Archive for January, 2008

BE CURIOUS

Thursday, January 31st, 2008

In a coaching call this morning we discussed the two ways you can get the juices going again. What I mean by the juices is that passion that is missing in your life. We do all the right things and yet our life seems flat.

The most common approach is to look for what’s missing. It might be a better relationship or a better job. It might be a new activity or hobby. We keep looking and yet nothing changes. We feel the same.

The approach that I follow is to take what I have and to go deeper. To experience what is, in a new way. It takes discipline, commitment and curiosity.

For most people who I come in contact with, “curiosity” is what’s missing. Being curious as to what’s on the other side. We do the same thing over and over again…and one day we make a subtle change. We notice from that one subtle change are whole experience is different. That one change just might be a new perspective.

That’s what has happened on this trip. As I was struggling with holding my asanas in yoga, Bhavani’s gentle voice reminded us to think of it as a breathing experience. As I focused on my breath, I no longer focused on the physical component.

It’s been that way for me in other areas of my life. Asking empowering questions creates a positive expectation. As I was getting ready for this trip I was curious as to who I would meet and how they would become part of my life. And that has already happened. I am also curious about what’s next.

Be curious or as I wrote in January’s, Letters on Life, Be in Wonderment. If you like this blog, you will most likely like my ezine. Take the time to subscribe. It’s free.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com

THERE IS NO OTHER PLACE TO BE

Tuesday, January 29th, 2008

Today I can say it was fun. I couldn’t say that last week. In yoga this morning I felt the freedom that I hadn’t experienced before.

I didn’t know if it was possible. That was Ralph talking.(I mention Ralph in the last few blogs.)I kept going…didn’t give up and had a breakthrough.

I let go and enjoyed the process rather than focusing on what was not happening. I was able to be in the moment and felt that there was no other place to be.

I am sure that there are some things about your current reality that you would like to change. But what do you do in the meantime?

You enjoy the process. You love the process…the journey you are taking. You decide that you are having fun. Again it’s a decision that you make. And the truth is unless you consciously make this decision you fall into the negative patterns most of which are unconscious that have been running your life.

So make the choice. If you like this blog, most likely you will like my ezine, Letters on Life.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com

WHEN IT’S THE RIGHT TIME

Monday, January 28th, 2008

It was a lazy day. Annie’s last for a while on the island. We had no plans other than to go to the bakery and get a few things and have a cup of JAVA.

I always like to make new friends on the island. Since we come and go that takes a little effort on our part. Last summer there was Ken that I just met as my trip was ending. I thought about connecting with him but didn’t know how to get ahold of him. No biggie…when’s it the right time you meet who you are suppose to meet.I’m comfortable with it. It’s happening more frequently.

Back to the day. As we were leaving the bakery, Annie suggested we stop at Banana Joes and get some bananas for the house.

After this stop as we were getting into our car we noticed a sign for “Water Ponds.” We followed the sign and looked around for a while noticing some beautiful containers with water plants floating in them. Some of the plants blossomed out of the water. I thought about the healing environment that was created here. As we were about done with our browsing, I looked up and saw someone smiling at me.

It was Ken from last summer. The water ponds were the environment that he created. We talked and he invited us over to meet his wife. We visited the next day. That’s Kauai. It’s the magic of the island.

If you like this blog, you most likely will like my ezine, Letters on Life.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.co

WHAT’S YOUR GREMLINS NAME?

Friday, January 25th, 2008

Ralph was pretty mellow today. In yesterday’s blog, I introduced you to Ralph, my gremlin. My gremlin is that negative voice that no matter what I’m doing throws in a little doubt. Ralph says, “It won’t work….You don’t have to do it…You don’t deserve it.” And he goes on and I’m sure you have your own version with your gremlin.

We all have gremlins and the trick is to acknowledge them and move on from there. If we try to sweep them under the carpet they come back at a later time in a bigger way.

By giving your gremlin a name, we realize that our gremlin is not our true essence. It is not our true self. When we stay in our heart and see the world with love in a positive way, our perspective is different. Then our gremlin goes away. We might want to send love to our gremlin.

On a basic level, our challenge in finding more fulfillment is learning to make peace with that inner critic…that wounded child part of ourself.

In yoga this morning there was a shift. By focusing on my breath I was in the present moment. My mind didn’t wander.

You can experience more joy and fulfillment in your life. Make the choice. Leave the judgments behind. After all isn’t your gremlin just a judgment.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com

GETTING TO KNOW YOUR GREMLIN

Thursday, January 24th, 2008

I’m taking a day off. After four straight days of yoga I’m taking a break. When I was in class there were two things going on. The first was the actual class and being conscious of what I was doing physically with the asanas and the breath.

The second was the mental chatter about what I was doing. My mind went rampant…I didn’t want to be here….yes, I really didn’t need to come today…are we near the end of the class? Why is this class two hours long? What difference does it make I’m on vacation.

I was committed to doing it. I had the mental chatter but it didn’t stop me. I think that is what gets in the way of our living the life we want. Not only does the mental chatter get in the way but it stops us.

Just recognize that mental chatter. In coaching we call it our gremlin. I like to give my gremlin a name. I call mine “Ralph.” Your gremlin is that voice that says, “You can’t do it or it won’t work or that you are not good enough.” Or it might be some version of the above. It’s not going to go away.

In my own life, Ralph is a frequent visitor and sometimes wants to run my life. Sometime I let him but usually I say hello and do what I intended. So, yes Ralph is still there but he’s not running my life.

I’ve learned to make peace with Ralph and not try to pretend that he isn’t there. But listening and telling him that it’s going to be all right seems to get me back in the direction that I intended.

In one of his poems, the mystic poet, Rumi, refers to these visitors as guests. Welcome them…there not going anywhere.

It you like this blog, most likely you will like my monthly ezine, Letters on Life.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com

ANOTHER LOOK AT RESISTANCE

Monday, January 21st, 2008

The roosters were really crowing this morning. Went to yoga, second day in a row. It was a lot easier. I focused on my breath. I noticed how much more flexible I was, especially in my backbends.

After class Annie and I were drinking smoothies and I told her of my experience. She asked me if it was fun. And I said that I wasn’t thinking of that word to describe my experience. And I wasn’t sure if there was a word that could describe how I felt.

Once we put a word to our experience we lock in the range of what we experience. I know I felt good. I still felt resistant and proud of myself for sticking with it and going through my stuff.

And yes I had those other thoughts come up. Like why am I doing this. What difference will it make if I leave early or only go to a few more classes. And I still did the class and will be going back tomorrow.

I have always believed that any spiritual practice or discipline is a microcosm of the macrocosm of our entire life. In fact any pattern that comes up like the resistance that I experienced shows up in many other areas of my life.

Take a look at our your whole life. Is there one aspect of your life where your resistance shows up more than in others?

Resistance is basic. There is one important thing to remember. It’s ok to have resistance as long as it doesn’t stop you. It’s better to have the resistance, than the resistance having you.

This is going to be a short trip on Kauai. To make a commitment to a practice for a limited period of time is the best way to get going toward a long-term practice. I know that for just a few weeks I can do anything. And I’m excited to find out how I’ll be feeling at the end of our stay.

If you like this blog, most likely you will like my monthly ezine, Letters on Life.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com

ONE BREATH AT A TIME

Sunday, January 20th, 2008

“Focus on how you want to feel and don’t worry about how you are going to get there.” Many of you are familiar with these words. They have been repeated many times on the movie, The Secret, and are mentioned in just about all of the prosperity books out there.

What was different today were the circumstances where I heard these words. We arrived on Kauai last night and this morning went to an early yoga class, at Yoga Hanalei. We have taken classes with Bhavani, for the last twelve years.

She greeted us on this early Sunday morning with those words. “How do we went to feel after class. Don’t worry how you are going to get there,” she said.

Here we were in an entirely different setting and those words were the first words we heard in the morning.

I quickly thought about what she said and realized that it all starts with the mind. Rather than thinking about the difficulty or challenges ahead, focus on the inner feeling. These teachings are not anything new and probably we can’t hear them enough. Or as Mike Robbins says, “Focus on the Good Stuff.”

As soon as the class started I realized that the intensity that I had been used to in the last six months was not on the same level as this class. I started to play a few mind games with myself but with Bhavani’s guidance settled in and focused on my breath. I soon felt a stillness that set the tone for the rest of the day.

I am sure you have heard many times, “One day at a time.” Why not, “One Breath at a Time?”

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com

THIS IS FUN

Friday, January 18th, 2008

Are you having fun yet? I always ask new clients to evaluate their level of fun. On a scale of 1 to 10, how satisfied are you? Let’s look at the nature of fun.

Most of us have activities that we like to do and that are fun for us. But we have to admit that at times they also can seem like drudgery or boring.

I have come to believe that having fun is an attitude and a choice we make. Almost anything we do can be fun if we say it is. It’s up to us.

Imagine going through your day saying this is fun on more than a few occasions….try it….at least once in the day.

No matter what you are doing, whether it is at work or doing your daily rounds, say to yourself, “This is fun.”

See what happens. What do you notice? Another thing you might want to say to yourself is, “This is exciting?”

If you like this blog, you probably will also like my monthly newsletter, Letters on Life.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com

LIFE PURPOSE

Thursday, January 17th, 2008

Are you connected with your life purpose? I know that when you are, life doesn’t seem to be a struggle.

For years, I’ve struggled with what my purpose was. I kept coming back to making a difference in the lives of others. Being a lawyer satisfied that purpose in the beginning.

But as my career progressed, I started to question how much I really was helping people. It seemed that what I did shifted from fighting for social justice to making money. And when I made this shift I struggled.

Because that is what happens when it’s just about money. There has to be something greater than ourselves that moves us. Our challenge is to find what that is. And what that is changes from time to time.

Having a family seem to to answer that question for a while until I reached a point when I started questioning what I was doing. A few days ago in my blog I stated that my deepest intent was to inspire others to believe in themselves. For now I resonate with that as my life purpose. It is my hope that reading this blog inspires you to connect with yours. You may also find my newsletter, Letters on Life, inspiring.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com

KEEPING SCORE

Wednesday, January 16th, 2008

If you are into sports, keeping score is a given. And it’s part of the game. We all also keep score with our finances. That’s another good thing especially if you are winning…i.e. not spending more than you are taking in.

But there is one area in our life where keeping score hinders us. And that is staying in touch with friends and family. If you are like most people, you probably notice when your phone call isn’t returned before calling again. Or it might be just extending yourself to another in some other manner. i sometimes find myself thinking that it is their turn to contact me.

If you want more connection in your life and I think we all do, then putting ourselves out there is a must. At times it might seem
we aren’t appreciated. So you have to ask yourself the question, What’s more important…making the connection or being right and not making another effort to connect?

In any relationship, one person has to step up to make it happen. How many times have you been with a friend and one of you says,”Let’s together soon….or I’ll call you.”

What happens is that you wait for the other person to initiate the contact. You wait and you wait and before you know it a year goes by and you haven’t talked with that person.

What would happen if in your relationships you took the responsibility to initiate contact. You know you would have more connection in your life. So ask yourself whether it was worth. Usually you’ll find that it was but not all of the time.

I like to connect with people. Probably my need is greater than a lot of people that I know.

If you like this blog, you would also like my newsletter, Letters on Life.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com


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