Archive for November, 2007

IT’S A CHOICE WE MAKE

Friday, November 30th, 2007

It’s almost December…The year has gone by. What have I accomplished? Do I like where I am in my life? Could it be better? Of course it good and I feel pretty good about what is going on in my life.

I am grateful that I am happy and healthy. I am grateful that I know how to enjoy myself which is different than having fun. Having fun is more of a doing, whereas enjoying ourselves is more of a being.

What I mean is that enjoying life is an attitude. It doesn’t depend on what we are doing or what is going on in our life.

It’s a choice we make.

I ask most of my coaching clients to finish this sentence.. Life is….how you finish this sentence will determine how you relate to your life. If you finish it my saying that life is a struggle, I am sure that life will be a struggle.

And if you finish it by saying that life is exciting, I am sure you will be living an exciting life. The words you choose determine your state of mind. If you want to feel more upbeat, then think of your life as that. Life is fun and exciting. You might not notice an immediate shift, but I bet if you continue to answer this question over a period of time, your quality of life will be different. What do you have to lose?

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com.em>

WALKING THROUGH THE GATE

Thursday, November 29th, 2007

I have noticed that with some people that I work with, their changes are dramatic. They’re not the same person they were when we began our work together.

They have more self-confidence and are excited about the future, but in the back of their mind, they still remember where they came from and how in the past when things started to go well, they sabotaged themselves. Things fell apart and they are now waiting for that to happen again.

It doesn’t have to happen. Once we go through the gate to a new way of thinking, we’ll never go back. That’s what happens when we are on a spiritual path…we are awake and aware of things that previously we were not conscious of.

We can’t go backwards. It’s too late, which is a good thing. I remember when I first began this path of awakening there were times when I wish things were not so clear. I had to take responsibility for my life and could no longer blame others or circumstances, like my parents or what happened as a child.

I remember some people would say, “Ignorance is Bliss.” Once you know the truth you realize that “Ignorance is just Ignorance.” There’s no reason to try to glorify it.

The good news is that as you go forward from here, you’ll have more choices and possibilities to live a more fulfilling and successful life. You won’t go backwards even if you wanted to. On some level you are forever changed.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com.em>

MAKE THE FIRST MOVE

Wednesday, November 28th, 2007

Last year I made a point to reach out and contact friends that I hadn’t been in contact with for quite some time. It was a very rewarding experience…so I have been suggesting this to my coaching clients.

In the first feedback that I received, two calls were made and messages left on voice mail…within a few hours the calls were enthusiastically returned. And that was similar to my own experience….And then I received more feedback…just as in the first experience, these calls were also enthusiastically returned.

Sometimes during the holidays we wonder what to give another. Some of us struggle with this. Giving of ourselves is the greatest gift we can make. Most people are craving connection, but are so wound up in their life that they won’t make time for it unless they are hit over the head. Others are too shy to reach out and make the connection. They are waiting for your call.

To create more connection in your life, don’t wait for someone else to take the first step. It starts with you. Reach out and contact at least two people whom you haven’t been in touch with for at least the last few years. I know you will be pleasantly surprised and just might want to make this a regular ritual.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com.em>

LOVELAND

Monday, November 26th, 2007

Last night we were at a holiday party hosted by two friends of ours, Bev and Bev. Although I didn’t know it at the time, a friend of Bev’s just returned from Bhutan, a picturesque country between China and India. Prior to our looking at footage of her trip, we gathered in a circle. I sat next to my wife, Annie and youngest daughter, Savanna.

Before I sat down, I noticed a CD Jacket, Loveland, by Jai Uttal. This music was described as music for dreaming and awakening. As we went around in a circle, I listened to others express what they were grateful for. For many it was their health. For others it was a special relationship or the love of their life. For Savanna it was her yoga practice. I thought about what it was for me at that moment. I thought about how it was all perfect. I expressed gratitude for the synchronicity in my life.

Savanna did some baby sitting for Jai Uttal. I thought about how important music is in our life. I also thought about how important dreaming is. For many years I dreamed about meeting my soulmate. It was 1983.

My friend Kent had just moved to Colorado. On a trip back to Marin, he invited me to have breakfast with him. At we were leaving the cafe, he suggested that I come visit him. So I did.

And he lived in Loveland, a magical town near Boulder. With its many lakes and mountain ranges, I continued to dream and awaken. It was there back in 1983, that I met my wife Annie. And here we are today, listening to Jai Uttal’s CD, Loveland.

Whatever it is, don’t give up. Keep the dream alive.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com.em>

Just for today

Tuesday, November 20th, 2007

Thanksgiving is a time to come together, to reach out and to be with others. It’s a time to think about what we’re grateful for. And when we do, we experience the present moment. Think about what we had to do to get here. Some of us traveled many miles and toiled many hours preparing food. Others warmed our houses and created an inviting space for others to come together.

So when we give thanks for our life we no longer think about the future-or have regrets about the past. It’s a day when we live in the present-with its perfection. Giving thanks really is an acknowledgement of the present moment.

that’s what life is…a series of moments of now.

It’s much easier to be happier when we are in the present. Just for today everything is perfect…

That’s the gift of gratitude…we’re living for now. And that’s all there is. This moment!

JOURNEY ON

MARK
JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way. http://www.inspirepossibility.com.em>

Gone Dancin

Sunday, November 18th, 2007

Last night I went to the big West Coast Swing dance which is held every three months…and this time the Jules Broussard band provided the music.
I had the most fun that I have ever had at these dances.

I am very conscious of what i can and what I can’t do….and I know that to get better I need to make a bigger commitment to learning the dance…once a week doesn’t do it…so it’s frustrating at times. I want to dance with the better dancers, rather than the ones who aren’t so good, but I find myself too shy to ask the better dancers to dance because I’m so aware of my limitations…

So it detracts of my experience. Not only does it detract, I feel like i’m in high school again-afraid that if I ask someone to dance I’ll be rejected. Can’t believe it because it’s never happened ever at any of these dances or at the classes…yet it’s a residual hangover from those feelings that I had way back when.

The bigger picture here ” is how my fear of rejection stops me from participating fully and enjoying myself more. And isn’t that what happens to all of us? Because of our fear, we sit on the sidelines and watch life go by. Rather than being a participant we find ourselves an observer.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com.em>

RECLAIM THAT SENSE OF MAGIC

Thursday, November 15th, 2007

Have you ever taken the time to wonder if there is a theme to your life? Is there a core theme that explains what you are really about?

Recently when working with a client who was an architect, I asked him to write about his life in the form of a fairy tale in the 3rd person and to limit it to one page.

He did and what he discovered was that as a child he had an active imagination. It was a form of magic. He was totally enthralled by his imagination. And when he became an adult, caught up with making it in the world and getting people to like him, he lost that sense of magic which was a form of power to him.

Life seemed like a chore.

In our work together, what he discovered was that “unless he was true to himself”, he would never regain that sense of magic. That’s what he has done one step at a time. He has become the wizard that was always inside of him. Since then his life keeps unfolding everyday. Take some time to discover what your basic core theme is.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com.em>

WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR?

Wednesday, November 14th, 2007

What’s on our mind? Yes, it’s that time of year. Next week is Thanksgiving. Some of you might think…wow…this year has gone fast. How do you feel about it? What are you grateful for?

Good health has to be at the top of the list. And of course feeling loved is right up there. Being prosperous is in my top three. And from this point on it varies from day to day.

I’m grateful for my playfulness….my ability to connect…my smile and my ability to laugh. When you focus on gratitude your life seems pretty good. I’m also grateful for good friends.

So here’s the challenge. In the morning before you talk on the phone, read the paper or leave the house, focus on 20 things you are grateful for. The first 10 might seem obvious. But it’s from that point on that makes the biggest difference. It forces you to think about qualities and characteristics about yourself that you like. It also slows you down and gets you thinking about things that seem little, but in the bigger context are quite significant.

Try it for about a week and see if you notice a difference.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com.em>

THINK OF ALL OF THE POSSIBILITIES

Sunday, November 11th, 2007

I love the fall…there’s something special about this time of year. And football is my favorite sport…I grew up on it…played it in high school and followed my two favorite teams….Cal and the 49ers…and since I went to Cal I look forward to the season and being on the campus again.

Yesterday was one of those games that you look forward to. My son, Josh, flew up from San Diego and we went to the game….we braved the cold and the pouring rain for four hours as we saw our team put up a valiant fight only to lose at the end because of a mental mistake by one of our key players.

Under pressure, when the game is on the line, this player’s decision making is poor. He doesn’t perform well under pressure. It seems that he expects to fail. It will be interesting to see if he can change that trend.

I am sure we have at times felt that our decision making has not been optimal. How can we change that, so that under pressure we make good decisions? In sports they use the metaphor that the game is slowing down so that we can see the whole field. But in life when we feel overwhelmed we aren’t able to see the solutions that are right in front of us. It’s developing a mental attitude so that we are able to see all of the possibilities. So when the game slows down, we can see all of the possibilites.

Here’s a thought. 1. Whenever you begin to feel overwhelmed…think of all of the possibilites…not just what you think is going to happen….but all of the possibilites…2. Then think about the solution you want and visualize it. 3. What changes would you have to make, so that you could get the result you want? 4. How would you feel when this occurs? The truth is that any of these possibilities are possible…but usually the one you focus on is the one that will occur.

Journey On

Mark

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com.em>

MAKE ROOM FOR THE LOOSE ENDS

Friday, November 9th, 2007

Time is a big one. So many people I work with, work long days because they feel that they more work to do. They stay at work longer than they need to and get home late…and on those days when they leave at a decent time…after dinner they’re back at it….does this sound familiar? If it doesn’t you’re in good shape.

It’s always that feeling that there’s one more thing to do…and then you can stop….but it’s always going to be that way unless you change your attitude. If you are obsessive about tidying up the loose ends today, rest assured that there will be new one’s tomorrow.

We like everything to be wrapped up in a package….we’re uncomfortable leaving something that isn’t finished. That’s a good quality…don’t get me wrong….but it also keeps you imprisoned…it also verges on perfectionism.

As you become more comfortable with loose ends in your life, you will also find that you become more confident about life. It’s learning to be comfortable with the unknown, which allows you to try new things

Don’t be afraid to leave work early once in a while. You can always get it done tomorrow. There’s always something you are going to have to do. The more you do…the more you’ll find you have to do. It’s about setting boundaries….once you do you’ll find out that you can get more done than you realize. Think about how much you get done the day before you leave for a vacation. What if you were that efficient all of the time? Why couldn’t you be?

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com.em>


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