Archive for February, 2008

GETTING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

Thursday, February 28th, 2008

This is kind of a follow up to yesterday’s blog. I asked who or what are you willing to let go of? Here’s what I’m thinking. We know that there are certain people in our lives that our toxic. We also know that there are certain things we do that keep us stuck.

What I want to know is what are the beliefs that will bring you forward in your life and propel you to grow.

What are the beliefs that will empower you? For example, with letting go of business contacts or things that are not working, you might have a belief that “there is an abundance of opportunities for you to experience.” Here’s another. “I know that by letting go of this person, I am making room for a deeper friendship.

Here’s even a better one in the area of relationships. “I know that the next person I meet is going to be my soulmate. I am sure if that was your belief you wouldn’t have a problem letting go of old relationships that aren’t working.

So it’s about faith and belief in yourself. “I know that by letting go of this client that I am creating room for two better ones.” If that was your belief you wouldn’t put up with a lot of the stuff that you do.

As you know you attract to you what your dominant beliefs are. Sometimes taking action or letting go is a leap of faith. But in taking that leap you are sending a message to the universe. And in doing so you are activating the “Law of Attraction.”

Act as if what you want has already happened. What do you have to lose especially if the other way of thinking isn’t working.

What keeps you stuck is living within your comfort zone. Getting out of your comfort zone will get you going again.

JOURNEY ON

MARK
JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. Signup! http://www.inspirepossibility.com.

LETTING GO OF THE OLD WAY

Wednesday, February 27th, 2008

I have realized that in almost every coaching call that I have with clients that there is a nugget that pertains to all of us.

Frank(fictitious name), an architect, has seen his business continually grow. The quality of services that he provides keeps expanding as does Frank personally and professionally, yet he has a few clients who don’t want to grow with him.

On a practical level, Frank doesn’t need their business. He has a steady flow yet he doesn’t want to turn away business.

So what’s he to do. That is a dilemma that we all have. Not just in business but in our entire life.

When do we move on and let someone go. When do we say to ourself that we can do better.

Yes we still want to be compassionate, yet we realize that every interaction that we have with that person is a piece of work. It’s an effort that no longer serves us.

I am a firm believer in making changes and letting someone go is part of that. It’s not unusual that when you do let go that there will be a void in your life…you might even question whether you made the right decision. But that void gets filled quickly.

On another level what you are really doing is sending a message to the universe. You are making a definitive statement as to the quality of the life that you want and expect and the people who you wish to partner with.

Here’s the question. Who or what are you willing to let go of? There is so much focus on what we want and what steps we can take to get there that we overlook a basic premise.

It’s our willingness to let go that allows us to take the path of least resistance. Think about it. Let it flow. My free monthly ezine, Letters on LIfe explores these questions in more depth.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. Signup! http://www.inspirepossibility.com.

What are the beliefs that hold you back

Tuesday, February 26th, 2008

I had an interesting conversation in a coaching call this morning. For months, Frank (fictitious name) had been telling me that he did not have enough time to meditate and exercise.

Finally he began to meditate and he found that his stress level decreased big time. He was like a differrent person.

But he was a CPA and found that every tax season, which ended on April 15th, he would drive himself crazy. I made many suggestions that he exercise on a a regular basis. But he believed that he didn’t have enough time.

Finally this year, Frank hired a personal trainer and is working out three days a week even during the tax season that has already begun. He feels different and more energetic.

What is interesting is that he does have enough time, but it was his false belief in the past that kept him from doing it. That belief of course being that he didn’t have enough time.

I then asked Frank to look at other false beliefs that he had that were holding him back in other areas of his life.

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MARK

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GET THE ENERGY MOVING AGAIN

Sunday, February 24th, 2008

I was talking with Frank(not real name) in a coaching session and he expressed to me that he was concerned with the growth of his business.

For many years, Frank a service professional, relied on a few referral sources for a steady flow of clients.

Frank noticed that those referral sources have dried up. As we explored what was going on in other areas of his life, Frank revealed to me that he hadn’t made any new friends in quite some time.

So Frank’s life was at a standstill. Frank also felt at a certain level that life had passed him by.

I encouraged Frank to put some energy into making new contacts. I believed that his not making new friends was connected with his business reaching a standstill.

For Frank this would require his getting out of his comfort zone and put himself out there, rather than staying in his office. It would require him to make the first call.

If you feel a little bit like Frank don’t hesitate to make that first call. Get the energy flowing again. When you notice that your energy seems stuck in one area of your life, most likely it’s stuck in other areas. Make that call. Call to that class.

I have seen numerous clients just like Frank get excited again.

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MARK

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YOU MAKE A DIFFERENCE

Friday, February 22nd, 2008

I just got back from a coaches meeting and the subject came up of how to be a “thoughtleader.”

And of course, many of us wanted to know what a “thoughtleader” is. And how does one qualify to become one?

In the discussion, what came out was that there isn’t a simple definition that we can use.

So I thought that I would make it work for me. In my mind, a “thoughtleader” is someone who is a leader who influences others.

Usually an expert in some field, although not necessarily so. Perhaps in some way we are all “thoughtleaders.”

We have something to say that can make a difference in someone’s life. What’s amazing to me is the number of times that a casual encouraging remark many years previous made a difference in someone’s life.

We don’t realize the power we have to make a difference. But we can’t make a difference by keeping our beliefs to ourselves. It’s a great feeling to empower others and is needed by all of us. That’s one thing that “thoughtleaders” do…they make a difference.

We all have that potential. You make a difference. Let someone know.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. Signup! http://www.inspirepossibility.com.

There’s work to do…and it’s fun

Wednesday, February 20th, 2008

There’s always that thing that gets in the way. You’re doing pretty good. In fact compared to most people you are doing great. Even you have to admit that. You’re proud of yourself especially when you look back over the last year. Wow….I have really come a long way you think to yourself.

And in fact you have. You could have never handled what you are handling now a year ago.

It’s too good to be true is what you decide…so you start thinking about what’s wrong. And of course you find it and focus on it. A year ago that wasn’t even a consideration. But today you have higher standards.

Even though you’ve come all this way, your focus is on what’s wrong. Does this scenario sound familiar? I hear this all of the time. It’s the proverbial “fly on the ointment.”

So what’s the solution. As we know what you focus on expands. If you continue to focus on what’s wrong, you will notice it more and more.

Feel gratitude for what’s working in your life. Acknowledge yourself for what you have created.

Realize that things are perfect exactly the way they are. It’s part of the process. It’s a reminder that there’s work to do. And you have a choice. Make it fun. Enjoy the journey.

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JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. Signup! http://www.inspirepossibility.com.

CHOOSING CHANGE

Tuesday, February 19th, 2008

There’s a little rain this morning. Kind of a nice rain…keeps it green. As I look outside I see an abundance of birds on my fruit trees as they are just beginning to show buds. Still aways to go but the process has started. It’s a transition into a new season.

So I think about other areas of my life…where am I transitioning into another season…in some ways are lives are always in transition. There is always change in some way. We can’t prevent it. Enjoy it. Embrace it. It’s the natural order of life. We can also think of change as flow. When there is flow in our lives, we are open to what’s next. We welcome it.

By embracing change as a way of life, you can look forward to change as opportunity, as adventure, as possibility. Change is also about the future. Each day we have a choice as to what that future is. Choose it…create it.

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JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. Signup! http://www.inspirepossibility.com.

TRY SOMETHING NEW

Monday, February 18th, 2008

It’s academy awards time and I’m on a mission to see the five films that are nominated for best picture. I have one to go which is Juno.

I can’t say that I’ve liked all of the pictures. I don’t think “like” is the word. I’m not even sure why I want to see all of them.

Most of us have definite likes and dislikes. And over time they limit our choices and what we do. We have preconceived notions as to whether or not we are going to enjoy ourselves which continues to get reinforced over time.

The trap we fall into as we become more selective is that we put ourselves in a box. We don’t allow ourselves to experience new things or a new way at looking at things. Most of our friends think the same way we do and share similar spiritual and political beliefs.

It’s time to stretch. What is something that you avoid doing? What would happen if you not only did it but you embraced and told yourself that you are having fun.

Try it and see what happens. You might be pleasantly surprised.

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JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. Signup! http://www.inspirepossibility.com.

SET THE TONE FOR THE DAY

Saturday, February 16th, 2008

What I like about coaching others is that I’m working on the same things as my clients. When I get feedback that my suggestions are helpful it reinforces my own practice.

All of us experience those periods when we begin to feel that life is slipping away from us. We seem to be surrounded by dark forces and don’t see a way out.

We feel discouraged especially when we start to focus on what’s bothering us. Quite often in a coaching call, my client will start out with a scenario that seems discouraging. There scenario sounds totally reasonable and believable. Yes, from their perspective their life seems dark and hopeless.

What I tell them is that they need to look at how they start their day. Their is a direct correlation with how you start your day and the quality of your life. How you start your day sets the tone for the day.

Last Tuesday wasn’t any different. I told John(real name not disclosed for confidentiality purposes) to take 20 minutes for himself and meditate and stretch before he left the house.

Yesterday he called me unexpectantly to tell me that is exactly what he did and he had a great day. It reminded him of the value of a morning practice. It reminded me to keep practicing what I am preaching. It works. On a regular basis I hear the same thing.

It you want to change how you view the world, change how start your day. You might think you don’t have enough time….the truth is that you do. It’s a matter of reclaiming your life.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. If you like this blog, most likely you will like my monthly ezine, Letters on Life. Signup http://www.inspirepossibility.com.

LET GO OF THE NEED TO BE RIGHT

Friday, February 15th, 2008

Yesterday we learned about the Purple Light technique. Yet you still have more conflict than you like. Why is that? Yesterday I had two conversations with people regarding this challenge. So what can you do.

One of which was with housemates. The other was in an educational setting. In our daily affairs we are going to run into many people with issues that have nothing to do with you. Most likely they have had these issues way before you ever met them.

You are not going to change them. Most likely they are not interested in changing…yet they are in your life now. You got to deal with them and make the best of it. What do you do?

Have you noticed that you have a tendency to want to get in the last word? And if you don’t get it in, you think that you should have. I know I have. Why should they treat you this way? “I’m not going to let them get away with it.”

Let’s be honest. We have all been there. We want to let them know what we really think of them.

Don’t go there. Let go of the need to be right. It’s what keeps us hooked in and you know what? That’s all they know. They’ll want to get in the last word and feel vindicated. It will never end. Let it go.

Maybe you’ll feel that you are right but at the same time you’ll feel miserable and worked up. It’s not worth it. Let it go. Communicate with them. Understand why they feel the way they do. You don’t need to do much more. Remember you aren’t going to change someone by making them wrong.

If you like this blog, most likely you will like my monthly ezine, Letters on Life.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. http://www.inspirepossibility.com.


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