As an executive and life coach we see the same issues over and over again. No matter what we are doing we have feelings and desires. We also strive to be more successful in the world.

Yesterday I wrote about Suzanne and her desire to change her partner. Her situation is very similar to what others experience. I think that what we forget is that we choose a particular partner for a reason. Ask yourself why you chose this particular partner.

For example I have always felt that I was on the family track. Yet many years ago I chose a partner who wasn’t and spent three years of my life with her. I had to look at that. What was really going on with me. If I really wanted a family at that time I would not have chosen her as my relationship partner. She didn’t try to hide that from me. However she had other gifts that she offered me, one of which was an inspiration to explore my creativity which was important to me at that time in my life. I had a band and she danced with the band.

The relationship lasted as long as it did until our needs changed. I wanted more. I wanted to go deeper. Then we moved on. It was extremely painful at the time. And when I moved on I was clear what I wanted. I got it right the next time, although you could say that it’s all perfect. Each relationship prepares us for the next.

A suggestion. The next time you are dissatisfied in your relationship ask yourself a few questions. What is it exactly that you are getting out of the relationship? Are you wiling to let that go? As I said in Suzanne’s situation for now her situation was perfect the way it was.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow,JD, is an Executive and Life Coach, who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former successful trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. Signup! http://www.inspirepossibiity.com

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