways to Become the Leader you Have Always Wanted to Be. You can reach him at mark@inspirepossibility.com

GO BEYOND JUST GETTING IT DONE

Friday, May 11th, 2012

Are you just putting in time or are you trying to go beyond? In a day, there are many mundane tasks that are required, such as putting gas in our car, going to the grocery store, or having that cup of coffee. Do we just show up, do what we have to do, and move on. Do we smile at the person in the gas station or in the coffee shop. Do we really look at them? We’re there but how present are we.

Even with the most mundane tasks, we can find satisfaction by putting in a little more effort, not necessarily by doing more work, but by getting into it and making it a meditation or an experience.

I know I’m weak in the kitchen, but I have found that when I turn on some music I get into it more. At the gas station, I smile at the person I give the money to. Yes we have responsibilities and obligations that are part of everyday living. We have to do them. Rather than agonizing over them, get into them and transform them in rewarding experiences. By putting in a little more effort, you can make a big difference in your everyday life.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes. Give yourself the gift of coaching and make an investment in your future.

TAKE TIME

Wednesday, May 9th, 2012

I am amazed at the number of times that I have met someone who knew me at a different time in my life. Sometimes I don’t even remember who they are or how I met them until they tell me the story. I “Take Time” to listen, to smile and to say, “Thank-you.”

We always seem to remember the story. That’s what connects us. When you’ve lived for a while those meetings, which remind you of the story, seem to occur more frequently. The synchronicity of these meaningful coincidences becomes the norm rather than the infrequent occurrence.
You begin to expect them. They add a richness to your life that contributes to your sense of fulfillment.

By the time you’ve reached the wisdom years you’ve gained perspective and more stories. You’ve seen the changes and lived through them. You know that it’s never as bad as it seems, and if something is too good to be true, it usually is, but not always.

My journey so far in this new millennium has been full of changes, more than I anticipated. Even though there’s part of me that accepts that life is a great mystery I haven’t stopped trying to make sense of it all; trying to make everything fit into a nice package which it never does.

Each time that I experience one of those chance encounters that provides a missing piece to the puzzle, there is a thought that deeply resonates within me. It makes greater sense to me now than it ever did. We are in the process of gathering our tribes!

What we do and say attracts our tribe. Unless we speak from our heart and share what has meaning, it will be difficult for our tribe to find us, or for us to find them.

What also gets in the way, is that we seem to find ways to occupy every minute of our day. We’re always busy “doing.” Rather than taking time and just being present, we think about the next item on our “to do” list. If we don’t “Take Time” to really know ourselves how can we get to know others. WE ARE MISSING A GREAT OPPORTUNITY. Recently, at a gathering, a friend read a poem that is a great reminder.

TAKE TIME

Take time to Think
It is the source of all power.

Take time to play
It is the source of perpetual youth.

Take time to Read
It is the fountain of wisdom

Take time to Pray
It is the greatest power on earth.

That time to love and be loved
It is a God given gift.

Take time to be Friendly
It is the road to happiness.

Take time to Laugh
It is the music of the soul.

Take time to Give
It is too short a day to be selfish.

Take time to Work
It is the price of success.

Take time to Receive
It is the key to giving.

Anonymous

Sometimes a story is the best way to give us perspective. “Take Time,” to be in this story with me.

“You’re on the way to the airport. You get on the plane with a book that you’ve been planning to read for quite some time. As you open your book, you notice that the person sitting next to you is trying to catch your eye so that they can start a conversation. A few minutes later you are asked a question and you reluctantly answer. You lower your book a bit to be polite and after a few minutes you find yourself putting your book down and engaging in a brief conversation, although with a lack of enthusiasm. A few minutes later, the process is repeated, until the person next to you, let’s call him John, makes an observation about you that’s quite perceptive and sensitive. You start to become curious about who John is and in the course of the conversation, he tells you of an experience he has only shared with a few people. You let John know that you have had a similar experience. By now you’re totally engaged and listening to every word he says. You notice every nuance in the inflection of his voice and the way he is animated. Time seems to stand still and the next thing you know the plane lands. You say goodbye to the kindred soul you have just met.”

We all would love to experience these moments more often. We crave deeper connection in our lives, but our ability to connect is a lost art. Until we take time to really listen and to be fully present, we won’t be able to develop the art of connecting with another.

Connection transcends titles, race, gender, age and anything we can think of. From this bond of connection anything is possible, but we have to be in a receptive place; a place in which we take the time to be present. As with most things in life, the journey is a process that starts with the intention to experience more connection in our busy lives.

As your commitment deepens, you’ll notice that those magical moments, when you experience true connection, seem to occur more often.

This new found magic then becomes the gateway to a more fulfilling life.
 When you think about it, it’s the way it should be. In the bigger picture, we are part of one human family. At our core we have the same human needs and desires. We have the need to love and be loved. We want to know that our life has meaning. When we connect with a kindred soul we are reminded that we are not alone and that we are connected to something much greater than ourselves.

Take time to share this blog with those in your circle.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes. Give yourself the gift of coaching and make an investment in your future.

THE “MAGIC WAND” EFFECT

Sunday, May 6th, 2012

I don’t know about you, but at times I wish that things were easier. What I really mean is that I wish I had a magic wand that would make things instantly better. It wouldn’t matter what I was working on, or what I was trying to learn, waving the magic wand would make it instantly better. Let’s call this the “Magic Wand” effect. This effect would be the ultimate shortcut.

But as we’ve discussed on prior occasions, life doesn’t work that way. We have to do the work, put in the time and practice and practice. I’ve mentioned that I’m learning the piano. Although I already play other instruments well, I get frustrated that I don’t have the same ability with the piano that I do with the other instruments. Oh where’s that magic wand when you need it. So I learn the value of the 3P’s; practice, patience, and perseverance.

Since I’ve been successful in other endeavors, I know the value of the 3P’s. I trust the process and know I’ll get there. The confidence that I’ll gain from what I’m doing now with the piano will translate to other endeavors that I embark upon down the road. On a deeper level, because I know the value of commitment, I’m able to get excited about the little shifts progress. I’ll keep you posted.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

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Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes. Give yourself the gift of coaching and make an investment in your future.

HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT LEARNING NEW THINGS?

Saturday, May 5th, 2012

When I think about my life, I realize how much I like to learn new things. Not necessarily something entirely different, but taking what I know to the next level. That’s the way it’s been with music. I’ve played since I’ve been a kid and I’m still learning new things; how to develop my ear, how to play my instrument more effectively which expands my enjoyment. Recently I’ve taken up the piano, an instrument that I’ve always been fascinated by, but never played. So i’m learning and each day it becomes more of a part of me. It feels good and at times I get excited about the possibilities.

That’s the way it has been with tennis also. Even though I’ve played since I’ve been a kid I’m still learning new things that make my game better. I just got off the tennis court—and got to try out a new technique for my serve that I’ve been practicing. Now I can concentrate on the next thing.

If we’re open to growing and evolving, we will notice subtle shifts in the way we think about our life. Of course it’s not always going to be a smooth ride. There are always going to be challenges and obstacles. That’s part of what it is to be human. But as we work through these challenges, there is a feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment that we wouldn’t have experienced without the challenges. They are there to bring out the best in us.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive & life coach and thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. He is passionate about life being an exciting journey of discovery. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes. Give yourself the gift of coaching and make an investment in your future.


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