Archive for September, 2009

Be bold…change your scenery!

Monday, September 21st, 2009

We all get caught up in our day to day lives….our business, family and relationships and other activities. Trying to get away seems almost impossible although we would like to do it. Our thinking becomes predictable and our options limited.

That’s the way it was for me most of this year. Usually our family would spend the summers on Kauai, but with our kids leaving the nest and going back and forth to college we weren’t sure what we wanted to do, so we stayed home this summer. Once they left we wanted to get away but couldn’t figure out when. There didn’t seem like an ideal window of time. In the past I would plan months ahead and work around my vacation.

Finally I made the decision to go although for a shorter period of time. Almost upon landing on the island I felt different. And then when I took a swim in Hanalei Bay I was transported to a different world.

And to think I almost didn’t go this year. Change your perspective by changing your scenery. But unless you make it part of your life, it’s too easy to let it go by. Be bold. In the next few days, schedule your next trip.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. He is a sought after speaker and coauthor along with Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy and other experts in the book 101 Great Ways to Improve your Life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Finding Joy and Meaning in the Midst of Change will be released in early 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016

CHOOSING TO FORGIVE

Monday, September 7th, 2009

Today I was working on the forgiveness chapter of my soon to be published book, Dancing on the River.

When someone betrays us or disappoints us we react by being angry. We feel justified and self righteous in feeling this way. What we don’t realize is that at some point we have to let it go. We are not hurting the other person by being mad at them. In fact we might not have even seen them for years and yet we carry around our anger toward them. They might not even know we are angry.

So who are really hurting? Of course it’s ourself. Being angry puts us in a bad mood and it’s difficult to enjoy life. It’s a common misconception that if we forgive someone that we are letting them off the hook. That’s the farthest thing from the truth. It’s really a gift to ourselves. We let go of the past and embrace the present unburdened by the old hurts that we carry around with us.

By forgiving we are not condoning the act either. It’s in the past. It’s time to move on.

Take a moment to reflect upon this inquiry. Who is it in your life that you have not forgiven?

So you want to forgive, but how do you do it? It’s a choice that you make day by day, minute by minute. With each choice you let go more than you did before and go as far as you can.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. He is a sought after speaker and coauthor along with Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy and other experts in the book 101 Great Ways to Improve your Life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Finding Joy and Meaning in the Midst of Change will be released in early 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016

Use your curiosity to create a great day.

Friday, September 4th, 2009

Yesterday I wrote that changing the questions you ask yourself, changes how you experience life. Rather than thinking, What Now, you think How can you Serve.

As you start your day I would suggest that you ask yourself one more thing. Use your curiosity to create a great day. Here’s how you do it. Ask yourself what the highlight of your day is going to be. I ask in this way. “I wonder what the highlight is going to be.” I don’t know. I’m curious. As I am writing this, I’m looking at what the rest of my day looks like. As I experience the day I’m curious if this is the moment.

As a life coach I have found that most people make it way too complicated. They go through their day experiencing the same thing they did the day before. They are on automatic pilot and at the end of the day they are tired and drained.

It’s the appreciation of the little things that makes your life extraordinary. The highlights are usually little things that you take for granted. There’s that smile that someone gives you. There’s that listening to what the other person has to say. There’s seeing a beautiful cloud formation or someone playing in the park. Or savoring the flavor of a food that you particularly like….or noticing how beautiful a flower is and what it smells like.

We go through our day overlooking these finer points. But this is what makes the difference in how we experience our lives. Before you know it you have an attitude of gratitude.

And here’s what is really cool…it doesn’t take any more time to notice the little things.It just takes more attention.

JOURNEY ON

MARK
Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. He is a sought after speaker and coauthor along with Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy and other experts in the book 101 Great Ways to Improve your Life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Finding Joy and Meaning in the Midst of Change will be released in early 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016

Ask yourself, How can you Serve?

Thursday, September 3rd, 2009

In a life coaching session this morning with let’s call her Sally, a professional and mother, we discussed her tendency to react negatively when clients called her. Sally isn’t the only one. Many clients I work with often have a feeling of dread that comes and go more than they like. When that phone rings they think to themselves, “What now?”

Sally and other clients and I am sure many of you reading this blog tend to overreact to everyday events. It’s like we are waiting for the other shoe to drop.

I reminded Sally that she is in a service profession. Service professionals are there to serve others. However with the demands of running it as a business, they forget why they are in the business in the first place. They want to make a difference.

I suggested to Sally that whenever she gets a phone call during the day that she ask herself, “How can I serve this client?” And to be grateful for the call. Without that call and the call from others she wouldn’t be able to stay in business.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. Whether coaching one-on-one, speaking to groups, or leading a retreat, he shares his message that regardless of our life’s circumstances, we can find more joy and meaning in our life. He is a sought after speaker and coauthor along with Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy and other experts in the book 101 Great Ways to Improve your Life. Mark’s new book, Dancing on the River…Finding Joy and Meaning in the Midst of Change will be released in early 2010. mark@inspirepossibility.com 415.453.5016


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