GETTING ON THE POSITIVE SIDE OF CHANGE is an exploration that can be exciting and life changing. In this blog Mark Susnow, inspires us with timeless wisdom from lessons he has learned throughout his unique personal journey. He explores eight tools and strategies so that one can navigate successfully the swifter currents and deeper waters of the river of life. Along the way, we begin to experience change as opportunity, as adventure and as an exciting journey of discovery. Enjoy the Journey.
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Rediscover the Magical Playground

July 14th, 2016

There was a time when you didn’t worry about yesterday or tomorrow. You were totally engaged in the moment. Do you remember what that was like? Many of us have
fond memories of playing at the playground. There was the swing, the slide, the seesaw and the sandbox. And of course the other kids. Once you felt safe, you let go and forgot about time.You weren’t concerned with what you had to do “afterwards;” you didn’t even think about “afterwards” or tomorrow. You were in the moment. Nothing else mattered.You can be there again.

For some of us that playground might have looked different. It might have been the park or the street in front of our house. There was always a game that you could play that was played before by other kids. If there wasn’t a game you liked, you used your imagination and made one up, including the rituals that went along with it. Because it was yourmagical playground, you were in your own world, with your own set of rules.

Then one day you grew up and the game got more serious. In this new game, there was a new set of rules that put more emphasis and importance on results, money, rather than on fun and play. You worried about the loose ends and uncertainty in your life. You worried about tomorrow, and whether you were good enough to make it, whatever making it meant for you. You forgot about the magical playground.It was just a distant memory.

In this new game you created a story. You believed that because of the demands of this new game that you didn’t have time for play but it actually works the other way. When you make time for play and what’s meaningful for you, you’ll get better results in the bigger game of life. You’ll struggle less and be more fun to be around.

When you’re excited about one aspect of your life that enthusiasm spreads to your entire being. People pickup on it, even though you might not be aware of it. Our passion and enthusiasm is contagious. People want to be around you.

We use our imagination all of the time. When we worry we drive ourselves nuts by imagining worse case scenarios. There’s a better way use our imagination; a way that is exciting and fulfilling-a way that empowers us.

We rediscover a magical playground for our lives today. We dream again. We are happy. We are courageous. We have vision. We believe our lives will turn out better than we’re currently thinking, although we’re not sure what that might be. Yes that might require a stretch of the imagination, but why not stretch it. Just for fun take some time now and imagine that your life has exceeded your expectations. Imagine, who you become in the process and, the different parts you get to play. In truth you have been doing this all along. As
Shakespeare wrote in As you Like It.

“All the world’s a stage.
And all the men and women merely players.
They have their exits and their entrances,
And one man in his time plays many parts.”

Whatever stage we are on in our life journey, each of us has already played many parts in our life and I’m sure we’ll play many more. Each role has its unique set of rules, language, rituals and costumes. I’ve played lawyer, musician, father, husband and athlete and now I’m playing wise elder.

Are you ready to create the next part? If it is-then

IT’S TIME FOR YOU TO ENTER

On the entrance to your magical playground is the following:

To dream – again. To dare – again.
To feel enjoyment and happiness – again,
or for the first time.
To realize – Ah, this is living —
This is the stand I take!”

What then? Please feel free to pass this message onto those in your circle. You know I like to hear from you. Let me know what moves you.

Enjoy the Journey

©2016 Mark Susnow

The following was reprinted from the soon to be released the Soul of Uncertainty. Mark Susnow is a life coach and advisor, speaker to many prestigious organizations, and the author of the soon to be released the Soul of Uncertainty. He integrates what it takes to be successful in today’s world with wisdom revealed to him through years of meditation and yoga. http://www.inspirepossiblity.com; mark@inspirepossibility.com; 415.453.5016

The Deer in the Headlights

July 8th, 2016

I wasn’t sure what to call this story. You’ll see why in a minute. Most of us are familiar with the phrase in the title—that moment when you freeze, that moment when you’re unable to respond. It’s usually not an actual deer in the road, although sometimes it is, but a form of communication that lets you know that your life won’t be the same.

Some of those moments might be the ending of a relationship, a health diagnosis, or a financial disappointment. You know the list. When you first get the news, you’re in shock like that deer in the highlights. Silent for a moment letting it all sink in, you try to get a few words out of your mouth, but they have a hard time making it out.

What makes matters more challenging is that in today’s world our lives are changing faster than they ever have before, including the rules and values that at one time seemed sacred. Those of us who have created an inner technology to help us navigate these challenges, have a greater likelihood of not only surviving, but of thriving.

In the realm of business and commerce, a concern of many with whom I work, a familiar refrain has become, “Sorry, we no longer need you.” At times it might be the disappointment you feel when you don’t get that call back regarding the new position or opportunity you were hoping would come your way.

And I know a few who have lost their key customer or key client. It’s painful for sure. Your business model had been structured to serve them. You’re not sure how you can fill the void.

If you have been a reader of Letters on Life you probably have noticed certain themes emerge. Yes life is uncertain for sure. Quite often we despair over where that uncertainty might take us.

When we pause to take a deep breath we usually find that the likelihood of that worst-case scenario occurring is slight.

What I’ve seen in my own life and in the lives of the many people I work with, is that life quite often turns out better than you ever imagined. When you’re at the base of the mountain, it’s impossible to have the same vision as you do from the pinnacle.

When I spoke with Glenn Stasky a few days ago, I was reminded that life is full of unexpected twists and turns, some of which have the potential to magically transform your life.

Always fascinated by sounds and music, Glenn followed his passion and became a pioneer in the audio speaker business.

He built and created a thriving company, shipping products throughout the US. His client list became a who’s who in the audio speaker industry. He designed products to the standards and specifications of his biggest client, a company in Memphis who comprised 70% of his business.

It was just about nine years ago when the following sequence of events occurred. Along with a shipment comprising the latest innovations in speaker technology, Glenn, an avid motorcycle enthusiast, shipped his motorcycle in the truck that delivered the products to the company.

He made the trip to train the company’s technicians in the emerging technology. In his mind the training, as always, was a huge success. There was a buzz in the air regarding the new technology.

After the completion of the training, as he was thanking the president of the company, he was shocked by the first headlights. After 10 years of loyal service, the company decided to take their product line to China and have it copied there. This was their last order.

“It felt as if my heart fell out of my chest,” was how Stasky described it to me.

His whole world imploded. What was he going to do? Could his company stay afloat? How was he going to tell his loyal 25 employees, many of whom felt like family, that they no longer had jobs?

With a tear in his eye, he got on his motorcycle and left Memphis as the rains enveloped the city.

Even in the midst of the sadness and confusion he was feeling, for the next three days wandering through the Colorado mountains on those curvy and lonely roads, felt like a marvelous adventure.

As it was getting dark on the last day of the mountain part of the trip, he noticed a car on the horizon flash its headlights at him. The next few seconds changed Stasky’s life.

He is so far away, my lights cannot be bothering him that much, he thought. The high beam lights on Stasky’s bike had auxillary lights wired to them that increased the visibility. Because the flashing continued, Stasky turned off his high beams, which also turned off the high power auxiliary lights. Thrust into darkness, the oncoming lights kept flashing at him until the vehicle went past him.

He immediately turned back on his lights and waited for the auxillary lights to reignite. TOO LATE! He wasn’t able to see the dead deer in the road.

You might say it was a miracle. After hitting the dead deer, the bike became airborne, then bounced and bucked and landed safely on its wheels, as Glenn held on for dear life.

Gathering himself he quickly pulled over to the side of the road. He looked up toward the sky and gave thanks to the higher power he believed in, for his precious life. His faith had been passed onto him from the strong spiritual convictions of his mother.

There are times when we wonder about the significance of certain events that occur in our lives. Although we never know for sure, often we have a strong sense of the why. It was at that moment it came to him.

For the next two days as he traveled back to California, he thought of nothing else but how he could design a “better” motorcycle lighting system, — a light that would come back on instantly, instead of taking multiple seconds to reignite, so that others would not suffer the same fate he had almost suffered.

When Stasky experienced those first headlights he had just turned 50. Now almost broke, he embarked upon his new path.

He drew upon his background in audio, using a similar technology to design and create a lighting system that would solve the problem of the inefficient igniting system. After many, many prototypes, his new company Clearwater Lights was birthed to create an innovative lighting system that since that day has saved many lives. But his story doesn’t end there.

An incorrigible adventurer, he also raced cars. The racetracks had a similar problem— an antiquated warning system that was inadequate to warn other racecar drivers of hazards. It was when Stasky witnessed two drivers, friends of his, killed because of this faulty warning system, that he made another vow—create a state of the art warning system.

Within the year he presented a prototype system at Daytona to the racetrack safety committee and his design was enthusiastically adopted as the new standard.

There is more good to the story. It was at Daytona where Stasky met the woman who became his future wife.

I hope you have been inspired by Glenn Stasky’s story. I know I have.

©2016 Mark Susnow

Mark Susnow is a life coach and advisor, speaker to many prestigious organizations, and the author of the soon to be released the Soul of Uncertainty. He integrates what it takes to be successful in today’s world with wisdom revealed to him through years of meditation and yoga. http://www.inspirepossiblity.com; mark@inspirepossibility.com; 415.453.5016

The Ultimate Relationship

February 9th, 2016

The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated.
William James

“You are great, wonderful and the person I’ve always wanted to be with.” Those sweet empowering words remind you that you’re loved and appreciated. We all want that. It’s our natural state to be loving. But with the busyness of our lives we forget what that natural state is and how to be in it. There is nothing better than a great relationship. It reminds us of what’s possible. You feel you belong. You feel empowered. You feel an incredible aliveness.

But it begins with ourselves. Ultimately we have to learn to love ourselves, including our imperfections, which are a big part of who we are. Once we do, it’s easier to accept the imperfections in others and to connect and embrace them.

Then we blossom. It’s our nature, just as it is the nature of the rose, to blossom and share our warm sensual essence. When you are fortunate enough to be in the magnificence of the rose, your senses come alive.

We live in a relational world. On a fundamental level what we all want is to deeply connect with others, but we’re not sure how to go about doing it.

Connection is a path and like most paths, there are challenges along the way. The good news is that connection can be cultivated. Before I embarked upon the coaching path I was a decent connector when I wanted to be, but I didn’t consider it one of my strengths. Over the years I’ve worked at it.

The ability to connect with others opens up a whole new world. When you connect with your heart, body and soul, connection occurs in an instant.

Connection transcends stereotypes and judgments, creating fertile ground for a new dialogue, a dialogue not constrained by history, but open to common ground for a consciousness of possibility.

Connection is the ultimate gift to yourself and to others. When you give of yourself, you receive the ultimate joy.

Let me share with you a few strategies that I have found effective in cultivating more connection in my life. After meditation, I express gratitude for the gift of connection that I have with others. Perhaps in the beginning of this practice I didn’t feel or believe it totally. But over time I’ve noticed that my ability to connect has become a strength.

Being curious is invaluable. In some ways, I’ve transformed being curious into a fun game. Whenever I go to a gathering, I’m curious with whom I’ll connect.

In the last few years I’ve expanded upon this practice. Before I leave on a trip, I wonder about who I’ll have the best connection with, which sets the tone for the entire trip. The synchronicity that occurs is amazing.

A thought deeply resonates within me each time I experience one of those chance encounters that provides a missing piece to the puzzle, a thought that makes greater sense to me now than it ever did. As we continue to evolve, our tribe of kindred souls is ready to meet us, in a place open to possibility unrestrained by judgment. Synchronicity then becomes the norm, rather than the infrequent occurrence.

Fueled by our ability to come from the deep place of love within, we begin the process of fulfilling the deepest craving within that James refers to.

With that in mind, begin your day with that openness by acknowledging yourself. Look in the mirror, smile and say, “You are great, wonderful and the person I’ve always wanted to be with.

You know I love to hear from you. Let me know what’s up for you. Feel free to pass this article onto those in your circle and invite them to become part of the Inspire Possibility family. If you haven’t done so already, become a fan of inspire Possibility on Facebook.

Enjoy the journey.

Mark

The Soul of Uncertainty is coming.

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive-life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes. For more information, www.inspirepossibility.com

The Gift of Patience

February 1st, 2016

Here it is—February. The time has gone by quickly. It seems that will all of the technology at our command, there’s more going on that occupies our minds.

It’s also easy to become distracted, constantly focusing on the next idea or next thing, rather than focusing on what is in the moment.

What’s true is that, even when we’re not in a hurry, we don’t like to be inconvenienced…like waiting in line, or not getting service quick enough, or being put on hold. It’s a bigger list and you know how it shows up in your life.

It’s a fact of life. Life if not always going to happen at the pace you would like it to. It has its own rules. You might have a plan to make your life better, but it’s implementations doesn’t happen overnight. What makes it easier to integrate that plan into your life is learning patience.

You’ll have many opportunities, everyday in fact, to practice developing this mindset. Whenever you are waiting in line, or put off in some way, which as we know is quite often, just notice without judging. What i mean by that is to leave your story behind…your story as to what it means.

Perhaps you notice the quality of your breath. Perhaps you have a conversation with someone, a conversation you wouldn’t have had otherwise. Or perhaps you think about something that puts a smile on your face. Perhaps you notice the sky, the shape of the clouds, the freshness of the air Somewhere there’s a gift. Be open to letting it in.

Walk in freedom—until next time

Journey On

Mark

What Calls You?

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive-life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes. For more information, www.inspirepossibility.com

You can’t Run Away from It!

January 29th, 2016

Ah, that alone time—sometimes you cherish it, sometimes you want to run away from it. Although you can’t run very far without it being with you. The truth is that it’s always with me. In that aloneness, you experience a oneness with all of life, much different than when you’re feeling lonely. When you’re lonely, and disconnected, all kinds of thoughts pass through your mind. You know them—thoughts about the future, about the meaning of what happened yesterday or many years ago, all taking you away from the moment.

When you’re alone and feeling the solitude, cherish the moment. Your mind—uncluttered, free from thoughts that take you away from this moment.

This solitude— feel it all the time, even in the midst of a crowd, even in the midst of the uncertainty in your life. Just being with this moment—no need to go anywhere, or to think about something else. Embrace the aloneness, the solitude and the fullness of life.

If you are familiar with my work, you know I strongly believe that how you start your day sets the tone for the day. With that in mind, begin your day with meditation, and carry the solitude with you as you go about your day.

So there you have it.

Walk in freedom—until next time

Journey On

Mark

“I’m called to inspire others to reignite the spark inside of them that has been dimmed by years of hard work and struggle.”

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes. For more information, www.inspirepossibility.com

Charisma and Other Stuff

January 28th, 2016

Most of us have had the experience of being in the presence of someone who exudes a powerful energy that draws you to them. You’re not quite sure what it is about them. You could be anywhere— and it’s not unusual to even feel this energy before you actually physically see them.

When you actually do notice them, the look is not always the same—as they say, one shape or style doesn’t fit all. Most of the time we think of this energy, this presence, as charisma.

I have been intrigued by these subtle energies and often wondered how we can create more of it in our lives.

We would all agree that energy is a good thing. We feel better when we are energetic. We’re healthier, able to enjoy ourselves more, and able to get more done in less time. And when we’re with another person, we’re able to be totally present with them.

But charisma can be misused. We all know those people who are just plain charismatic no matter what they do, some of whom can be destructive.

But that’s not us. So let’s talk about what we can do to create more energy in our lives. Some of you might already have integrated some of these suggestions into your lives. Perhaps there are one or more new ideas you can take away from this discussion.

1. Exercise: I’m sure you’ve heard it many many time…there’s a reason…It definitely increases your energy.
2. Breathe: Everyday get oxygenated…take some deep breathes…too often during the day, our breathing gets shallow which usually occurs when we’re stressed…deep breathing will help you with minimizing your stress.
3. Daily Practice: Have a daily practice— meditation, Tai Chi or Yoga all create prana or chi, which is another word for life force. And it’s all about life force, isn’t it?
4. Develop a connection with a higher power: A morning practice, like meditation, helps you connect with that power every day which sets the tone for the day.
5. Diet: I’m sure you’ve heard this before. Eat lots of alive fresh food, such as fruits and vegetables. They all contain, lots of water and many of the nutrients our body needs.
6. Passion: Find something you are passionate about. You’ll naturally be energetic and enthusiastic which carries over to everything you’re doing in your life.
7. Awareness of your Environment: Which includes the energy in your house and where you work. Some refer to this as Fung Shui, a Chinese philosophical system which harmonizes one with their surrounding environment.
8. Notice your rhythm and cadence: The phrasing of your words—the way you move. Subtle, but powerful.

So there you have it.

Walk in freedom—until next time

Journey On

Mark

“I’m called to inspire others to reignite the spark inside of them that has been dimmed by years of hard work and struggle.”

JOURNEY ON is a blog dedicated to personal and professional development. Mark Susnow, an executive and life coach, inspires others to experience more fulfillment and success in their life. A former trial attorney for 30 years and musician, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River: Navigating Life’s Changes.

That Ability to Laugh

January 4th, 2016

Welcome to the new year. What does that mean to you? Have you thought about what you wanted to accomplish this year? Or perhaps you thought about what you wanted this year to be about? How about? More joy, fun, laughter, less struggle which includes minimizing the stresses that go along with the struggle—all those good things.

It’s a little different each year. Sometimes we’re determined to make our relationship better, or to create a new one. Yes that elusive significant other. And then there are those times when we focus on developing our careers—an ongoing journey. Or perhaps redefining them. Some years we look forward to simplifying our lives. Nothing to do, but to be with our selves—for some the biggest challenge of all.

When it’s all said or done, probably what is most important, is our ability to laugh and smile. Stuff happens. We’ll hit some of our goals—we’ll have successes, disappointments and the cycle keeps repeating itself. The quality of our relationships at times goes up and down like the stock market. It’s just the way it is. But there is one quality, above all the others, that lightens us and changes our outlook on life. Which is—

That ability to laugh! Priceless…a gift….a laugh a day will keep the doctor away.

Until next time, walk in freedom and have a laugh on me.

JOURNEY ON

“I’m called to inspire others to reignite the spark inside of them that has been dimmed by years of hard work and struggle.”

Mark

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within. Contact him for an initial complimentary session.

You Become Available

December 21st, 2015

The path of impeccability—that place where you take responsibility….you stop making excuses, you have a realization.

You do have time! You can afford it! You make the choice…you ask yourself if you really want to do it. You reassess how you are leading your life. It might mean you stop doing something else. You let go and dive in, perhaps to a place that leads to a whole set of new possibilities—perhaps greater than you had imagined. You know that not doing it, won’t get you there. It’s guaranteed to keep you stuck.

So you reach out—find the time…actually it’s not that hard to find.

You have another realization. You can afford it…perhaps you look at some of your other expenses and let go of some of them.

What this means is that you’re vulnerable. But it’s ok. You’re life was getting kind of flat. And even after all of the effort you wonder if it was worth it. So you decide to stop playing it safe. You become available. You let them in.

Until next time, walk in freedom.

JOURNEY ON

“I’m called to inspire others to reignite the spark inside of them that has been dimmed by years of hard work and struggle.”

Mark

From “the Soul of Uncertainty.” A thought…in the midst of the storm, somewhere in the clouds and in the darkness there is a rainbow. Keep looking for it, and you’ll see it. Our lives are the same way. In the midst of the loose ends and uncertainty in our lives, there are possibilities and opportunities and rainbows. Enjoy them.

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within. Contact him for an initial complimentary session.

On the Path of Impeccability

December 17th, 2015

When you are true to your life purpose, and in alignment with your code pf personal ethics, a shift in consciousness occurs. You are not afraid to embrace your truth and to let others know what that truth is.

On the path of impeccability, you walk in freedom. You can no longer pretend. What you tell yourself and others has to change. You can no longer use as an excuse, I don’t have enough time. You take responsibility as to whether or not you want to do something, or if you want to get together with a particular person.

You’re no longer able to honestly say, I can’t afford it. Instead you have to decide whether the potential benefit is worth what you have to do, or give, to get it. In the process of embracing this new and expanded consciousness, you reclaim your power and honer yourself.

Until next time, walk in freedom.

JOURNEY ON

“I’m called to inspire others to reignite the spark inside of them that has been dimmed by years of hard work and struggle.”

Mark

From “the Soul of Uncertainty.” A thought…in the midst of the storm, somewhere in the clouds and in the darkness there is a rainbow. Keep looking for it, and you’ll see it. Our lives are the same way. In the midst of the loose ends and uncertainty in our lives, there are possibilities and opportunities and rainbows. Enjoy them.

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within. Contact him for an initial complimentary session.

Make Time for the Jollies

December 15th, 2015

There is an expression that I came up with a few years ago…it was actually more than a few years ago—which is Make Time for the Jollies.

What i mean by that expression is to take time everyday to do something that gives you pleasure…we all have things we like to do, but very few of us, make them a priority. Regardless of how busy you are, you can always take a few minutes to do something that is fun…you’ll still have your “to do” list, but taking five or ten minutes or even an hour, won’t get in the way of your completing your list. What you’ll find is that when you are working on your list, whether it’s a mental list or a physical one , you’ll be more efficient and productive and be able to complete it in less time. You’ll also enjoy the process of completion more.

It doesn’t matter so much what it is, it could be a dance class, going to the gym, writing in your journal, going to a yoga or Tai Chi class or taking a walk in the woods…What does matter is that you do something. Every day! Make it a necessity. When I was younger I made time for a run every day. Smiling is a big component.

Having a morning ritual, helps in making the jollies a part of you life. You have the time. You just need the commitment.

Until next time,

JOURNEY ON

“I’m called to inspire others to reignite the spark inside of them that has been dimmed by years of hard work and struggle.”

Mark

From “the Soul of Uncertainty.” A thought…in the midst of the storm, somewhere in the clouds and in the darkness there is a rainbow. Keep looking for it, and you’ll see it. Our lives are the same way. In the midst of the loose ends and uncertainty in our lives, there are possibilities and opportunities and of course rainbows. Enjoy them.

Mark Susnow knows change. He is an executive-life coach, life-discovery guide and recognized thought leader who inspires others to believe in themselves. His enthusiastic and inspiring keynotes on change, leadership and connection thoroughly convey this message to his audiences. A former trial attorney for 30 years, he integrates what it takes to be successful in the world with the inner wisdom unfolded to him through years of yoga and meditation. He is the author of Dancing on the River:Navigating Life’s Changes and Discover the Leader Within. Contact him for an initial complimentary session.


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