Archive for August, 2007

BE AWARE BUT DON’T DWELL ON IT

Thursday, August 30th, 2007

Yoga was late this morning so I could sleep in…but by sleeping in I didn’t feel like getting up and going to the later scheduled class. But I went and worked my way through it. Again I was going with a goal in mind which in the yoga world is considered unyogic like….so I’m not perfect. I am making progress although slowly…And then I went back to the house for my coaching calls.

Since I have been on the island which this trip I haven’t left the north shore. Today I went to Kapaa to run some errands. In the car I was listening to Al Francken and in between the news. The news can be seductive as the commentators on both sides are effecive in appealing to their respective audiences. What I realized in the car was that since I have been on the island I haven’t watched television…or read a paper…I am aware of what’s going on as I am connected to the internet..I get all the news…I just don’t dwell on it. And that’s what happens…we start to get sucked in by the news and the programs on television… It’s one thing to read about Lebanon and quite another to hear Wolf Bliizer or some other commentator right on the spot. It definitely affects your consciousness.

Have you ever gone on a media fast..no tv or radio or internet or newspapers. What would happen? What would you miss? Would it matter that you became aware of the news a few days later.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com

DEVELOPING PRESENCE

Tuesday, August 28th, 2007

I have a lot of good ideas. One of them is to chronicle my experiences while on the island. Here’s what I was thinking. Each day I would have insights and experiences that would be interesting to share. But like a lot of good ideas not all of them are carrieid out to completion so I never know what’s on the other side of these ideas. Well one of them was to be consistent with my blogging.. Overcoming resistance is a big challenge for everyone. I was looking forward to going to yoga this morning but at the last minute thought about bagging it…but i didn’t…I went and it took a while before settling in and being present.

Yes there were so many thoughts to just let it go and not be there. It’s that duality that we all experience. We are physically present at a particular place..doing something…yet at the same time our mind is some other place.

That’s what I’m working on…how to be totally present…I think that’s what charisma is all about. People who we perceive as charismatic have that ability to be present and to exhibit presence. It’s something you can work on and develop. Tomorrow we’ll talk about a few things that can help you develop this quality.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com

LISTENING TO YOUR THOUGHTS

Monday, August 27th, 2007

I have been on Kauai for a few days now. Saying I’m feeling lazy is an understatement. It’s the middle of the day and I’m listening to music…Stevie Winwood… and blogging. Everyone is gone…that is the family and a few close friends from the mainland. I’m ready for a new phase…don’t know exactly what it’s going to be….Yoga will be part of it. So will playing music, swimming in the ocean and having time for reflection.

Taking time for reflection…being quiet is the biggest challenge for most people. Listening to the quiet is what gets most people..It did me for a while but after meditating for years it’s gotten easy.

Listening to your own thoughts. What do they sound like? Facing what is most difficult is the biggest challenge for most people. It’s also the greatest opportunity for growth.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com

CHANGING SCENERY

Saturday, August 25th, 2007

Sometimes you forget what a difference in scenery can do to your whole state of mind. I arrived on Kauai last Thursday. Do you say on or in…I’ve alway pondered that distinction. On because you are “on” an island and “in” because you are in a place like San Francisco…Anyway I’m here and it’s amazing how my daily routine has changed. In the morning yoga or tennis. In the late afternoons swimming in Hanalei Bay and in the evenings playing music. And yes in the afternoons I am coaching and connecting with my clients wherever they are in different locales in the US. It’s been quite an experience so far and I’m enjoying every minute.

I was also feeling good in Marin but in a different way. Here there is a freshness and new perspective. I see things differently since I have changed since last summer. I have a lot of friends over here and it’s good to reconnect. Since I am different our connection is deeper and I have also connected with some new people.

Changing scenery even for just a few days is beneficial…So where are you going to go next? And as I have always said…change is good. Gotta go get my mail…more tomorrow.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com

I BELIEVE

Thursday, August 23rd, 2007

Thought I should share this with you. It was sent to me a long time ago and is just as special now as it was back when. Enjoy.

I believe-that we don’t have to change friends
if we understand that friends change.

I believe-
that no matter how good a friend is,
they’re going to hurt you every
once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I believe-
that true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I believe-
that you can do something in an instant
that will give you heartache for life.

I believe-
that it’s taking me a long time
to become the person I want to be.

I believe-
that you should always leave loved ones
with loving words. It may be the last
time you see them.

I believe-
we have too many smart people in the world
and too few good people.

I believe-
that you can keep going
long after you can’t.

I believe-
that we are responsible for what we do,
no matter how we feel.

I believe-
that either you control your attitude
or it controls you.

I believe-
that regardless of how hot and steamy
a relationship is at first, the passion fades
and there had better be something else
to take its place.

I believe-
that heroes are the people who do what
has to be done, regardless of the
consequences.

I believe-
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I believe-
we should talk softly to our children regardless
of how angry we are with them.

I believe-
that my best friend and I can do anything or
nothing and have the best time.

I believe-
that sometimes the people you expect to kick
you when you’re down will be the ones to
help you get back up.

I believe-
sometimes when I’m angry I have the
right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me
the right to be cruel.

I believe-
that just because someone doesn’t love
you the way you want them to doesn’t
mean they don’t love you with all they have.

I believe-
that maturity has more to do with what types
of experiences you’ve had and less to do with
how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I believe-
that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by
others. Sometimes you have to learn to
forgive yourself.

I believe-
that no matter how bad your heart is broken
the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I believe-
that our background and circumstances may
have influenced who we are, but we are
responsible for who we become.

I believe-
that just because two people argue, it
doesn’t mean they don’t love each other;
and just because they don’t argue, it
doesn’t mean they do.

I believe-
that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out
a secret. It could change your life forever.

I believe-
that two people can look at the exact same
thing and see something totally different.

I believe-
that your life can be changed in a matter of
hours by people who don’t even know you.

I believe-
that even when you think you have no more
to give, when a friend cries out to you, it will
give you the strength to help.

I believe-
that credentials on the wall do not make you
a decent human being.

I believe-
that the people you care about most in life
are taken too soon.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com

TWELVE SECRETS TO GREATER INTIMACY.

Wednesday, August 22nd, 2007

I remember when most of my focus was on finding the one. You know, Mr Right or Mrs Right. And then I met the one who I thought was the one, who was ready and willing and I started to freak out. I had been single for so long and so used to searching that I didn’t know what to do. Well I got over it and 24 years has gone by. On more than one occasion I have thought about sharing what I have learned but have been resistant.

I often wondered where I would start. So here it is.

The 11 guiding principles to deeper intimacy

1.Be respectful of your partner. Lets face it.You won’t like everybody! In fact there are some people you just don’t like. You better think of your partner as someone who is pretty special.You really like who they are as a person.

2. Recognize each other’s strengths. Each of you has certain strengths and gifts. Utilize them to the benefit of the relationship.

3. Have you really made a full commitment. So many couples use every fight as a weapon to challenge the strength of the relationship. If you are really committed you cannot keep challenging the relationship.

4. Commitment to personal growth. Don’t think because you are in that “relationship” that you can stop working on yourself. For a while that was my thinking. When you stop growing you get boring and so does your partner and everything you are involved in. Growth is a lifelong process whether you are alone or with a partner.

5. You need to be flexible. Life evolves and things changes. As you change so does your partner and everything around you.

6. Develop a personal support system, independent of the relationship. Life is not a bowl of cherries, sometime you get a bad pit or a sour taste. In a long term relationship you will experience several challenges. It can be a financial setback, an illness, a loss of a loved one or a personal tragedy.

7. Have or develop a sense of humor, but not necessarily at the expense of your partner.

8. See marriage and family as a sacred path.

9. Learn how to deeply listen to each other, which means caring about what your partner longs for.

10. Create a safe vehicle or environment so that you can have authentic and honest discussions around potentially challenging subjects. Have you had a honest discussion regarding your finances? Do you have a financial plan that can work for both of you? Are you mutually responsible for the implementation of this plan?

11. Choose a partner who is capable of mutuality. Perhaps most important is whether your partner can make the commitment. Are they emotionally available?

12. What about you? Where do you shut down? Are there things in your life, that you refuse to look at? The’re usually are. And that’s our work.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com

TRUE FRIENDS

Monday, August 20th, 2007

Read Each One Carefully and Think About It a Second or Two.

1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.

2. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won’t make you cry.

3. Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

4. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.

5. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can’t have them.

6. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

7. Don’t waste your time on a man/woman, who isn’t willing to waste their time on you.

8. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.

9. Don’t cry because it is over, smile because it happened.

10. There’s always going to be people that hurt you so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.

11. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try and know someone else and expect them to know you.

12. Don’t try so hard, the best things come when you least expect them to.

REMEMBER: WHATEVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS FOR A REASON.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. His articles reflect this journey in an inspirational and motivational way.http://www.inspirepossibility.com

CREATING YOUR OWN DANCE

Saturday, August 18th, 2007

I have been continuing with the salsa challenge and like what’s happening…But I also have a desire to go to the next level and don’t feel i’m quite ready…So i have become comfortable in the beginning class. So I guess you could say it’s not the right time.

And then last week, a few people in the class invited us to Rancho Nicasio to hear a hot salsa band. I was somewhat reluctant because I felt that I needed more time to bring my level up so I didn’t commit to going. But when the third person asked me if I was going, all within a period of a day and I got a call that afternoon, it was difficult to say no.

So I went and I did feel uncomfortable in the beginning. I had a glass of wine and sat back and watched. I noticed that most people were doing their own dance and it wasn’t really salsa yet it seemed that they were really enjoying themselves. So I got out there and let go of the form and had a good time. Sometimes you just have to let go of the structure and see what happens.

Structure is important to give you a framework to build upon but eventually you have to find your freedom within the stucture. I let go and felt the dance and created my own version….it wasn’t salsa but so what. I just got back from class tonight and was back to basics but experienced it in a new way.

JOURNEY ON

MARK

Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. Contact him for an opportunity to create the life of your dreams. http://www.inspirepossibility.com

WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME?

Friday, August 17th, 2007

I wrote my newsletter about the Dance and then the next evening I went to Salsa. I was amazed at how on I was and how easy it seemed. I’m not saying I was totally relaxed but there was nothing that seemed out of reach. It was probably the fourth or fifth time the particular sequence had been explained to me.

After class I was planning to pick up a printing project at Kinkos so I didn’t stick around. But I was tempted to stay and check out the intermediate class. How do you know when you are ready for that next level? It’s usually my tendency to rush things and to accelerate the process. On this evening I enjoyed the feeling of knowing. But that is always the question…When do you take the next step? When is the right time? And it pertains just to about everything in our lives. How do we know when it’s time to move on in our life and perhaps change careers or begin or end a relationship.

We will never know for sure. We have to sometimes just go for it and see what happens. That’s the way relationships are…We don’t know where it’s going to go but if don’t get involved it won’t go anywhere. It’s the not knowing that we need to become comforable with.

Journey On

Mark

Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. Contact him for an opportunity to create the life of your dreams. http://www.inspirepossibility.com

YOUR MIND GETS IN THE WAY

Thursday, August 16th, 2007

John who was teaching the Salsa classes wasn’t there again…Instead, Mark, the owner of the studio taught the class. It was different and it moved faster. What I noticed was that I was able to keep up with the class. I had a good feeling for the rhythm. My confidence level increased and when we learned a new dance I was able to handle the new complexities.

With this new found confidence I started to again wonder what was possible. It was fun and I am looking forward to the next class. Thought about going on Wednesday but had a conflict on my schedule and didn’t feel compelled to go.

I realized how my mindset gets in the way of my learning. Last week in the Wed class I felt overwhelmed instead of lookng at what the next step required. And because of this state of overwhem I couldn’t learn anything new.

It’s amazing how our thinking limits us. I have more faith in the Monday teachers and feel like they care more. Whereas at the other studio it seemed that the teachers felt like you either got it or you didn’t.

That may be true or it may not be true. But it was my belief and because of that it was difficult for me to learn from her. So it is with other parts of our lives. What about your life….What are your beliefs that prevent you from fully enjoying yourself? What are your attitudes and beliefs that prevent you from being fully present?

I am a firm believer that it is our attitudes that determine our ability to fully enjoy our lives. The next time you are in a funk or aren’t enjoying yourself, look at your attitudes and belifs. If you are convinced that life sucks it probably will suck and if you believe that life is fun it will be. Be playful.

Journey On

Mark

Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He also publishes, Letters on Life, an inspirational ezine. Contact him for an opportunity to create the life of your dreams. http://www.inspirepossibility.com


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