CHOOSING HAPPINESS
“So, you mean I can be happy and still be worried about money?” That’s what one of my life coaching clients asked me the other day. Another client said, “I’ll be happy when I find the right person.” And another client made the following statement, “Things will be better, when I leave this marriage.”
You get the idea. I call it the “if only syndrome.” If only my circumstances were different, my life would be better. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about and perhaps too well. We postpone our happiness thinking that an unknown future will be better than the life we have now. Chances are if you are unhappy now, you’ll be unhappy in the future. You take it with you. Circumstances might make you feel better for a moment, but that feeling of relief won’t last very long.
I am a firm believer that happiness is a decision that you make to be happy in the moment over and over again.It eventually becomes a consciousness. What I call Dancing on the River is a reflection of this consciousness.
So what I’m saying and do say over and over again to my life coaching clients and to many of my friends is that you can be happy and still have those money worries. You can be happy and still have those relationship concerns. They won’t go away for very long. And there will always be a new one to replace them.
There you have it. Happiness is not about circumstances. It’s about you and your willingness to declare your determination to be joyful. It’s not in the future. It’s now! So go for it.
JOURNEY ON
MARK
Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of, Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes.