BEING WITH OURSELVES
Have you ever looked at being with yourself as an art form? Llke most art forms, if we keep at it, we get better at it. After a while, we become an expression of that art form…For example…if we are a dancer, we move in a certain way and are more comfortable in our bodies. If we are meditators we are more comfortable with silence. And it goes on. The important thing to note is that as we become more comfortable with ourself the better decisions we make. This is especially so in the area of relationships. When we enjoy our own company we aren’t as needy and are more selective and usually able to avoid unhealthy relationships.
When we enjoy our own company we are more apt to be more adventurous. Sometimes we are reluctant to do things because we don’t want to do them alone. That is a big reason we end up in unhealthy relationships. We love the idea of being in love so much that we pick partners who are unhealthy just so we can get the drama associated with it.
We become drama junkies so that we don’t have to come to terms with the lonelinesss in our lives. But as I have said if we can be comfortable with ourselves we won’t compromise our standards and our values. I’m not encouraging being a loner…I love connection.
But don’t seek connection out of neediness. But seek it because that’s who you are. You are a person who loves to share with another who is open to receiving.
JOURNEY ON
MARK
JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com