As an executive and life coach I notice the same patterns in the people I coach and in my own process. No matter what we are doing, our feelings and desires are intensified by the relationships we choose to be in.

We also erroneously believe that if some of the people in our life changed, things would be better. I have previously written about Suzanne and her desire to change her partner. I reminded Suzanne that we choose a particular partner for a reason. That person at this time in our life is perfect for our soul’s evolution.

Let me share with you a little bit about my path. I have always felt that I was on the family track. Yet many years ago I chose a partner who wasn’t and spent three years of my life with her. I had to look at that. What was really going on with me? If I really wanted a family at that time I would not have chosen her as my relationship partner. She didn’t try to hide the way she really felt from me. However she had other gifts that attracted me-she inspired me to explore my musical creativity which was important to me.

The relationship lasted as long as it did until our needs changed. I wanted more. I wanted to go deeper. Then we moved on. It was extremely painful at the time. And when I moved on I was clear what I wanted. I got it right the next time, although you could say that it’s all perfect. Each relationship prepares us for the next.

A suggestion. The next time you are dissatisfied in your relationship ask yourself a few questions. What is it exactly that you are getting out of the relationship? Are you wiling to let that go? As I said in Suzanne’s situation for now her situation was perfect the way it was.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of, Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes.

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