Archive for May, 2011


Tuesday, May 10th, 2011

That’s not the kind of question that many of us ask ourselves. What concerns us gets in the way of our seeing what’s possible. So we stop looking and accept what life gives us. Some of us hope that someday life will be different. That someday never comes.

Today the big bugaboo is the economy. Many of us are worried about making ends meet. What I hear quite often is that life is more difficult and challenging than it was years ago. That’s not my belief system. Every generation has its challenges. I think back to when I was a young lawyer—paying my bills was definitely one of my concerns and I didn’t have the responsibilities that I do today. I was single, didn’t have a family and had an old car. Even though I believed that I wasn’t motivated by making money, much of my thinking was on how to make ends meet. When I least expected it, I was given some perspective on my relationship to money. I had just settled a case and went to give my client a check. She said to me,” Mark, if you are worried about money now, you’re always going to be worried about it.” She was right. 30 years have gone by and I still worry occasionally but I’ve changed my relationship to it. I’ve learned to become more comfortable with the uncertainty of it all and not knowing the end result.

The uncertainty and the loose ends quite often keeps us stuck in our life. There is never going to be an ideal time to begin something new or to change our attitude. There is only one time and that time is now. Now is the time to let go of the excuses why we can’t do something, Now is the time to let go of the reasons we can’t be happy. Curiosity goes a long way towards shifting our attitude about what is possible in our life. Our imagination is the inner resource that we can use to dream about possibilities never before considered.
Imagination is everything. It’s the preview of life’s coming attractions. Albert Einstein

Because we’ve been disappointed before we are reluctant to use our imagination to again get excited about our lives. If you haven’t used it for a while I encourage you to practice. Being able to get excited about your life is a gift even if what you are excited about never comes to fruition. Since you know how to get turned on when you allow it, you can tap into your passion and get turned on about the next thing. Dare to explore. Dare to dream.

Do you remember this passage from Alice in Wonderland?
“I can’t believe that!” said Alice.
“Can’t you?” the Queen said in a pitying tone. “Try
again: draw a long breath, and shut your eyes.”
Alice laughed. “There’s no use trying,” she said.
“One can’t believe impossible things.”
“I daresay you haven’t had much practice,” said the
Queen. “ When I was your age, I always did it for half
an hour a day. Why sometimes I’ve believed as many as
six impossible things before breakfast.”
Lewis Carroll, “Alice in Wonderland”

By dreaming and visualizing, the Queen was sculpting the
life she wanted from that moment forward. That’s what we have been doing our entire lives. We have sculpted the life we are living today. Many years ago, the life we are living today, was just a dream. We used our imagination to help make that dream our reality today.

Now we come back to the original question about what you are most excited about. Imagine a roomful of people all asking themselves that same question. The vibration would be powerful. We would feel that we were part of something greater than ourselves. What brought us together was that we are all asking the same question.

After I have meditated and focused on what I am grateful for, I ask myself a question that sets the tone for the day. I wonder about what the highlight of my day might be. As my day progresses, my sense of curiosity is heightened.

I’m open to seeing the good in every encounter that I have. The highlight might be something unexpected or it might be a little thing. We tend to overlook what at first glance might seem insignificant. It might be a smile while we are waiting in line at the gas station or at the grocery store. It might be a thank-you from someone. It might be a greeting from a pet. Hopefully, by the end of the day, we won’t be able to make up our mind as to what the highlight was because we’ll have two or three great choices.

There always is the lure of trying to make sense of it all; trying to make everything fit into a nice package, but it never
does. There will always be a few loose ends. I’m more curious now than I’ve ever been. I’m curious as to whom I’ll connect with next. I’m curious about what I might learn when I connect with them.
And yes I’m most excited about discovering what the highlight of the day will be.

You know I love to hear from you. Let me know about what you are most excited about and what you are most excited about. Please feel free to forward this letter to those in your circle.

Choose Happiness and Journey On


Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of, Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes.

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