Archive for January, 2010

Are you delaying your happiness?

Tuesday, January 26th, 2010

If you are reading this post, you are like most people. Let me tell you about Les. When Les discussed the issue of money with me in our life coaching session yesterday, he expressed his concern. He was worried about he would run out of money. The truth was that Les was secure for a few years. However Les had other concerns. Because he didn’t have a relationship with that special one, he would feel melancholy. He had no problem meeting women, but always found something that wasn’t quite right. We’ve all been there.

But Les like many of us lived his life with false assumptions. He believed that when his money concerns were resolved and he found the one that he could take a breath and relax. Les was right about one thing, slowing down and taking a deep breath goes along way toward giving you more peace of mind. But Les’s assumptions about how his life would be different if a few of his debts were handled, were just that…assumptions, not truth.

Life was suffering from what I call the “Only if syndrome.” If the circumstances of his life were different, then he believed that could begin to enjoy life again. The only problem with this syndrome is that he will always be living in the future….thinking that an unknown future, which never comes, will be better than his experience of what’s happening in this moment. The truth is that Les has always had concerns about money.

We are all like Les to a certain extent. There are aspect to our life that are unsettling that we believe if resolved would change how we feel…the problem is that with this mindset we are delaying our happiness. We have to commit to a path that gives us more peace of mind and enables us to live in the now. If you have been a reader of this blog, you know how strongly I feel about the benefits of a meditation and gratitude practice.

Take the time to explore what is involved in beginning a practice. For more info, feel free to contact me.

Journey On

Mark
Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes will be released May 1, 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016

What do we really want?

Thursday, January 21st, 2010

I had an interesting conversation with let’s call him Les in our life coaching session yesterday. Les related that his aunt commented that his generation didn’t know how to party. Of course she came from a different vintage, and her idea of partying was different than Les’s.

What she meant was the ability to let go and to be free. However her sense of being free was more of a momentary feeling, often induced by alcohol…away from the workplace in a social gathering.

So Les and I engaged in a conversation as to what it means to party. In some ways our definitions were similar to his aunts, in that we also wanted to let go and to feel freer. Whereas hers was a momentary feeling, Les and most of the people that I work with as their life coach, want something that is deeper and more meaningful….they are looking for an inner freedom that allows them to truly be authentic.

Knowing what your values are is the first step in achieving that feeling. As you discover your core values and live your life in harmony with them, you’ll experience a freedom in the way you relate to the world. You no longer have to have an excuse to be different than who you are during most of your waking hours. When you live an authentic life, you experience the freedom to be yourself. From that freedom, what you do and say is a reflection of that inner state.

When you have that sense of freedom, you welcome and are grateful for the challenges that are in your life. You’re comfortable with not knowing what’s next. You have the confidence that whatever comes up you can navigate life’s changes.

I call that sense of freedom Dancing on the River.

Journey On

Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes will be released May 1, 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016

We all want the same happiness and inner peace in our lives.

Wednesday, January 20th, 2010

We live in an increasingly changing world. Navigating life’s changes has become an art form. We don’t know where to turn. What seemed to work at one time, no longer works. So when I received the invitation I was excited. It was a long time coming. My good friend and fellow blogger,Warren Strudwick, http://the peacemeal project.wordpress.com, launched this new movement that people can participate in all over the world. As he wrote on his blog: “The first official Peacemeal was held at my house on December 13, about one month ago. I had invited about 25 friends who I have known from various times of my life. Twenty -two people joined me to celebrate peace on what turned out to be a pleasant Thursday evening. It was a wonderful experience.

For a few moments, we all were able to leave behind our day-to-day lives and routines, convening in a very congenial and intimate atmosphere to address our mutual need for a peace existence.

We started at about 6:30, gathering first to talk and mingle and generally to get to know each other. It was interesting to see people from varied backgrounds interacting on first encounter in such an intimate way. We then convened in my living room to discuss (as a group and individually) what peace meant to each of us. Each person was given space, as we went around the room to speak. Most us spoke directly from the heart, and this eclectic group of people proved, altogether, very special.

Each person communicated a thirst to express their inner thoughts about the role of peace and love in their lives. It would almost be a cliché to say that the energy in the room was so almost overwhelmingly positive through this open and very honest communication. The desire for peace, especially inner peace hovered in the magnetic stillness of the room.

By the time we sat to eat our meal, it was clear the most of us wanted the same happiness and inner peace in our lives. It made me think that even as we go about our daily lives oblivious, it is clear that nearly everyone is seeking some sort or peaceful existence. And if given an opportunity, people want to express and share that desire. It is a human condition. And as we share our desire, it becomes more evident that we all want to live peacefully.

This is our world. We will make it in our image. Peace. Morsel by morsel.”

Join in the movement. Have your own dinner. To find out more about peacemeal go to their blog, http://thepeacemealproject.wordpress.com

Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. He is a sought after speaker and coauthor along with Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy in the book 101 Great Ways to Improve your Life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes will be released May 1, 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016

What are the 3 biggest lessons and insights you have discovered in this lifetime?

Wednesday, January 13th, 2010

In a life coaching session with let’s call him Carl we discussed what the 3 biggest lessons that he has learned in his lifetime. Carl didn’t just come up with the answers in a heartbeat. It was a process that got him thinking about who he was at this time in his life and what is important to him.

1. Find your own path. That was a struggle for me. We are so influenced by our families and the latest trends or schemes to make money, we lose sight of what is important to us…it takes a life time of inner reflection to discover what our core values are….the late sage,.Joseph Campbell has this perspective in Dark Forest:

You enter the forest
At the darkest point;
Where there is no path.

Where there is a way or path,
It is someone else’s path.

If you follow someone else’s way,
You are not going to realize your full potential.

2. Don’t be so hard on yourself: we are so self-critical….we berate ourselves and talk to ourselves in a more critical way than we would talk to a friend. Along with this one, developing a sense of humor goes a long way. Laugh at yourself..tell a few jokes once in a while…don’t try to always be perfect.

3. Become a better listener than talker. This is also a tough one because it’s our tendency to always want to get in our two-cents worth. So often a conversation is like mental ping-pong. You respond to what the other person says; they respond to what you said and then it becomes a battle to see who gets in the last word. Sure you’ve exchanged a lot of information, but you never got to who each other is.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. He is a sought after speaker and coauthor along with Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy in the book 101 Great Ways to Improve your Life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes will be released May 1, 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016


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