Archive for December, 2009

GIVE YOURSELF A MENTAL HIGH-FIVE

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2009

When I talked with Sally in our life coaching session this morning we continued to focus on personal and professional development. Sally took over a professional practice over three years ago. She had concerns whether she could pay all of her bills and expenses. She has done more than that. She now has a successful practice and continues to get new clients.

Yet she doesn’t think of herself as a successful professional because she still has doubts and insecurities. I let Sally know that I have coached some professionals who were at the top of their game and they also had doubts and insecurities.

In a metaphorical sense, Sally graduated. With any profession, there are increased duties and responsibilities. With that comes rights and priviliges. I suggested to Sally that it was her time to accept the new found abundance in her life and to be grateful for her success.

As a spiritual practice and discipline I suggested that she express gratitude for the success in her life. I am encouraged by her willingness to take this on. I know that will give her a new sense of grace and dignity. It will also give her a confidence that whatever comes up she will be able to navigate life’s changes.

Like many of us, Sally is the first to criticize herself. We wouldn’t talk to a friend the way we talk to ourselves. We’re so hard on ourselves. I encouraged her to talk to herself in a more positive way. She asked me, “Do you mean a mental HIGH-5? I said exactly. So give yourself a mental high-5. Tell yourself how proud you are of what you are doing in your life and how you are handling things.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. He is a sought after speaker and coauthor along with Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy in the book 101 Great Ways to Improve your Life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes will be released in early 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016

It’s time to allow more joy in your life

Tuesday, December 8th, 2009

In a life coaching session, yesterday, with Sally the focus was on helping her overcome her conditioning regarding abundance. Sally was beginning to reach new pinnacles of success in her accounting business. Yet she still hung onto old belief systems that were preventing her from enjoying her new level of success. She was very reluctant to invest in new equipment for her business that was technologically superior even though her business had doubled in size.

Sally had been so focused on survival and whether should would make it, that she hadn’t taken time to objectively evaluate where she was with her professional development. I suggested that for a moment that she imagine that she had planted seeds. In the beginning we don’t know which ones will make it. Eventually, some plants emerge–then our new focus is to cultivate and to enjoy them.

That’s what professional development is about. The first phase is making it. The next phase is to enjoy your success. Sally was in her new phase. It was time to enjoy the beauty in her life and to allow more joy in her life. Her apprenticeship was over.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. He is a sought after speaker and coauthor along with Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy in the book 101 Great Ways to Improve your Life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes will be released in early 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016

What do you think of people who have nice things?

Monday, December 7th, 2009

In a life coaching yesterday with, let’s call her Sally who is in the accounting business, we discussed Sally’s new found success. After many years of hard work, Sally was approaching the top of her game.

Even though Sally had to drive over 50 miles each way to work, she drove an old truck with almost 200,000 miles. Because the truck still functioned, Sally didn’t want to buy another one even though she felt discomfort at the end of the day from driving so far.

Sally was prudent in the way that she approached life, but hesitated to reward herself for all of her hard work. Needless to say, she was reluctant to make changes in her life.

She had judgments about buying herself new things, which according to her, stemmed from her upbringing. Sally’s could justify buying herself a new vehicle as a justified business expense. She could also reward herself for all of her hard work and dedication. Yet she persisted in holding onto her beliefs.

Sally’s homework was to notice what her judgments were regarding other people who have nice things. Take a few moments to reflect upon your attitude. What comes up for you when you see people who have nice things? Do you like them? Do you try to make them wrong? Do you wish you were more like them?

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. He is a sought after speaker and coauthor along with Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy in the book 101 Great Ways to Improve your Life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes will be released in early 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016

Are you getting an “A” in personal growth 101?

Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009

What I have noticed in my years as a life coach is the tendency of so many of us to judge what we’re feeling. This is what I mean. I am sure you are familiar with the “shoulds”…I should have done this…or I shouldn’t have done that. Or worse…what’s wrong with me….I shouldn’t feel this way. ” For example, being jealous of a good friends success. You’re thinking…I shouldn’t feel this way…they’re a good friend.

Well we are human and we are going to have these moments. But it doesn’t mean we flunked personal growth 101.

We all have heard many times…”don’t be so judgmental” and perhaps we have even given this advice to others. Here is a strategy that has been successful with helping some people that I work with get over these feelings.

1. Notice what you are feeling without judging. For example, if you are feeling down, just notice you are feeling down. Don’t go any further as to say to yourself, “Gee, what a loser, I am, for feeling this way.” Don’t get attached to the feeling…imagine it’s just a wind, breezing through.

2. Be curious. For example you might want to experiment with the following dialougue. That’s interesting. I have so much to be thankful for in my life, and yet I’m feeling kind of down.

3. Find the humor. This is the saving grace. It comes back to not taking ourselves so seriously.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, is an executive and life coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. He is a sought after speaker and coauthor along with Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy in the book 101 Great Ways to Improve your Life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Navigating Life’s Changes will be released in early 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016


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